Whether you're going through a divorce or a serious break-up, you might think that the 'bigger' thing to do - or 'easier' thing to do - is to try and be friends with your ex. No need to act all aloof and distant after sharing a wonderful relationship for so long, right? No need to stop your harmless texting either, right? WRONG.
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Americans are brought up to believe in Fairy Tales. Princess meet Prince. They are kept apart by different trial and tribulations. But love eventually triumphs over evil. The Prince and Princess meet again, marry and go off into the sunset to live a happy, joyous and forever loving life.
By Aaron Ross
Sometimes when things aren't going so well in romantic relationships, the best thing to do is focus on yourself and "return to the basics" as they say. I spent a week at the Optimum Health Institute (“OHI”) in San Diego, a place with a mission to “serve as a change agent for humankind by improving the physical, mental and spiritual well-being of everyone we touch”, and was inspired to write about it and how I’ve persisted in improving my health practices over my life through baby step after baby
Conflict is part of life. And that means it’s part of our relationships, even with those we love most. I just don’t think there’s any way around this. Could the Dalai Lama avoid fighting with his spouse—not to mention his ex-spouse—while trying to raise children? I’d like to think so, but then again, perhaps there’s a reason that His Holiness isn’t married.
In a twist on the classic fairy tale, there’s a phenomenon that happens with shocking regularity. The princess, having spent a long time in a relationship with a frog whom she kept hoping would turn out to be her prince, finally meets the Real McCoy. Prince Charming comes along and begins to woo her. Trouble is, she’s still married to the frog. What’s a princess to do?
You feel like the man you loved and had children with, all those years ago, can no longer see you. He dates freely and invites friends over as though you aren’t even there. The real tragedy is no longer the divorce. The gripping tragedy today, is that because of financial circumstances, both of you are still living in the same house.
By Wendy Strgar
Expressing your pleasure through sound initiates a primal place in your brain. “How silver-sweet sound lovers’ tongues by night, Like softest music to attending ears!” -William Shakespeare Remember the hushed make-out sessions of your youth? Rarely did we allow ourselves to sound out our pleasure lest our parents would hear. For many of us, not wanting others to hear any evidence of our intimate encounters still carries some left over shame that keeps a heavy lid on our ability to experience our own pleasure decades later. After our parents, it was the neighbors, after the neighbors, it was the kids….
By Wendy Strgar
Most things in life are developmental. “There are very few human beings who receive the truth, complete and staggering, by instant illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a small scale, by successive developments, cellularly, like a laborious mosaic.” -Anais Nin Most things in life are developmental. Human lifespan has programmed continuous growth and maturation into our genetic code, which acts as an imperative that makes skill building one of the richest aspects of daily living. Nowhere is this truer than in our foundational relationship to our sexuality.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Rick Nauert, Ph.D. Remember when you asked what your blind date looks like and your friend responded that he/she has a wonderful personality? Turns out, having certain personality traits influence whether someone else thinks you’re worth meeting again.
By Wendy Strgar
I have come to believe that much of what parades as sexual dissatisfaction between couples is actual “To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.” -Bertrand Russell I have come to believe that much of what parades as sexual dissatisfaction between couples is actually a manifestation of fear. Most people through no fault of their own have had little education concerning their sexuality or their access to pleasure. Laden as the topic is with shame and silence, most of us literally grope towards pleasure with our eyes closed, surprised that it happened and often unaware about how create it again.