Are you doing all the work in your relationships? Do you feel that if you didn’t make things happen everything would fall apart? I call this doing CPR in your relationship, something I was an expert in for the first 20 years of my dating life. It's when you get stuck constantly trying to revive your connection with a man for fear that if you stop, the connection could die.
No. I’m not saying become a bra burning, feminist raging, dragon lady to your husband. What I’m talking about is not always walking on egg shells to make sure that the timing, the words, the tone, the “feelings” (yes some of you tragically edit your feelings) are always PERFECT for Mr. Husband. Yet, I’m not saying: don’t ever take responsibility for HOW and WHEN you communicate to him. Instead it’s the idea that your main goal should not be about alleviating HIS discomfort of not liking what he hears you say.
Okay, we know you’ve heard it many times from all kinds of sources from your best friend, to Cosmo, to every dating coach out there: Make a List of What You Want. It's true – creating a list is a crucial step in making the relationship of your dreams a reality, however, we are betting that many of you have made the list, and yet still do not have your ideal mate.
You leave the emotional garbage at the door and he knows how to get you all hot and bothered. You don’t insist on post-coital pillow talk and he doesn’t expect you to cook breakfast the morning after. You have mind-blowing sex and could care less how each other’s day was at the office. This isn’t that kind of relationship.
I asked myself this question over and over again when I was dating and trying desperately to find a man to marry. For years I was a magnet for men who weren’t good for me, men who were not the marrying kind. I couldn’t stop myself from dating them and getting involved in unfulfilling and unhealthy relationships. I felt like a victim, a walking target for men who were narcissistic, self-centered and cruel.
You've heard about "the list". You've seen Patti Stanger tear them to pieces on her "Millionaire Matchmaker" show. You've also heard your girlfriends go on and on about all of the qualities they're looking for in a man. As a matchmaker with a free database for my women to join, I see them coming through often enough.
When you are in the military, you know you are going to be deployed someday. When you are actually called to military duty and scheduled to be deployed away from your family, a range of emotions are unleashed throughout your family unit: sadness, pride, loneliness, fear, anger, confusion and stress. You manage the feelings by both acknowledging the negative and also preparing emotionally and practically for the separation in a pro-active way.
What is “body image” and who is it more of a problem for - Men or Women? Can it be a problem in the dating world? *a subjective picture of one's own physical appearance established both by self-observation and by noting the reactions of others.
When I was in college, I remember having lots of girlfriends. These friends were close to me; we shared each others’ lives, problems and joys.
If you’ve ever lost weight and rewarded yourself with a whole new wardrobe, you’ve wrestled with what to do with your fat clothes. Do you keep them just in case? Do you toss them, with hopes this will keep you from regaining the weight? Or is there a better way to deal with them?