Last week, my article on Spencer Burnett was strictly business. And, while that was all fine and good, what I’ve really been looking forward to it this week and this post. Why the anticipation? Because, for as much as I appreciate business talk, anyone who knows me can attest to the fact that there are few things I love more than some dirty talk. So, this week, I’m dropping the business and moving on to pleasure.
As much as divorce can be devastating for parents, it is often more so for kids. They may not show signs of trauma in ways the parents would expect, but it doesn't mean they're not being traumatized by the people in their lives.
Why you should love with integrity We tend to journey from relationship to relationship without unpacking the excess baggage of heartaches, sadness, disappointment, anger, etc., accumulated from love. We drag these heavy bags on dates and into relationships, not realizing that the weight of what we carry will keep showing up until we unpack and release.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Raising awareness about a serious issue that grows in the darkness behind closed doors is lifesaving. The first part of awareness might be understanding the mind and behavior of a victim. It isn't what you think it is. I will never forget the day. It was a the kind of bright Autumn day that only happens in story books. My neighbor and I were enjoying a glass of wine on her deck when she spilled it. “Lisa, there’s something I want to talk to you about.”
Have you ever wanted to just “give up” on men? Have you suffered through enough awful dates that you’ve lost your faith that there are any good men out there any more? If so, you’re not alone. Recently, I was coaching a very accomplished woman. She is attractive, toned, highly educated and has a great, open laugh. She had been through a long marriage, which ended abruptly, rudely, painfully and lingeringly, and she began to lose her faith in men.
She is an amazing woman. She is mid 50’s. An accomplished therapist and yoga teacher. Well-read. Wise. Funny. Urbane. Yet when she came to me for a coaching session about her online communication with men, she said that all she was attracting online were mediocre men. Not the leaders she desired. Not the strong capable men she was sure was out there in New York.
Women say they want a quality man - a man who is self-aware, tender, funny and who will devote their hearts, minds and resources to an enduring love. Here’s the problem… A lot of women, at the same time, decline to take the steps to become the woman who would naturally attract that kind of quality man. Few have hit this target better than Lori Gottlieb in her sobering book, “Marry Him: The Case for Mr. Good Enough,” when she said that desire has become the new “deserve.”
I remember being a single girl and receiving an invitation to a wedding, knowing mostly couples would attend. As much as I would look on the positive side and think 'I might meet Mr. Right there' (because that was always in the back of my mind), the reality was that my married friends would all have each other, and I would once again feel like the lonely fifth wheel.