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Emotional Dependency: Feeling Good When Feeling Bad

Emotional Dependency: Feeling Good When Feeling Bad

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Making choices based on your of self-acceptance, self-honor, emotional clarity and inner truth

Making choices based on your of self-acceptance, self-honor, emotional clarity and inner truth When you are living the dreams, ambitions, and life models that belong to your parents, teachers, or partners, you live according to what you think is expected of you. It creates stress and imbalances in your body, mind, and spirit, affecting all general aspects of your life.

Long-Distance Relationships: Staying Close While Far Apart

Long-Distance Relationships: Staying Close While Far Apart

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Understanding and overcoming challenges in long distance love relationships

It is undeniable that long-distance relationships pose significant challenges for even the most seasoned and intimate of couples. Distance necessarily means a reduction in physical and day to day intimacy which can most certainly impact the state of a relationship. However, long distance does not have to be a prescription for a break up. There are many tools and resources couples can employ to maintain a healthy connection in spite of the physical separation long distance necessitates.

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6 Ways To Beat Post-Vacation Blues

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How to make the vacation high last long after you've unpacked

We all want to bring our vacations home with us, but it seems as soon as we get in the door, the demands of home and work begin to affect us. Soon the glow of our vacation is nothing but a distant memory and some photos in a book. So how can you extend the feelings, relaxation and ease of mind you achieve on vacation into your day-to-day?

The Love Questions You Need To Manifest Love This Summer

The Love Questions You Need To Manifest Love This Summer

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Wouldn't it be wonderful to fall in love this summer? Tired of wishful thinking? Here's the answer!

Wouldn't it be wonderful to fall in love this summer? Tired of wishful thinking? Here's the answer! If this past Summer wasn't the most romantic, sexiest, happiest time for you, take a vow to re-commit putting your attention on manifesting your soulmate in the coming months. To begin ask yourself these questions: 1.  Is now the right time in my life to bring in new love? (and, am I willing to spend some time each day focused on magnetizing love to me?) 2.  What belief about myself must I let go of in order to manifest the relationship I desire?

"Mommy, What's a Soul Mate?"

"Mommy, What's a Soul Mate?"

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Ever gotten one of those questions that stop you in your tracks? Out of the mouth of babes....

“Mommy, What’s A Soul Mate?” The child with the big blue eyes and tousled blonde curls looked up to her mom curiously. “Why do you ask?” She said “I heard you talking to grandma last night and you sounded so sad when you told her you didn’t think you would ever find a soul mate again.” “Oh”, she said, suddenly aware of how careless she was sometimes when she was talking to her mom. When did her daughter get so smart, she was only 4.

What's The Secret To Avoiding Divorce?

What's The Secret To Avoiding Divorce?

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Before it's too late, date!

Want to avoid divorce? Want to give your marriage the best chance for lasting success? Before it's too late, date! Dating is especially important for couples with young children. Why? Because, while there is nothing more rewarding than raising kids, children come with an endless series of tasks, chores and responsibilities that tend to focus on the household. So couples must <em>exit</em> their household in order to take adequate space from their demanding routines, recharge and reconnect romantically.

The Secret Of Sex Appeal

The Secret Of Sex Appeal

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The word "sex" may have explosive connotations and baffling confusion.

The word "sex" may have more explosive connotations and baffling confusion attached to it than any other word in the English language. And the idea of "sex appeal" is just the same. It's got power all right. We all want to have sex appeal. We might not agree on exactly what the term means, but if someone accused us of having it, we wouldn't argue with them.

I Like You as a Friend

I Like You as a Friend

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Are you in love with your best friend? Feel like you need to tell them? Prepare yourself first.

All of us have had that one special person we fantasized about and thought would be a perfect spouse. This person is usually a good friend, and as the friendship begins to grow we also become extremely attracted to them physically and emotionally. It isn’t long before we desire them day and night, and will put ourselves out there to “help” them in any way we can. If they call us, it makes our day! If they don’t, we feel alone and neglected. We finally get the courage to tell them how we feel, and we know the minute we say it, we shouldn’t have.

Divorce's Dirty Secret

Divorce's Dirty Secret

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What's the Best Kept Secret of Divorce?

What's the Best Kept Secret of Divorce? As a therapist with over fifteen years experience, I hear a lot about divorce, particularly divorces where children are involved. While most of what I hear relates to the trauma and pain of divorcing, I have noticed a surprising sentiment among many divorces: people secretly like their time off from parenting. A newly divorced client in her forties puts it this way:

The Little Known Male Cycle And How It Affects Your Relationship

The Little Known Male Cycle And How It Affects Your Relationship

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It turns out that men have a mood altering cycle all their own.

Although a woman’s monthly periods and the roller coaster moods that go with them are widely known and parodied, it turns out men have a mood altering pattern all their own. One reason the male cycle is so poorly understood is because a man’s testosterone level, the driver behind his cycle, changes rapidly with his environment and moods, so measuring it can be challenging. But here’s what we know: 1. The male cycle occurs once every 24 hours, with peaks 6 or 7 times a day and smaller fluctuations occurring every 15 to 20 minutes.