“Why,” you may ask, “should I want to maintain a good relationship with my ex? We are splitting up. We don’t like each other. In fact, I am so angry that I can’t even imagine a “good” relationship. What does that even look like??” Here’s why: if you have a child together you will be seeing each other forever and though it may be hard to imagine today, you may also have grandchildren in common some day.
I was obsessed with the idea of love when I was a little girl. Love was Shaun Cassidy gazing at me with his heart-stopping hazel eyes from the poster on my wall or the beautifully coiffed Andy Gibb serenading me from one of my first-ever 45’s. Love was Christopher Atkins in his tiny Tarzan-like loin cloth hunting food for Brooke Shields on a deserted island. Love was bad-boy-in-leather, Danny, stealing the heart of pretty-in-pearls Sandy. Love was heart-stopping, pulse racing, can’t-get-enough-of-it-love.
If you are single and ready to date, number one rule is to not feel any resentment with your past relationships. This rule is important especially for women, because after one relationship has ended we have to give a chance and open up our hearts for the new one to thrive; otherwise we tend to repeat the same mistake again. Give yourself a chance to fall in love again. Yours truly AstroCoach
When you watch TV, your favorite show on your iPad or look through a magazine, one thing appears very clear. Others are having great sex. If you are feeling as though yours doesn’t compare, you may begin wondering what is wrong with your sex life. This would be an error in your thinking, because TV sex, magazine sex, and other media forms of sex are rarely true. They are airbrushed and taken in short, carefully scripted clips. There is no passion on the set, and the actors don’t have bad breath, stinky socks, or bad timing.
So you have been married for many years and you now find yourself in your late 40s and 50s in the unexpected situation of getting a divorce. When you got married you probably thought that this would be forever, and now you probably find yourself, hurt, angry and probably a bit stunned. I have a couple of clients in at this age who find themselves somewhat lost, somewhat bewildered - with their dreams of a perceived “stable” future as a pipe dream.
Why, I asked my mirror image, did the sighting of a UFH (unwanted facial hair) inspire the same level of fear and loathing as a dead rodent?
California recently became the first state in the nation to ban conversion therapy for LGBT people. This good news has caused me to remember my own coming out process and how difficult that was.
There are lists of questions I ask as a matchmaker. There are the boring questions such as “what do you do for a living” and “do you want children” to the deal breakers “do you smoke, drink, listen to country music” and then the fun questions. Fun questions are the topics you share with your girlfriends after two cosmos, though you’re sharing yours with a stranger in her matchmaking office all in the search for love. These are the stories that make YOU the perfect match – for someone!
I so appreciate getting specific feedback on my blogs for a number of reasons. The most obvious is that it lets me know that people are actually reading them! Since I write to share what I’m passionate about in the hopes of inspiring and educating others, it’s always nice to know that someone has taken time out of their busy schedule to read what I’ve written.