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To D Or Not To D

To D Or Not To D

TO “D” OR NOT TO “D” It takes balls to make the decision to divorce. Big ones. Balls of steel. And it’s an especially brave thing to do when you were born with lady parts that don’t include the aforementioned equipment because, believe me, at a time like this, you could really use them. If you’re a people pleaser like me, ending your marriage will probably go against the grain of everything you were raised to believe in, like pleasing others, for instance.

The #1 Sign Your Marriage Won't Last [EXPERT]
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The #1 Sign Your Marriage Won't Last

With half of marriages ending in divorce, we wanted to get to the root of the problem. We surveyed over 100 YourTango Experts to find out the top predictors of divorce so that couples can know—in advance of getting married—whether their union is likely to fail.

The Number One Secret to being a Transformational Coach

The Number One Secret to being a Transformational Coach

If you watched interviews on TV or read Q&A segments in magazines, you have probably noticed that everyone wants to know the same thing.  The question “What is the secret to your success?” is usually always asked.  From professional athletes to money management gurus, everyone wants to unlock the mystery that leads to superior achievement.  This profession is no different.  

When should you start dating again?

When should you start dating again?

If you are heartbroken step away from the keyboard now. Have you recently become single? Are you worried about getting involved with someone again? Maybe you've been single for a while now and are looking to change your relationship status. If so then the chances are you've probably considered signing up to an online dating site to meet singles. So how should you start online dating the right way. Check out our advice on how to start online dating below. Start online dating when you are ready

The Game of Life is Rigged. In Your Favor.

The Game of Life is Rigged. In Your Favor.

I just recently read a beautiful magazine article written by a very science-minded neurosurgeon on his "Life during Death" experience and his realization of the Divine. It was an inspiring true story and I found myself breathing easier and deeper after reading it- which is always my internal signal that what I read is true. (I’ll have the link at the bottom of this article for you if you want to read it yourself) So what’s my favorite take-away from his story ? The message from Up High:

How to Relax  into  Intimacy

How to Relax into Intimacy

Intimacy is an essential part of a loving relationship.  But what is intimacy, really?  It is being present and open to each other.  Intimacy starts with being relaxed and comfortable with each other and progresses to sharing thoughts, feelings, kisses and caresses. Robert and Shelly made a lot of progress in their therapy with me.  They were communicating better about important issues such as finances and resolving disputes, but they both felt something was missing.  As Shelly put it, “I feel lonely at times even when we are together.” 

Divorce is not the problem. It is a solution

Divorce is not the problem. It is a solution

While filming the first episode of “Where are they Now” with Oprah Winfrey, one of the producers asked me to comment on the following quote, “Divorce is a river of pain that runs through our country.” I responded by saying, divorce isn’t the problem. It’s the solution.  Now don’t get me wrong, divorce is indeed a river of pain.  It is one of the most painful human experiences that we endure.  I know; I have been divorced.  But divorce isn’t the problem here; it is simply a tool that represents the evolution of a relation

31 EXCELLENT REASONS TO DATE

31 EXCELLENT REASONS TO DATE

1.To find a life partner. 2.To learn how to be vulnerable. 3.To expand your capacity to give and receive love. 4.To have fun. 5.To meet new people. 6.To get out and explore your city. 7.To practice being more forgiving. 8.To find the best possible partner. 9.To learn how to speak up for yourself. 10.To practice setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. 11.To stop listening Imaginary Frenemy and all the other critical voices. 12.To face your fears.

Rejection or Blessing in Disguise?

Rejection or Blessing in Disguise?

Rejection? Ouch!!! There is no point in trying to pretend that any one of us is immune from the sting.  Rejection can feel unpleasant, embarrassing, awkward and at times, completely devastating. It may crush our self-esteem or take us down a mental road of self-doubt, criticism and blame. Even for the most outwardly confident and self assured among us, it simply is not fun to feel rejected. In fact a sad truth is that very often the fear of rejection is what stops us from reaching our potential or going for what we really want in life.