How often have you heard a woman (you?) state, with a sigh, that all the good men are taken? It’s been my observation that the women who believe that are the only ones who are experiencing that…so what’s going on here? If you're attracting less than great men into your life, it's very likely that it’s got more to do with you than them. Here are four reasons why that may be true for you. 1. You Get What You Expect
Finding someone, either online or otherwise, that you click with is a trying task. So when you do, most of us fight to see it through to the end. Admittedly, I have been fooled by instant chemistry into believing that Mr. Dead Ends were going to be my relationship status changers. Inevitably, they either slowly faded away or even worse, just disappeared from my dating life. Looking back, there were always waving red flags that I ignored or was simply too smitten to realize at the time. Here are three warning signs that can save you time and wasted expectations:
We all have unpacked emotional baggage from our past relationships, and it's difficult, if not impossible, to completely get rid of it; that's just being human. But if you find yourself still pining for, very angry with, or otherwise consumed with emotion over your ex, you need to get past it before you'll be able to be in a new healthy relationship.
“I’m so fat!” “My butt looks huge in these jeans!” “I can’t leave the house looking like THIS!” If you’ve uttered words like these, you might be putting your relationship at risk. Even if you’ve never put yourself down or been hateful about your body out loud, you still might be negatively affecting your love relationship or marriage.
In long-term relationships (25+ years), it is natural for couples to find each other annoying at times, and even worse take each other for granted. Furthermore, relationships go in cycles when you are closer to each other and other times more distant. How can you keep your relationship fresh and vibrant over the years? 1. Tell your partner one thing you appreciate that she/he has done over the week. Be a spy and look for those ‘caring behaviors’ your partner does, especially for you, instead of focusing on what you didn’t get.
Have you ever been detached in your job, head down, doing well but not really paying attention? Wondering what you should do next, wanting more responsibility but not really wanting more responsibility? And then it just gets handed to you... I remember a time in my career when I was doing well, things were running *fairly* smoothly, and I felt like I was on track for success, but hadn’t really made the next big leap and was just focused on keeping my head down and trying to figure out what I was going to do with myself
If your world has been rocked by an emotional affair or by infidelity, it can be devastating and heartbreaking. It can also be a natural response to want to get even and do to the other what has been done to you. Rather than following the ways of the Romans - which didn't quite work out for them, by the way - it's healthier to refrain from getting even and work on getting better. Whether you caused it or were the unfortunate casualty of a painful affair, it's important to work on yourself and deciding if there is a relationship worth saving.
If you are reading this you might be like many of us who suffer from procrastination. But don’t stop there – this vice may be just the tip of the iceberg, the symptom of something bigger underneath. Pay attention and address the root cause. For my case I procrastinate for different reasons. For example, when the task:
We've seen him in movies, we've read about him in books, but what if the guy you are interested in is the player we have come to detest. Avoid being played by learning how to manufacture the game. Look for these tell-tale signs of a modern day Casanova.
Do you think love is blind and that online dating profile photos may not matter?