I barely know what time it is, as I just got back from a memorial service in Paris for a very dear friend. But I was greeted with an urgent message from my daughter that I immediately had to catch up with the latest episode of Mad Men, titled "The Other Woman." So I did ASAP, and so I write ASAP... because if any person on this planet ever wondered why the Women's Movement was necessary or why it was originally called the Women's Liberation Movement, this episode shows and tells them, loud and clear. Bravo to the writers!
Clients are constantly asking me under lowered voices if Pornography can really help their relationship. Regardless of sex being used in advertisments all over the television, pornography is still getting a bad rap and is still considered taboo. It’s unfortunate because watching pornography can totally help a relationship. When you watch it you are stimulating your sexuality. For people that tell me they just don’t feel sexual, I always reply back with – well, how often are you putting yourself in front of sexual matters?
Shelley was putting away her husband's laundry when she discovered a stash of bills for a credit card she didn't recognize. It's a story that plays out over and over with couples we talk to. Everything seems to be fine and then Bam! One of them discovers the other has been keeping money secrets.
Before getting a marriage license, people must learn how to do the high-skills activity that partnership requires. Otherwise, couples are at risk for intense fighting, and launching a marriage that's at risk from the outset.
Recently, I had a minor but difficult surgical procedure to lance an abscess on my leg. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some Post -traumatic stress reactions—bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset—after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, and let them out before the stress reactions subsided. I often help my clients do this, too, not only with PTSD from shocking or painful experiences, but also with grief and old memories.
Apologies are much more than a trite or perfunctory exercise, the kind of half-hearted statements we might have offered as children when we were told to apologize for something we’d done. On the contrary, when coupled with genuine self-reflection, an apology can go a long way in repairing trust and re-establishing connection. Stepping forward when we’ve erred or hurt someone is ennobling and promotes reconciliation.