Sexual assault is not an occasional happening. A woman is assaulted every two and a half minutes in the United States. When you consider that at least half of the assaults go unreported, that is a staggering number of women and girls whose lives are affected negatively by this trauma.
Open a magazine or flip on the tv and you will notice a disturbing trend. Most of the people you’ll see are young and free of wrinkles. And tan. And in shape. And seemingly, endlessly happy. This of course, implicitly (and explicitly) sends the message that happiness lies in youth. And while we are all aware of the joys and benefits of being young (and even what’s scary about aging), how many are really in touch with the ADVANTAGES of getting older? Stay tuned and you might just look forward to what lies ahead.
Dear Annie, I met Al online a couple of weeks ago. I can't remember ever experiencing such a profound initital connection. Part of me wants to discover everything about him as quickly as possible. But, my other side wants to get to know him gradually, so we can discover if we have true potential. I'm still talking to other guys online. If the time comes when Al and I agree to focus exclusively on each other, I'm happy to take my profile down. In the meantime, I updated my profile and posted a new photo.
MARCH WORKSHOP ENROLLMENT OPEN! Discovering Your Internal Mentor With Tara Shopia Mohr There's a great deal of talk about the importance of women finding mentors, but few women know about their own "internal mentor" - a surprising, unfailing source of inner guidance and wisdom that they can draw upon anytime.
Josh and Rachel, both in their mid-twenties were together for a year and a half. During that time everyone who knew them would describe them as really intense and into each other. Texts, e-mails and phonecalls would fly back and forth many times a day. They seemed inseparable. Then one day, they argue. Nothing major, just the kind of stuff couples fall out about from time to time. Friction caused by different perspectives and different needs. Rachel expected a cooling down period then a resumption of where they had left off.
A client asked me today, "How do romantic relationships change us?" The idea behind this question is intriguing and may shed light into the darker places of relationships. This question underscores our unspoken fears of loss of control and the need to conform to someone else's ideas about happiness. As a therapist, I tend to see the couples "in trouble" so I may have my own a somewhat stilted view of things.
So, you met a guy. He seems fantastic. He says all the right words, does all the right things, and you decide to sleep with him a little more quickly than normal because you feel oh-so comfortable around him. Then guess what happens? He stops calling you.
Question: I’ve been divorced for a couple of years now and I’m ready to start dating. My big problem is where to find men? I’m in my 40’s and don’t want to go to single’s events and the bar scene isn’t my thing– any suggestions? Linda D.
In a recent workshop, one of my participants asked the question: “Who should pay for dinner on a date?” This is not the first time I’ve been asked this question. What is interesting though is that the ONLY students who ask me this are my female participants. However this isn’t surprising if we look at women and money from a historical perspective..
It is normal to feel comforted by the thought that our partner is never going to have sex with anyone else but us. Marriage can give us the illusion that our partner is bound by a legal agreement to never cheat. This comes from a long history of marriage as primarily a real estate contract, used purely as a way to perpetuate a name or lineage. But today, with birth control and DNA testing there is no longer a need to use the same harsh outside control. Today we expect to marry not for our names or for property, but for love and for desire.