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I Got My Butt Kicked & Remembered My True Self

I Got My Butt Kicked & Remembered My True Self

So, I've been going along, loving my life, loving my work. Spirit has been whispering in my ear, "Psst. Hey." I listen, hear a little something, do a little tweaking, and continue right on with what I am doing. Some time goes by, and I get a stronger clunk on the head. Spirit says, "YO! I'm talking to you!" Okay, I listen closer and I begin to get new ideas, see things a little differently, take some action, but still I don't quite act decisively.  

Stop The Guilt Trap!

Stop The Guilt Trap!

Guilt is an emotion you feel because you believe you've caused (or will cause) harm. Aside from objective evidence that you caused true (not perceived) harm to someone, I suggest you question the logic of your guilt. How did you come to the conclusion that you should feel guilty for wanting more? Let's examine that. How could your wanting more be bad for the universe? How could it be guilt-worthy to desire to be more authentically you?

New Year, New You: 5 Steps To Creating Lasting Change

New Year, New You: 5 Steps To Creating Lasting Change

So many people start out the new year thinking, "Starting January 2 (because you give yourself that extra day to be 'bad' ) I'm going to... quit smoking, lose weight, go to the gym, open my own business, switch jobs, stand up for myself... " The list can go on and on, but the truth is, resolutions are generally flimsy. They're limp. They aren't backed up appropriately, and so they only serve to make you feel bad about yourself. So how do you begin to change things?

Your Impact Is Huge

Your Impact Is Huge

Personal transformation is not selfish. It is not egotistical or self-centered to want to be the best person you can be. It is when people feel "less than" that they feel the need to prove their point, strike out, cause strife, hurt people. Those feelings are, obviously, evidence of the amount of pain someone is in.   But it's not always that overt.

The Arithmetic Of Fear

The Arithmetic Of Fear

Abraham: "Fear is the feeling sensation that is present within you when you have both a desire and a belief that contradicts it."   Desire is a strong sensation. You feel it deep within you, almost at a level you can't articulate. Sometimes you have a desire that is more superficial (meaning, more on the surface), and therefore it is more easily identified: "I want an ice cream cone." "I want to be successful in my career." "I want a new home."

The Yin-Yang Of Change

The Yin-Yang Of Change

The concept of yin and yang is used a lot in contemporary language, but the beauty and breadth of this concept is not always fully understood. Yin and yang can serve to guide and give us a framework for virtually anything life serves up. It's especially useful when approaching the inescapability of life's transitions, to create transformation in our lives.  

Loving Your Life

Loving Your Life

We know that it "shouldn't" (one of my least favorite words, but you know what I mean) take a disaster to have us focus on living a life that is rich, feeds our soul, celebrates life and that looks at what we have instead of what we don't have. But the silver lining to a disaster is that it is an opportunity for us to do just that.  

Step Into Extraordinary

Step Into Extraordinary

We've all heard of the importance of positive thinking, affirmations, visualizations, and having dreams. But often these goals feel somehow so amorphous, that sometimes it feels a little like"hoo ha", doesn't it? Here's the key: if you make it just a mental exercise, it is ineffective. It's not hoo ha, it just doesn't work as powerfully as when you go beyond the mental.  

How I Came to Do What I Do

How I Came to Do What I Do

For years, little pieces of me got lost in the cracks, in between the details of everyday life. I had this feeling of uncertainty, of something being off. I just knew there was more for me. I searched everywhere for myself. And then I released something, and that's when it happened.  

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5 Valentines Day Date Ideas For Frugal Parents

Sure, you adore your kids, but let's face it, they sure make it tough for you to enjoy a spontaneous sexual romp with their dad. So, if you are in the mood for some adult time this Valentines Day, here are five ways to fan the heat without splurging on a sitter or a fancy restaurant.