When Cam in Modern Family is upset for being lumped together with “other mothers” on Mother’s Day, he feels emasculated, and has to prove himself by throwing a football as far as he can. His experience reminded me of all the men out there mothering, and a lot of women fathering. I wonder if there are other fathers out there are feeling like Cam, filling a maternal role yet feeling uncomfortable being acknowledged on Mother’s Day.
I’m a personal development teacher and one of the things I teach about is relationships. I’m about to celebrate my 25th anniversary. I have four adult children, two daughters-in-law and a very close step-daughter. So being a teacher, having my 25th anniversary in a few days and planning to see my family for Mother’s Day this Sunday got me thinking. “I know what ingredients have worked to make my 3rd marriage so very special. And I teach those.
True or false: A person can never be truly satisfied in life without experiencing the joys of parenthood? If you thought “true,” you might not want to read a recent study by researchers Richard P. Eibach and Steven E. Mock. In a paper published in Psychological Science, Eibach and Mock review evidence to suggest that the often touted emotional rewards of parenting are a myth.
I care about current events. The world has become so small that we cannot ignore what is going on around us. And with some events, like the death of Bin Laden, it is virtually impossible to not have headlines looming over our head throughout our day. Though we might not be able to avoid what is going on in the news, we can choose how we engage with our world. For ten years, our military has been on a brave mission to put an end to a reign of terror. Mission accomplished. But how do we choose to move on from here? Check out this post,
Every couple has their own universal complaints about one another, but one of the most common complaints I hear from women is how their husband or boyfriend never does "this" or always does "that” and the woman becomes the tragic victim. A very popular example is (and yes, you can hear my own confession about my own foible in this video) "I took care of EVERYTHING" in a certain scenario, "while he just sat there and he didn't
I came across a NY Times article recently on self-compassion, and how people who are more compassionate with themselves have less depression, anxiety, and tend to be more resilient, optimistic, and happier. So it got me thinking about how we encourage self-esteem in children, yet we don’t spend as much time and energy on cultivating self-compassion. What does it mean to be self-compassionate and how can we teach children how to become more compassionate?
At Mars Venus Coaching we talk a lot about oxytocin and its many benefits. There’s nothing like the rush of oxytocin to fuel your day. As a mom, as a daughter, as a friend, as a business woman—it doesn’t matter what title is attached to your name as a female, what matters is knowing how to produce oxytocin for yourself.
Do you ever wonder if we’re doomed to repeat our mistakes over and over? I’ve been commenting on articles from discrimination in the work place to the Royal Wedding taking place. During my last stress management seminar with business owners, the topic naturally arose about how relevant Mars Venus Coaching material is in the workplace.
I watched way too much daytime TV recently. Dr. Phil did a whole show featuring “the other woman”. Oprah interviewed Shania Twain who was talking about her new book where she details her painful divorce following her husbands affair. Typically I would avoid that kind of programming, but I deluded myself into thinking it was “research” for my work. My “research” left me feeling disturbed more then educated.
Although this may sound totally counter-intutitive having a hot, sexy or too perfect girlfriend or woman is one of the leading causes of male arousal disorders or what is more commonly known as erectille dysfunction. Men's failure to perform, when it's purely psychological has a lot to do with wanting to impress, please and perform perfectly for the woman who they see as perfect. She may be the picture of perfection, i.e. model-beautiful or she may be the one you want to be with forever.