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Secrets to Making Romantic Holiday Dreams Come True

Secrets to Making Romantic Holiday Dreams Come True

You know that busy two-week stretch leading up to "Happy New Year," right?  Well, isn't it supposed to be a nonstop party; a string of mistletoe inspired kisses; a joyous reveal of extravagant gifts?  Then why does January 2nd herald so many choruses of, “Thank goodness it’s over?”  And why do the shiny jingle bells of love, which hold so much promise early in the holiday season, seem tarnished by January?  I suggest it’s because most of us have set ourselves up for holiday disappointments, encouraged by movies, media and the merc

Holidays, And 7 Other Things To Change Post-Divorce

Holidays, And 7 Other Things To Change Post-Divorce

You know how people and their dogs often look alike? Sometimes they even seem to have the same personality. It can be that way with spouses as well. Live together long enough and before you know it you eat the same food, dress the same way and do the same things. It's easy to lose yourself in the relationship, subjugating your wants and needs in the name of peace and harmony. I'm not saying that's a bad thing.

Memories From A Perfect Christmas Ten Years Ago

Memories From A Perfect Christmas Ten Years Ago

I’m having a perfect day today, and wondering why I don’t create more perfect days for me. It’s Christmas, my kids and I spent Christmas Eve together, and I am absolutely luxuriating in doing my thing. For breakfast I enjoyed my Great Harvest Bread Company shortbread—every taste is a dreamy experience. I called my Dad, 89, and agreed how blessed we all are to be able to walk and talk and see and hear. I told him that I’ll put his Christmas $100 in a special envelope in my billfold.

Are You People Pleasing Your Way Out Of An Orgasm?

Are You People Pleasing Your Way Out Of An Orgasm?

The age old habit of people pleasing is not dead.  Women are still trained to play nice, or run the risk of being rejected, in and out of the bedroom. Is your favorite positon people pleasing style?  If any of these scenarios ring true, you might just need a polite power adjustment. You feel guilty because your orgasm is taking too long. Playing nice rarely has rewards, in real life. If you don’t show you matter, how will your lover respect your needs or get good at making you come?

Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon

Dear Dr. Romance: I Have Strong Feelings for My Plastic Surgeon

Dear Dr. Romance: I saw you on the web and thought I would ask you about my attraction to my plastic surgeon. I am almost 50, and have been having procedures done for 6 months now. He is my age and married with 2 school-age children and a younger wife. I have very strong feelings for him and NO, it is not transference. I have felt that before while in therapy and this is different.

5 Tips To Make Your New Years Resolutions Stick

5 Tips To Make Your New Years Resolutions Stick

The New Year is right around the corner and with that comes the opportunity for you to create some big changes in your life. Let’s face it, most of us make all sorts of resolutions when the New Year rolls around and most times, they never really stick. As Chicago’s resident gay dating coach, this time of year is always fairly busy for me because I have guys who really want to make changes towards finding their ultimate happiness.

Ho Ho Holiday Sex-A Sexy Secret You Can't Get From Santa

Ho Ho Holiday Sex-A Sexy Secret You Can't Get From Santa

Need to spark up your sex life to ring in a happy new year?  If you're not having sex leading to orgasm at least twice each week in a committed relationship, then you're being cheated out of the health and longevity benefits of sexual healing.  Good news:  You can change that by using a sexy secret that rekindles the passion, romance and sexual healing you deserve in your relationship. What is this sexy secret?

Worst New Year’s Resolution EVER & 3 That Will Change Your Life

Worst New Year’s Resolution EVER & 3 That Will Change Your Life

Each year millions of women (and men) vow to lose weight.  Apparently, only about 5% of them succeed for any length of time.   From my observations, the ones that don’t succeed spend the rest of the year obsessing about their weight and their lack of weight loss success.   How many more years of your life do you want to spend thinking about your weight, clothes size, number on a scale, or your next diet?  What fabulous things are you missing out on because you’ve given so much of your energy to either dieting or cheating on your diet?

10 Ways to Create Parenting Miracles out of Molecules

10 Ways to Create Parenting Miracles out of Molecules

When I was a child, it seemed like every adult in my zip code had an uncanny skill for making a “mountain out of a molehill.” In other words, of taking the smallest shred of negativity and amplifying all the tyranny and rottenness that shred of negativity may have implied. Before I go any further, let me give credit where credit is due. Exaggeration—the ability to weave a grand story out of next to nothing—is a very creative endeavor. It takes a keen eye, creative determination, and a lofty ability to wax poetic on all that is wrong.