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What If The Teacher Is The Bully?

What If The Teacher Is The Bully?

As a child & family therapist who has been in practice for over 15 years, it has been surprising how many children and families present with a depressed or anxious child only to find out that a contributing part of the problem is the way the child is being treated by their school teacher.  So much focus and emphasis has been put on peer bullying, and while it is certainly a worthy problem that needs to be addressed, I’ve come to believe that focus also needs to be put on bullying

How Do You Date A Divorced Guy? Think BEERS

How Do You Date A Divorced Guy? Think BEERS

Now I’m not talking about knowing which beer has the most alcohol content so you can get him drunk and have your way with him. Nor am I suggesting giving him his favorite beer as a birthday or Christmas gift. On second thought that’s not a bad idea. Rather, “BEERS” signifies a change of mind; relate to the experience from the divorce man’s point of view to improve your dating success. The enduring fights, false accusations, financial stress, reduced time with kids and a host of other issues can be more dramatic than a Shakespearian play.

Lover or Spouse - Who Should I Choose?

Lover or Spouse - Who Should I Choose?

“I’ve never loved anyone the way I love her. I never knew I could feel like this. So deep. Fulfilling. Amazing. I can tell her anything; my dreams, my fears, my strengths, my flaws.” John spoke slowly but fervently as he explained his relationship with Sheila . It was not his idea to visit with me; he had come because another friend asked him to do so.

Take Back Your Power And Enjoy The Holidays

Take Back Your Power And Enjoy The Holidays

About this time every year people start to get jittery about the holidays.  There is so much angst about it that we start to wonder what it's all about. For some it's the emotions that get triggered about having to get together with family, the expectations that they fear won't get met....again...., the reliving of past hurts and rejections, the hopes that all the bad things that happen every year maybe won't occur this time.

What Hurricane Sandy Can Teach Us About Love [EXPERT]
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What Hurricane Sandy Can Teach Us About Love

Hurricane Sandy has brought a lot pain and heartache to the East Coast. For the rest of us who are physically untouched by the storm, we can't help but feel for the people who've lost their homes and their way of life.

Emotional Differences with Men and Woman

Emotional Differences with Men and Woman

You may wonder how you became so emotionally different from your mate. If we start at the beginning, God created all embryos to begin life “female” in nature with the fetus starting out very similar in all areas of the brain and body.  The brain was created with two sides that have separate functions that work together with a massive intertwining of nerve fibers allowing both sides to function beautifully together.  Approximately, the seventh week of pregnancy a strong dose of the hormone, testosterone, covers the male fetus to masculinize the body.  This hormo

Diabetes is Not Who I am

Diabetes is Not Who I am

Many people who develop Diabetes or other chronic diseases, become angry and resentful.  While these feelings may seem appropriate, until a person accepts their disease and takes responsibility in managing it, the disease controls them rather than the other way around.  Diabetes requires a great deal of education as well as time, effort and money in order to control the blood sugar and avoid secondary complications.  Patients often receive excellent advise about diet, exercise, and appropriate medication.  Often, they ignore their spiritual and emotional needs and let

Your Vision Can Become Reality

Your Vision Can Become Reality

I recently had a therapy client return to me after her marriage of 10 years fell apart.  Needless to say, she was devastated by her husband’s decision to end their relationship in pursuit of another.  She felt so betrayed and her future bankrupted by his selfish decision that she had lost all direction as to where and who she wanted to be in life.  Sitting in front of me, she admitted that she felt as though she were floundering and unable to gain traction in any way.  As a therapist, I provided her with emotional support and psychological comfort.  As a co

What's The Secret To Being A Great Parent? (EXPERT)

What's The Secret To Being A Great Parent? (EXPERT)

There are no secrets to being a ‘good’ parent. There are no truly “new” ideas out there. It’s all about a few basic principles: respect, responsibility, truth, flexibility, resilience, courage. Show it in words and actions so your kids know exactly how it looks and sounds. Those are the building blocks. Do them with greater and greater frequency and watch things change.

A Little Less Shame, A Lot More Love

A Little Less Shame, A Lot More Love

We can learn so much from our pets, in their innocence and purity of heart. They enjoy every moment, they are always excited about the future, and, most of all, they are completely shameless. They live in the present moment, carry no guilt or negative emotions over their actions of the past and, no matter what, they love well. My beautiful puppy Ethan thinks nothing of rolling over and exposing his soft underbelly to be rubbed, whether to me or a complete stranger. He is not ashamed to show who he is, or ask for what he wants.