We all know how to communicate. If I stick my tongue out at someone they will get the gist of what I am communicating to them, however, their response may not be very positive and full clarity in our communication may never happen. To truly communicate in a way that other people can hear without defensiveness or heightened emotion is a skill. Slowing down and thinking about how you are getting your point across to someone while using these skills will help in all areas of your life, be it work, relationships or just trying to get your coffee order across at Starbucks.
Each year when the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue is released I hear about it. Not because I'm a big fan of swimsuits, or super models, or even of sports for that matter, but because my therapist husband (as a recovering sex addict) specializes in helping men whose sexual behaviors have become self-defeating in ways that are interfering with day-to-day living—causing stress on family members, friends and/or work. These guys have issues around sexualizing and objectifying women so they can tend to have more than just a passing awareness of the winter release of that swimsuit model issue.
Mardi Gras...here's the real thought provoking question; "Why is this kind of debauchery and indulgent behavior more acceptable than being gay?" After all, many of society's stalwart beliefs about homosexuality are reflected in the activities of Mardi Gras. Here's a Lent challenge—give up judgments! Can you do it?
Stress can be a killer and we are regularly overwhelmed with the newest stress reducer, tips to reduce anxiety and even the hot off the FDA approval line for which meds will help us manage our stress and anxiety. But what if your BFF could be your best natural defense for reducing your stress level?
Grudge-holding is a natural response people have after they've been hurt. They do it to protect themselves and create a sense of control over the situation, thinking the wall that they build will make it more difficult - or, hopefully - impossible to get hurt again. This is an understandable inclination but unfortunately, notes Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, doesn't work.
New Orleans is ready to run amok! Cities and towns across the country are gearing up to celebrate right along with the Cajuns in themed parties and parades. The Toad Kingdom is in a state of frenzy. What is the cause? Beads and breasts! You may not know it but for decades, one of the rather crudest parts of the annual fest is the baring of breasts. Women, usually in an alcoholic stupor, lift their shirts, showing off their assets for the precious reward of a cheap set of made in China plastic beads.
When my grandparents got married in the 1930s, I’m quite certain neither one of them had the kind of engagement anxiety I see among people today. My grandmother did experience grief about leaving her mother and two sisters. The difficult feelings were displaced onto her wedding dress and veil (a mosquito net so an understandable disappointment on her part!), but she didn’t spend a moment wondering if she was making the best possible choice or if she loved my grandfather enough, if he was her soul mate or any of the other anxiety-based questions that wreak havoc on my clients’ minds.
How are those New Year’s Resolutions working out for you? Do you even remember them? Truth be told most of us wind up foregoing the resolutions we’ve barely begun, a few short weeks into the New Year. If your resolve has begun to wane it’s not too late to re-energize it. Drop that defeatist attitude because here are seven ways to keep your motivation up and “life” well out of the way of your goals:
Bullying can be described as aggressive behaviour that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength. Often patterns of abusive behaviour becomes evident over time. Victims or targets sometimes downplay the violence and damage to their self esteem, hoping it will just go away or at least get better with time. Bullying and aggressive action rarely stop without some sort of intervention. Bullying is not strictly a behaviour of the young and not all bullying involves fighting. Bullying, in all forms, is an attempt to steal power from someone else thus empowering the bully. There is no single reason why some people attempt to take advantage of others, but those who intimidate and manipulate often use aggressive tactics.
When a couple have been together for quite some time, they often tend to lose sight of a supposedly mutual goal to make each other happy. This is a sad yet common reality these days. Then again, you have the power to change all this and using these tips for women for a good marriage just wait and see how your man responds. With the right pieces of advice and the desire to keep the man in your life happy, you will definitely be able to make a difference in your romantic relationship with your husband.