This guest article from PsychCentral was written by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. All relationships — especially the ones near and dear to you — take work. But many of us get so wrapped up in our inner worlds and busy lives that we neglect everyone from our partners to our close friends.
Depression is definitely contagious. Here are five prominent attributes of depression that make downer moods easy to catch:
I am fascinated by high profile murder trials that are in the news. I regularly watch Nancy Grace and other shows that follow the process and break down the strategies of the prosecutor and defense. I find it interesting to learn what is admissable and what will not be allowed in evidence, and the forensic science that can reconstruct a crime is amazing. Unfortunately, many of the victims have been murdered at the hand of their spouse or lover.
Tom and Melissa spend their non-working hours fighting about, well, everything wedding-related. Tom is beginning to question whether he really wants to marry Melissa, and Melissa wonders why she never noticed how conventional Tom is. Does he really value his uptight relatives' opinions about the color of her dress more than he cares about her only opportunity to don her dream dress?
Have the cold temps and dark dreary days of winter left you feeling down and out of sorts? If so, your love relationship or marriage might be showing the effects. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is experienced by around 6% of the population in the U.S. but more people suffer from the winter blues.
Let's take a look and determine if some of your favorites are doing you more harm than their escape from reality provides in benefits. I've been surprised lately that so many movies and TV shows are violence, betrayal and fear-based. Unfortunately, that's what sells so it also says a lot about our society, beliefs and stress levels.
Last week I said farewell to my friend Michael, someone who had helped me get sober and stay sober in a happy and satisfied way (you can read my goodbye here). Unfortunately he could not get the same satisfaction and peace that I had and after getting sober many times and getting drunk many more times, he was found dead in his flat.
Perhaps there is someone new in your life. You want to let them know you are falling in love with them but not sure how. Maybe you have been seeing someone for a little while now. You realize that you are ready to deepen the bond or take things to a new level but you don’t want to screw it up. Perhaps there is someone special who has been in your life for a very long time. You are seeking fresh new ways to demonstrate your love and affection, but are drawing a blank. When it comes to communicating love, a generic one size fits all approach simply will not do.
“How can we make good decisions when there is not enough data”? During my seminar few weeks back, I got this question from a gentleman in the audience. As someone giving the seminar I guess I was supposed to be an “expert” on this! Alas, I could not act as the know-all expert, inspired by Brene Brown, I chose to be a human instead – showed them how sub-optimal my own decision making process is! I told them this story.