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Break-up Grief Myth 1 - "I know how you feel."

It felt like my heart was broken, shattered like a figurine suddenly knocked off the shelf. I should have, but I didn’t see it coming. I felt lost and alone. Hopeless and grieving. I felt sad and guilty that my children were hurting so badly and nothing I could do could make it better. I couldn't figure out what to do next. I didn’t know who I was anymore.  Sometimes I'd wake up in a panic in the night, afraid of ... I don't even know what I was afraid of. So when my neighbor said "I know how you feel Terri ..." I almost came apart. HOW on earth could she possibly know how I felt? I didn't even know! And if she did know, how did she survive? I heard the same thing, over and over and over again.... for years!

Don't Ever Let Your Heart Get Hardened

Don't Ever Let Your Heart Get Hardened

Have you ever had a song, one that you haven’t heard in years, just start playing in your head?  It happened to me the other day, and I realized I was actually singing it softly to myself. It was a song that used to be one of my favorites back in my single days, and it had been my mantra many times after a devastating break up.  I’d long since forgotten it, but at the time, I would belt out the lyrics at the top of my lungs (often with tears rolling down my face) whenever I was dr

Guys and Dolls

Guys and Dolls

     Early doll-playing encourages the psychological skill of projection of potential and personality into an inert doll. Young girls learn to bring things to life via our own imaginations. These capacities can brighten and enrich the feminine inner psyche. Yet, dating men to assess them as potential husbands, we have to 'receive' the data and signals from them: Receiving is the psychological opposite of projection! Woe to women with wishful thinking who can only see the potential or positive qualities they want to see.

Texting and Relationships: Are You Keeping Him Interested or Driv

Texting and Relationships: Are You Keeping Him Interested or Driv

The art of texting in dating and relationships is a skill on which most of us could improve. In the age of constant contact via social media and especially texting, there are some Dating with Dignity guidelines to successfully navigate this world within your relationships. When it comes to texting and relationships, there’s a fine line between keeping him interested and driving him away. So are you guilty of over-texting your guy? Here are a few ways to find out:

Martyr Mamas and the Concrete Coat of Shoulds

Martyr Mamas and the Concrete Coat of Shoulds

I’m sure it started earlier than this but I began to notice it when I was pregnant with my first child. “You shouldn’t drink wine, or eat peanut butter or shell fish.  Don’t gain more than 30 pounds (which I misunderstood to mean per month vs. the whole pregnancy).”  “You should read aloud to your baby in vitro so that they will be able to read earlier.” “You shouldn’t be stressed out when you are pregnant, it’s bad for the baby.”

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Hilary Swank's marriage to ex-husband Chad Lowe did NOT survive the curse. Could yours?

Could Your Relationship Survive The 'Oscar Curse'?

The Oscar nominations are out, inevitably leaving some nominees wondering whether they will fall victim to the so-called, "Oscar curse": the breakup of a marriage or relationship when one partner out-succeeds the other.

Ten Ways to Take Care of You in 2013

Ten Ways to Take Care of You in 2013

  Ten Ways to Take Care of You Many of our lives are centered on taking care of the needs of everyone around us aside from ourselves.  We are running around taking care of kids, our bosses, our husbands/wives, pets, friends, co-workers, parents etc.  Sometimes the responsibilities we have in life feel like an overwhelming burden.  Because of all of these responsibilities we end up forgetting to have fun and to enjoy life.  We cater to being responsible before we cater to being hap

3 Wedding Planning Tips; A Therapist's Perspective

3 Wedding Planning Tips; A Therapist's Perspective

As a couples therapist having worked with many engaged couples over the years, I probably view engagements and weddings differently than most.  Society encourages us to envision a perfect day, a gorgeous party, an expensive flowing dress, and the fairy tale beginning of a perfect life.  

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Is your child a total nightmare?

8 Ways To Ruin Your Kids

Most parents really want to be good parents, but since most parents don't take parenting classes, they inadvertently get a lot of things wrong. This tongue-in-cheek article is designed to help you avoid the pitfalls parents have made since the dawn of time.