Most people want to be connected with someone special in their lives. But if people really want this, why do so many complain of feeling lonely and disconnected from their partner? What needs to happen for them to connect? Disconnection Happens When…
Dear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This is causing a problem in our relationship because I am putting up a wall between us because of my parents.
In my practice, I see many couples with concerns around keeping the romance alive in their marriage. If I were to determine the single most detrimental thing one can do in damaging one’s relationship, it would be to not pay attention to one’s spouse. I recently read a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh in which he says, ” When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there?
This morning I picked up the phone to talk with one of my beloved clients, let’s call her Kathy. If you were to meet her, she looks like a strong, independent, confident woman on the outside. She owns her own business, is beautiful, and is also single. It sounds like she has all the “material” to have found a man by now, right?
Spending a week in Greenwich Village in New York City three years ago was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I was on Christopher Street, the literal birthplace of the gay rights movement. While some of you may wonder why this so deeply touched a married (at the time) heterosexual mother of two, others of you understand the importance of this to me with no question.
I always said if I were going to be a stripper, my soundtrack for the main stage would include Nine Inch Nails, Metallica, and a little AC/DC. Although I can't explain why the grungy guitar riffs and pounding baselines put me in the mood for a strip tease, a recent study might; apparently there is a link between sexual arousal and music. Because it helps us connect with our sexuality and revs up our libido, it can actually play a greater role in sexual arousal than physical touch.
Most men do not cheat because they don't love you anymore. Men cheat because they want more variety in their sex lives. Some complain of being bored. They want to feel adored by their partners; they want to asert their freedom; they are tired of disappointing you; they want a partner who places them at the center of their life, and they no longer feel like the priority in yours.
In a recent interview, Angus T. Jones, who plays Jake Harper in the wildly popular television show Two And A Half Men, called the show "filth" and encouraged people to stop watching it. And while he has since apologized for using the word "filth," I agree with Jones to the extent that his show portrays a family whose members share a common inability to maintain coupled relationships.
I got a question the other day from a reader about why all the men she meets on dating sites are emotionally unavailable or otherwise damaged goods. A lot of women experience frustration with online dating because a lot of the men they encounter seem to be creepy, losers, sociopaths, or not relationship material. Why is this? Is there some kind of secret website that all the good men go to?