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7 Myths About Arguing & How To Avoid It

7 Myths About Arguing & How To Avoid It

In my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social expectations (expectations the people around you have about marriage) and myths (common beliefs not based on fact.) Myths and Expectations about Fighting

Can You Have Sex Without Love & Is It Healthy?

Can You Have Sex Without Love & Is It Healthy?

  Helen Fisher, “Anatomy of Love and The Sex Contract.,” is required reading in many graduate programs for future Marriage and Family Therapists. Helen Fisher is a Biological Anthropologist who has studied the human brain in love. Some of her findings indicate that we are genetically predisposed in certain ways depending upon whether we were born female or male, and that chemistry does, in fact, play an important role.

Spice Up Your Relationship

Spice Up Your Relationship

Does your relationship need some spicing up? It is always good to try something new, keep it fresh and exciting right? Well, I gave something a try that was veeery new for me. My husband loved it. Here is an excerpt from my latest memoir, Hearts on the Line.

Mars Venus Measures Who is more on Fire

Mars Venus Measures Who is more on Fire

As we get older we start to feel the results of ageing caused by the decrease of hormone production. By the time men and women have reached the age of 50, we have lost at least half of their hormone production. For so many women who have chosen to bypass hormone replacement therapy for alternative therapy; the information found in John Gray’s book Venus on Fire Mars on Ice is highly useful. Teaches you to teach your body produce the good hormones naturally.

How Much Sleep is Enough?

How Much Sleep is Enough?

My wife is amazed at our differences in sleep habits. I'm usually good for about 5-6 hours. She, however, has far healthier sleep habits and is able to step away from distractions at night like work responsibilities, tv, email, etc in order to get a night's sleep that allows her to be functional throughout the day. She's even able to do it without coffee, which she gave up for tea a few years back (insanity to me). The fact remains, however, that our lifestyle choices and the culture that we live in demand less and less sleep from us.

Blindsided: When You Date a "Runaway Man"

Blindsided: When You Date a "Runaway Man"

You can misread a man’s intentions and character when you've only dated for a short time. Even the most savvy women can fall for what I call a “runaway man” and not realize it until it’s too late. As much as you would like to believe in love at first sight and believe that the great chemistry you feel with a new man is lasting — the truth is that when you date it takes time to truly know someone.

Be A Prepared Scout for A Good Relationship

Be A Prepared Scout for A Good Relationship

Aside from being a relationship expert in private practice, I also teach at a local university.  Recently, I had the opportunity to teach a class on Relationships and Marriage. A great deal of the material is devoted to providing proper expectations. One of the students said that she felt the course should be mandatory for all college students. I believe many of us in the field would agree with her.