I had lunch a few weeks ago with a dear friend of mine, a multi-talented man of about 60 who has had life experiences that would have half of us green with envy and the other half wondering how he made it through alive. He had been having a mad, wild, wonderful love affair with a friend of mine for about 6 months, that recently ended. Their age difference of about 20 years was too much for her, and even though they were both having the time of their lives, she decided not to continue it.
Imagine that you are a hologram made of the fragments of your past, fantasies about future and collective perceptions you learned from people in your life. When a wrong word is said or something else reminds you about your past disappointments or betrayal, you lose yourself in this memory and unconsciously leave the present moment.
As we wait and watch our country do battle over the debt limit, this might be a good time to think about your financial health. As I watch single women trot out onto the social scene with hopes of snaring a good man, I often see them pay more attention to their hair than to what it cost to get that cut/color/highlight.
If you are suffering from a broken heart or still carrying a shield over you heart to protect it from being broken again, Listen Up! Many of the women who come to me for help say something to the affect of “ I don’t’ ever want that to happen again1” How can I ever trust myself again”. Or, something like “ I am done with relationships, it’s just not worth the pain”. My response is two fold. Learning how to be discerning and not allow yourself to fall for someone when red flags are waving is one element that helps with this.
If you didn’t love food trucks enough already (and who doesn’t love street-meat, right?) now there’s a new kid on the block. Trojan condoms has unleashed it’s “Good Vibrations” food truck on the streets of New York City this weekend, and they’re pulling out all the stops!
"How DARE he!" Roxie stormed. "On my voicemail….Who does he think he is!" "Tell me about it," Barb said, "My ex sent me a text message!" What is our world coming to? Is breaking up by text the trend of the future? What is your worst break up story?
A elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, one one either end of a pole which she carried across her neck. While one pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water, the other was cracked and a steady stream of drips trailed behind her. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.
As the Huffington Post said, “It’s been a rough year for women struggling with their weight.” That followed a new survey where half of men polled said they’d leave a mate who got fat. Wait a minute, though….it’s really not that simple.
Our romantic relationships help us see all aspects of our personalities. All of our relationships do this, but romantic relationships do it in the most intense way. Romantic partners are mirrors, reflecting back parts of your personality that you may or many not want to look at. Romantic relationships offer the opportunity to heal wounded parts of yourself. Any conflict you have, especially if it’s a conflict that comes back repeatedly, is showing you where you have a wounded part of yourself that wants to be healed.
I am not an avid tennis player but I like to smack the ball around every now and then, so when my daughter asked if I wanted to play, I was up for the challenge. What I noticed almost immediately was, my fine-tuned aim always landed the ball within a two to three foot radius of where she was standing. In other words, she hardly had to do any moving - aside from raising her arm up every now and then to return the ball to me. I on the other hand was doing more diving, sprinting, grunting, groaning, and leaping then what I can remember in recent history.