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When Mean Girls & Boys Become Mean Adults

When Mean Girls & Boys Become Mean Adults

My client found it unbelievable.  "Here I am 37 years old,  a wife, a mom, a nurse valued by patients and staff, and I am hurt -- no, correct that, devastated -- by a supposed friend and her group of friends."   My client went on to explain that after an extended illness she was invited by a friend to attend a spa three-day "weekend" with a group who had been to the spa before.  She realized for her own health she would leave the spa early, and called for an appointment.  "I had no idea I would be intruding," my client explained, and then went on to describe an unkind and thoughtless pattern of behavior:  On their first day the group arranged an initial lunch for all, leaving her out of the conversation entirely, totally ignoring any of her attempts to join group conversation.

What Are You Getting Out of This Relationship?

What Are You Getting Out of This Relationship?

We all come to a point in relationships when we have to ask ourselves, "What's in this for me"? How do you determine whether or not the relationship is salvageable? As humans, we are wired to be connected. We are an interdependent species which means we cannot survive alone. This is why relationships are such an important part of our lives and crucial to our wellbeing. This is also why dysfunctional relationships can take a toll on our self-esteem and quality of life. When was the last time you really took the time to examine your relationships?

5 Actions To Teach Responsibility To Entitled Kids

5 Actions To Teach Responsibility To Entitled Kids

I was at coffee with a good friend of mine, and she was upset about her son. He has graduated from college and still lives at home with no job, playing computer games and living the good life. The good life isn’t so good anymore, as this boy’s behavior has taken a toll on her marriage. My friend was asking, “Where did we go wrong?”

Bad Sex 101

Bad Sex 101

What if your sex life isn’t making love but more like making “blah?”  Perhaps you have a wonderful, happy relationship with your partner; but when it comes to sex it isn’t the mind-blowing, toe-curling, light-my-hair-on-fire experience you’re craving. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for 20 years or have been seeing somebody for 2 months, this lack of chemistry can really take a toll.  It’s all too common that we become tongue-tied when discussing sex with our partner.  We may be afraid of hurting our partner’s ego or cr

How To Know It's Time To Breakup

How To Know It's Time To Breakup

When problems hit, friction develops, and drama ensues, does it warrant a break-up?  How do you know when you've found the right person?  What is the difference between issues that break the deal, are unworkable and promise to keep coming up, versus issues to work through together, and resolve?  Where is the line between insanity and persistence?

Domestic Violence & Abuse

I decided to write about an extremely important issue that effects many relationships and can help you identify if you’re in an abusive relationship. I’ve worked with several individuals that report their partner having a “temper problem.” Usually when I hear this description, I know there is likely more to the picture. Being in a relationship that has elements of domestic abuse may be hard to identify, especially for the individuals who are currently in the relationship.

Stages Of Grief

Stages Of Grief

Part of the healing process is experiencing and accepting the feelings that come with loss. The more we deny, block, or escape emotions associated with loss, the greater the negative impact of loss may increase.  Common stages people may experience after a loss or breakup include:

How To Get Over A Lesbian In 30 Days

How To Get Over A Lesbian In 30 Days

Renowned lesbian matchmaker and relationship coach, Dr. Frankie Bashan of Little Gay Book, will discuss ways to manage emotions and highlight the idea that we all have the ability to manage our emotions based on our cognitions (i.e. thoughts). Dr. Frankie is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach with a decade of experience helping people just like you overcome challenges of all kinds. 

10 Ways To Bring Joy Into Your Life

10 Ways To Bring Joy Into Your Life

Every year millions of people experience awful tragedies in their lives, or in the lives of those they love. After a trauma it can seem like it will be impossible to ever feel joy again. If you've known a moment of despair that seemed so heavy even Hercules couldn’t lift it, hang on. Science proves that the brain can rewire, which means you have the capacity to feel joy again - you just might have to work a little for it.