We know that it "shouldn't" (one of my least favorite words, but you know what I mean) take a disaster to have us focus on living a life that is rich, feeds our soul, celebrates life and that looks at what we have instead of what we don't have. But the silver lining to a disaster is that it is an opportunity for us to do just that.
We've all heard of the importance of positive thinking, affirmations, visualizations, and having dreams. But often these goals feel somehow so amorphous, that sometimes it feels a little like"hoo ha", doesn't it? Here's the key: if you make it just a mental exercise, it is ineffective. It's not hoo ha, it just doesn't work as powerfully as when you go beyond the mental.
For years, little pieces of me got lost in the cracks, in between the details of everyday life. I had this feeling of uncertainty, of something being off. I just knew there was more for me. I searched everywhere for myself. And then I released something, and that's when it happened.
Sure, you adore your kids, but let's face it, they sure make it tough for you to enjoy a spontaneous sexual romp with their dad. So, if you are in the mood for some adult time this Valentines Day, here are five ways to fan the heat without splurging on a sitter or a fancy restaurant.
Holidays are often bittersweet. We (generally!) love being with family and/or friends, we love the sharing of stories, the non-denominational feel of being grateful. We love the food!But, as my friend Robin says, people tend to bring their baggage in along with their pies on Thanksgiving! Let's get a handle on that, shall we?
So, I might get on a soapbox here. Since when is self-care selfish? Why is investing in yourself so that you are whole, happy, and in love with your life self-centered? The idea that it is both good and admirable to suffer so that you can give to others is martyrdom. And useless, in my opinion. We see it everywhere - in men and women - but women tend to do the heavy lifting of nurturing and giving to others, often to the exclusion of self.
During the holidays it's go-go-go! We easily become stressed, short-tempered and overwhelmed. I have a very simple suggestion for you that might seem obvious, but I don't see a lot of people (outside of my clients!) doing it! Take time for self-care! Seriously. I'm listing some ideas here to help you fill your oil lamp, put the oxygen mask on yourself first - however you want to see it. Taking care of you is vital to your, um, vitality! As well as your sanity.
Here's a challenge: Find inspiration in someone who bugs you. Yes, seriously. Find what it is this annoying person gives to the world. Look for why this person is special. You want to know why? Because when you do that, you realize that we are all beautiful, special individuals. We all come from the same creation. When you can see with new eyes that even those people in your life who annoy the heck out of you bring light to the world, you will begin to realize how special you are! And how much your light is needed.
Phase I: Facing Judgment and Creating Awareness You've heard the phrase, "be here now." While it has become quite over-used and sadly, cliche'd, it does have enormous value. Be here now is more than just being present - which I've talked about before. Being present in this moment creates the future you desire - as opposed to obsessing about the past or worrying about the future.
You are always at choice. Even in the way you feel. No matter what happens to you, you can adjust the way you feel about it. Even if it's something you wish did not happen, and "negatively" effects you, you always have the choice to look at the event in another light.