“Our problem,” he said, “is that everyone in my life listens to what I say and does what I tell them. Then I come home and it doesn’t work that way with my wife. I don’t like that.” She didn’t either. The comment was neither unexpected nor unusual. In workshops for marriages in crisis, leaders often note that those couples in which one mate is very successful or earns quite a bit of money have unique situations that call for unique solutions.
When you are in a long term relationship and feel safe, comfortable and care deeply for a person, could you be with the wrong man? Can you have a man who loves you unconditionally and is totally into you and you still question if he is your Soulmate? How do you know if he is the ONE? First of all, it is important to honor what you've manifested in your relationship over the time you have been together. Building a lasting relationship is a sign that you are skilled in creating a loving connection with your man.
I am sure by now you have heard this term a few times and may even be getting fed up with how much exposure it is receiving. What the does it mean anyway? In simpler terms: Law of Attraction means: “like attracts like.” Or “behavior breeds behavior” While this may sound like a simple concept this topic helps you learn how to “receive & believe” you can change your life to attract what you want. It doesn’t have to be a dream!
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be….To hold, you must first open your hand. Let go.” -Lao Tzu There might not be another word in the English language that evokes as much opening, tenderness and possibility as release. On an emotional level, the ability to let go is the essence of what real intimacy is made from. Our human longing to hold onto those we love must mature if it is to survive into emotional release.
"Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent." ~Victor Hugo Like millions of other young girls in this country, my daughters were raised with the Disney girls. My eldest was a long-time fan of both Lindsay Lohan and Hillary Duff and witnessed with disbelief as their girl-next-door appearances slipped into sex symbol and their lives slipped out of control in a world designed to devour them whole. Where were their parents, I wondered, as they made bad choice after bad choice?
“Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new.” ~Ursula K. LeGuin If ever there was an emotional state that we idealize it is love. We want nothing of its dark belly underside; we demand that it always show only its shiniest side to us. Many of us are unprepared for the battles that the heart must be willing to carry on in the name of love.
Sometimes it feels like we have come to such a place based on the idea that we need to be politically correct, or polite that we’ve somehow lost the voice to politely, and assertively ask for what we want, and need. In relationships, there is an underlying message we have often received, about not sweating the little stuff, to instead look at the big picture, and to pick our battles. It definitely makes sense, and I whole-heartedly agree with all those things.
Last week I wrote about the three layers of trust in relationships. Since then I’ve been noticing how and when I trust people and situations, as well as how and whether others trust me in our interactions. What I’ve noticed is that my own ability to trust runs deep, and that my deep trust is contagious. It’s not universally contagious, but it has the potential to be. This deep trust carries with it a strong sense of peace and well-being, as if all is right with the world, even when appearances seem to deny it.
We are all looking for that special someone to share our lives with… that certain someone who “fits” as if he or she was meant to be there. This exquisite person who is our one true love; the person designed as our match; our soul mate. For many people, this idea that they have one “ideal mate” is a concept they struggle with. When potential loves enter their lives, they are left wondering if there’s someone “better” out there.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Leigh Pretnar Cousins, MS Today I am the Al Gore of romance, compiling a list of ten things which strike me as true, though not pretty, about Love. Is facing them refreshing? Healthy? One of those Hey, look at that elephant in the room! sort of things? That’s what I’m going for here. And let’s see if you agree with me, and whether you’ve got some you’d like to add.