When you’re looking to go back into the dating world, it is important to know what you desire. Are you looking for a long-term relationship, perhaps even marriage? Or are you just looking to get your feet wet again, and see what it’s like out there? Maybe you’re just looking to have a good time. Once you define what your desired outcome is, you can set a clear intention that will act as a compass to navigate your journey.
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Maria Shriver recently asked a question on YouTube: What are three things you wished you’d known during your last transition? As she navigates her newly announced separation from Arnold Schwarzenegger, here are the three things I think will be most helpful to her... and things I wished I’d known during my own separation. Arnold Schwarzenegger & Maria Shriver Split After 25 Years
How can you tell when you’re ready to start dating again after a break-up? Most people don’t even bother to ask themselves this question; they just dive back in. But if you want to avoid making the same mistakes in your next relationship, you should pay attention to these signs.
If you’ve been together for a while, those “in love sparkles” can disappear. Sometimes they just ebb and flow, coming and going mysteriously. When they’re gone, things just don’t feel as good as they used to. Often, we’re not very aware of why things don’t feel quite right, you wonder if your relationship is over, and hope that somehow, the love will return. We don’t know why it went away and we don’t know why it comes back.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Therese J. Borchard. Divorce is the second most stressful life event, preceded only by the death of a spouse. And what is stress capable of? Expediting a severe bout of depression and anxiety to your limbic system (the brain’s emotional center) if you’re not careful. Acute and chronic stress, especially, undermine both emotional and physical health.
Guess what? Anniversaries and other "special" days are all man-made. It is we who gave them meaning. Which means we also have the power to give them un-meaning. What do I mean by that? A day that, by everyone else's calendar, is just another Saturday could be a real minefield when we attach significant meaning to it.
“I knew better.” “I knew it was a meaningless friends with benefits deal for him.” “I knew it wasn’t right for me.” “But, after that glass of wine and a little cuddling, one thing led to another and….” Jennie stopped talking. I could hear her crying softly. “I have no control. I still care about him so much. But I feel awful today. I’m such a loser.” Can you relate?
May is a great time to get rid of the clutter and lighten your load. I remember the ritual spring cleaning in my home. It came with the warmer weather when blossoms appeared. My mother would throw open the windows and, armed with a bucket, mop and garbage bags, she would go through the house room by room.