Several of my dating coaching clients have contacted me this week feeling crummy about online dating. They are tired of the emailing and the men disappearing. They are bored with guys who don’t follow through or ask for a second date. As a dating coach for women in midlife, I totally understand how disheartening it can be. I myself went through this at 40 to find the man who became my adorable husband of 12 years now.
Let’s admit it. For as exciting and fun as first dates can be, when it comes down to it, it’s hard not to feel nervous and a bit self-conscience before one. With so many unknowns lying ahead (what will we talk about? will he/she be into me? will I be into him/her?), your levels of self-confidence can easily take a nose dive if you’re not careful. This is a problem because, without a doubt, the single most attractive thing in a potential partner is some well-placed confidence.
Dear Coach Steph, I was dating this guy for 6 months, and everything was going great. But, we never said that we were exclusive, so, I started seeing someone else. Anyway, now I am confused. I still like the first guy more, but he found out that I was seeing someone and we had a big fight. I told him that I didn’t care what he thought about me seeing the other guy…but I lied. I really wanted him to say that he wanted to be with me, but I was too scared to say that,
Working out together as a couple is the best! You’re both doing what you enjoy, releasing endorphins, getting healthy, what could be better?!…Let me answer that- going home and having sex! YES. I have talked to so many clients and universally it seems men are a yes and women are a no – most of the time? Why? Well it’s simple, women are too caught up in not feeling sexy enough and worrying about their smell.
Is your relationship compass off? Do you find yourself attracting the wrong type of guy over and over again? If this sounds familiar, then your relationship compass might be in need of a calibration. Just as a compass points North due to the internal magnet that aligns itself to the natural magnetic field of the earth, your relationship compass works off of magnetic attraction – and I know you know what I mean here. You are just magnetically drawn to him – the way he looks at you, the way he talks, the way he moves.
They say there’s a shot for everything these days…literally! What lengths would you go to increase pleasure? Well now women (sorry guys – you just get Viagra for now) can get a shot to increase the sensitivity of their Grafenberg Spot, affectionately known as the G-Spot. I checked out the website and to my surprise there are quite a few doctors over the nation as well as other countries who can provide this shot!
Before you can fall in love with someone else, you need to fall in love with yourself. Only then will you be capable of loving someone else. Your willingness to look deeply and honestly at yourself is the key to unlocking the door to your own heart. The depth of the conversation you have with yourself will determine how deeply you will come to know and love yourself. This is a journey of the self and by the self. No one can do it for you.
We all have the natural desire to look good to other people. We want others to see us as intelligent, attractive, fun, successful, confident and, well, I could go on. It's in our DNA; how others think of us is tied to our survival. In the past, if you weren't looked at favorably you could be ousted from the protection of the group and forced to find your own way.
There’s no one reason couples get divorced, but unfortunately there are multiple effects. Aside from the psychological and emotional stress divorce can inflict on the couple, alone, it can also deliver a huge blow to children in the family. A new study by UK’s Economic and Social Research Council found that children of divorced parents were more likely to develop social and psychological problems as adults than those whose parents stayed married.
With the recent disclosures from General David Petraeus — who resigned as head of the CIA after admitting to an extramarital affair with his biographer — stacked on top of all the other recent political figures who have cheated on their spouses, I'm asking the question, "What are men looking for when they cheat?"