Parents are expert Jugglers. With all the balls to keep in the air - from academics to sports, social events to finding time to sit down together for a meal - its no wonder we get into playing the Blame Game with a spouse or co-parent when something from our schedule *Splats* on the ground. There IS another way. Effectively implementing one single tool is a sure-fire way to save you friction with your fellow co-parent (current or ex), and have you and your family accomplishing more with less stress.
My client, like so many gay men, is convinced that without a gym-buff body, he is unlovable and doomed to be alone for the rest of his life.
Once again, I will spend my week encouraging many of my therapy clients to tune into Downton Abbey. Not for the fabulous fashion or the historical intrigue, but for the remarkable extent to which the challenges faced by the show's characters in the hypothetical 1921 British countryside reflect the challenges I hear about every day.
Last week I asked my children, “How can I be a better mom to you?” I got the idea from a friend who had asked her daughter the same question. Her daughter, who is in high school, said “Can we read together at night?” How great is that? I was sure that my children would ask for things like more screen time, less rules, messy rooms, and more spending money. Many moms that I talk to don’t think they are doing a good job as parents. They are sure that they are ruining their children in some dramatic fashion and that othe
A new year is a time to celebrate! Skip the confetti, hats, and horns if you want, but don’t pass up this opportunity to celebrate the efforts you made last year to improve your Money Relationship™. Sure, you may have nagged your spouse about spending, skipped some Money Huddles™, spent too much on the holidays, … but the new year is a clean slate.
Dr. Christiane Northrup, a noted author and gynecologist, speaks about the topic of grief after abortion in her revised edition of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom (2010). A former abortion doctor herself, Northrup takes the bold step of agreeing that women need a chance to grieve a voluntary pregnancy termination.
Intimacy. In a romantic relationship, it is a sacred bond that requires openness and vulnerability. It requires the courage to express the deepest parts of yourself, knowing that you can truly trust the other person.
Every morning, when I’m hugging and kissing Isabelle good bye as she is leaving for school, we have a little ritual. I ask her 4 questions: 1. Who is worthy of everything wonderful? (She answers, “I am worthy of everything wonderful!) 2. Who loves and accepts herself EXACTLY as she is, right now? (She answers, “I love and accept myself EXACTLY as I am right now!)
Many divorcees ask the question, “How long should I wait before dating after divorce?” The answer varies for each individual and can be summed up as simply as stating that when you have the desire to begin dating again, the timing is right for you. If you are not ready to date, there is no desire and the thought of dating may even repulse you.
When I first met my now husband Noah, who I affectionately refer to as “Walking Love” for his great ability to give love fully and freely, my love quotient – my capacity for receiving love -- was the size of a pea. Which meant that although I had finally manifested a man into my life that could offer the love that I had yearned for in other relationships, I was unable to let all the love in. At times, he and his love were so much to take in, that my stunted capacity to receive love would become completely overloaded.