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How To Improve Your Communication Skills

How To Improve Your Communication Skills

If you ask most couples what the key to success is, they will probably tell you it’s communication.  Even if you do not consider yourself particularly good at communicating, the good news is that it is a skill that can be learned, and by trying to become a better communicator, you do nothing but improve relationships – with loved ones, friends and co-workers. Below are several suggestions for strengthening the health of your relationships through good communication.

Should A Woman Offer To Pay On A First Date?

Should A Woman Offer To Pay On A First Date?

My recent first date with Mr. Awkward was seemingly going well. We exchanged playful banter and he even used the “flirtatious foreshadowing effect” – insinuating that on our next date, we should check out a place near his hometown. I would have bet all my money that a second date was inevitable. Then the bill came. I innocently offered to contribute and he stuttered through accepting my offer, tossing me the check and mumbling that I can give whatever I want. As Mr.

7 Step Guide to Never Having an Experience of God

7 Step Guide to Never Having an Experience of God

Are you one of those people who secretly wish you believed in God? Or are you one of those people who believe in God in an abstract way rather than a personal way? Are you actually doing everything you can to never have an experience of God, while denying that this is what you are doing? Now you can continue your spiritual disconnection on purpose, rather than doing it unconsciously! 1. Keep your mind closed to learning about yourself

How To Spice Up Your Relationship: Be Good Friends

How To Spice Up Your Relationship: Be Good Friends

A friend is someone who has your back.  Someone who knows you and likes you and regards you with affection. Someone who sees the positive side of you even when you don't.  It is someone you enjoy. And when this is reciprocated there is a felt sense of 'weness' versus 'what can I get out of this?"  It's not just about me but also what might you be feeling and needing. We take the other into consideration. And this can make a difference in your love life.

Solving the Secrets of Your Man

Solving the Secrets of Your Man

I recently discovered the work on Alison Armstrong – who for 15 years has been honing her message on the important differences in men and women that manifest in the heterosexual marriage in typical and often frustrating ways.  Her wisdom is found in the freedom that comes when we understand each other instead of blame and accuse each other.  Last week I was sharing some of these ideas with a small group of grad therapy students.  One of the men who is newly married, lit up and said, “Oh my gosh, that happene

Thanks Anyway, Jerry Maguire!

Thanks Anyway, Jerry Maguire!

I’m not a big Valentine’s Day fan. Not because I don’t like a little bit of romance, flowers, or chocolates it’s just that I don’t like the Hallmark Card, bad stuffed animal version of romance that lands on one day a year. Can’t we be romantic more frequently or at least not on the same day as everyone else? Call me the romance scrooge but I really don’t like a lot of our cultures versions of love and romance. Maybe I’m a skeptic but if Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries can’t work it out then what chance do the rest of us have?

Improve Your Sex Life in 10 minutes a day!

Improve Your Sex Life in 10 minutes a day!

People are pretty busy these days, and I bet you are too. There’s always so much to do that actually taking the time to go out and learn how to keep your sex life hot, is a fantasy in and of itself. You might not even have a high quality sex shop nearby that offers live classes, so it’s only been books and DVDs to show you some tricks and tips.