Like Ram Dass says: You want to see how together you are, go spend some time with your family! This sentiment is particularly apt during the holidays, when emotions run high and painful memories are easily triggered. Especially if this holiday things are different than you would like them to be: i.e. you’re single (again), newly divorced, bringing someone home your family can’t stand, or maybe you simply dread the same old story your family dynamics dose on when you get together.
The holiday season has officially begun and soon calendars will be filled with holiday parties and family gatherings. For a single person, even one who’s happily single, this season usually includes inquiries from well-meaning family and friends as to the nature of your relationship status. Does your single status have you dreading going home for the holidays? Don’t fret my pets! There are benefits that come along with being single during this time of year. The Perks of Being Single
A lot of people feel the first date is the hardest part of dating. It usually is because you are basically auditioning yourself to someone you barely know and hope they like you enough to go on to a second date. First dates can be stressful and taxing for anyone. You have to sit there with someone new and think about what to talk about and what not to talk about. Here I will break it down on what not to say.
"Do you want kids?" I asked. "Sure i do" he said. And with that I was hooked. Yes I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him. However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome which lead to the relationship breaking down. Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what not to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, and especially if they have kids.
Dear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This is causing a problem in our relationship because I am putting up a wall between us because of my parents.
In my practice, I see many couples with concerns around keeping the romance alive in their marriage. If I were to determine the single most detrimental thing one can do in damaging one’s relationship, it would be to not pay attention to one’s spouse. I recently read a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh in which he says, ” When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there?
This morning I picked up the phone to talk with one of my beloved clients, let’s call her Kathy. If you were to meet her, she looks like a strong, independent, confident woman on the outside. She owns her own business, is beautiful, and is also single. It sounds like she has all the “material” to have found a man by now, right?
Spending a week in Greenwich Village in New York City three years ago was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I was on Christopher Street, the literal birthplace of the gay rights movement. While some of you may wonder why this so deeply touched a married (at the time) heterosexual mother of two, others of you understand the importance of this to me with no question.
I always said if I were going to be a stripper, my soundtrack for the main stage would include Nine Inch Nails, Metallica, and a little AC/DC. Although I can't explain why the grungy guitar riffs and pounding baselines put me in the mood for a strip tease, a recent study might; apparently there is a link between sexual arousal and music. Because it helps us connect with our sexuality and revs up our libido, it can actually play a greater role in sexual arousal than physical touch.