‘If we all put our problems into a hat and then picked out of it someone else’s problems, we’d all ask for our own back.’ In this Facebook/Twitter/Social Media world that we live in, it’s easy to get caught up in the game of “compare and despair”. You know what I mean? You see your “friends” (some of them you’ve never even met in person! posting pictures of their amazing vacations)Envy Are you counting other people’s blessings instead of your own?
Most of my favorite relationships in the 13 years since I've been divorced have come through personal ads. Since I can ask directly for all the qualities I want when I place my ad, and since “collecting people” is my favorite hobby, this way of finding special persons has worked well for me. I've never found a perfect man--my ideal lover list contains 26 entries, from nonnegotiable items like playfulness, honesty and warmth, to optional items like a hairy chest. But I have found people who have remained close friends long after the romanc
When two people are just starting a relationship, they do their best to present only their best and most attractive attributes to the other party. They want to show their most favorable attributes to each other and work hard to meet the needs of the partner. They want to appear strong, confident and willing to compromise. Next Level of Love
Dating is a complicated ritual that most of us have engaged in at some point in our lives. And while many of us may find it awkward, tedious, and even downright frustrating, we nonetheless continue to do it because the drive to connect with another individual is so strong. But what are we looking for in our dating experience? What exactly is our motivation to go on a date? Good questions. And as you might suspect, men and women have decidedly different takes on this issue.
Be honest. Are you over your ex? If not, and you’re trying to date…I strongly urge you to slow your roll before you try jumping into another relationship. A lot of clients I see, are bundles of scattered emotions only because they didn’t take the time needed to heal and process their last experience. They in turn, take that bundle into their next relationship and with each relationship, the bundle becomes bigger and more deformed. Being single helps you understand who you are.
It may be something you really don't want to think about, but it's absolutely true: there are good liars and bad liars, and all sorts of in-between liars. By that I don't mean liars who are good people, I mean they are good at lying, and vice versa. When it comes to recognizing a cheating husband, it all depends on which part of the liar spectrum your particular liar lands on.
When we are in love, we don't often think about practical things like chores and childcare. This is important for all couples but perhaps even more so for the career woman who will not do as much childcare or domestic chores as the stay at home mom. Of course there are other options like nannies and daycare but if you want two parent involvement you must consider this issue before you join your life with someone.
In the past some men might have associated the term 'Feminist' with an angry woman who hates men. Today the term 'Feminist' hopefully brings up an image of a person (man or woman) who respects women's rights and appreciates independent, strong women. One study showed 'dating a feminist' is now a turn on and findings revealed that Feminism improves romance and the quality of relationships. Men of feminist partners reported more stable relationships and greater sexual satisfaction.
“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will either find yourself or lose yourself.” ~A Course In Miracles
In my experience as a dating coach, some men and women are still pretty traditional. Many singles are confused about gender roles when dating and some men and women are consciously departing from traditional gender stereotypes in order to create more equal romantic relationships. In the past, women were attracted to men who could protect and provide and men were attracted to beautiful fertile, nurturing women. Men were reportedly more focused on work and women upon relationships.