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She Wants To Be More Than ‘Friends With Benefits’

She Wants To Be More Than ‘Friends With Benefits’

Question: I am fairly young, 23, and I've been hooking up with this guy for 7 months now.  When we started hooking up he stated that he didn’t want a girlfriend, and he still feels the same way. Recently I told him that I was developing feelings for him. To protect me from getting hurt he decided that we should end things, saying that he didn’t want to hurt me in the long run (which he believed was inevitable).  Knowing that he said that and that he was capable of doing such a hurtful thing,

Dealing with Mixed Messages from a Man

Dealing with Mixed Messages from a Man

Dating a guy who sends mixed messages is not only counter-productive, but it’s also frustrating, confusing and severely annoying. Unfortunately, it’s a part of the dating game and it’s something all of us have dealt with at one point or another. So when it happens, how do you deal with it? This week, one of our followers asks:   Dear @Instigaytor,

First Date Tips for Women

First Date Tips for Women

If the thought “find me a boyfriend” sends shivers down your spine, you probably just need a little courage and confidence to go out and get what you deserve out of life. If you’re constantly wondering, “when will I find love,” then what you need is a shot of self-esteem and a few tips and tricks to get the conversation going on a first date.

Dating After a Break Up Or Divorce

Dating After a Break Up Or Divorce

Okay, so you’ve read my article on when to start dating again after a break up or divorce and you’re confident that you’re 100% ready to get back out there. Congratulations! But wait – before you sign up for Match.com and start winking at people, let’s make sure you’re really prepared by going over the behaviors that can make or break a first date. If you haven’t dated in a while, reviewing this list will definitely help you get to the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th date – and maybe even to “I do”.

5 Tips For Getting Back Into The Dating Scene

5 Tips For Getting Back Into The Dating Scene

No matter where you are in life the prospect of dating can be filled with anxiety. If you haven't dated for any length of time it can seem even scarier. After the end of a long-term relationship, sometimes there can be a lot of pressure to go out and date and find that new "plus one." Before you rush out the door, take a moment to read through these tips. They should help you turn a scary experience into one that you can enjoy.

Living With Trichotillomania: An Opportunity?

Living With Trichotillomania: An Opportunity?

All of us have secrets. We learn to live with them. We usually keep them close. And of all of them, there’s usually one biggie. One we hope and pray will never come out. But what are we so afraid would happen if others discovered our secret? Why do we hold it so tightly against our chests?

Having 'The Talk': Your Kids & Sex
Have you had "the talk" yet with your children?

Having 'The Talk': Your Kids & Sex

Teach your sexual values. Don't be afraid to convey to your kids what you believe is the very best for them in their future sex lives as adults.

Cry, Admit You Did It, and Find Joy

Cry, Admit You Did It, and Find Joy

So, I was on my way to get a much-needed massage today when "Sweet Caroline" came on the radio. Within seconds, I was in tears.  It was my mom's song.  It was the song we played at the recessional during her memorial service three months ago and it was the song she and I playfully danced to together at the Neil Diamond concert just last year. It was the song that suddenly sent my joy on this beautiful spring day into a nose dive.

A Major Relationship Clue: Where Are Their Feet?

A Major Relationship Clue: Where Are Their Feet?

Asking you where your feet are and those of your partner may sound strange. This is because we tend to think that feet are just feet, and don’t think about them much beyond whether they are pretty, strong, or not. Well in truth, they have a lot more to say than that. In fact, they can help you understand the kind of person you are in a relationship with beneath all the verbiage and fancy maneuvering that people display. The reason that we miss recognizing this is that we are too focused on appearance and not the position that the feet are in.