I had an interesting conversation this morning with a friend about temptation and thought I’d blog about it while it’s still fresh in my mind. We were discussing a recent infidelity that he experienced with his wife - the how’s and why’s of her actions. Infidelity leaves such a huge scar. I wish more people could see the depth of the scar- how it will affect their companion emotionally, their next relationship, etc.
Most daters will be the first to tell you- they hate dating. I don’t have to explain why. If you’ve ever dated, I’m sure the words have slipped your tongue once or twice. It’s simple, daters don’t actually like the “legwork” so to speak of actually starting a relationship. I would say in general, people really enjoy being in relationships, it’s just the getting there that’s tricky.
A few months ago I read “Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage”- by Elizabeth Gilbert who is one of my favorite people not only to read but to listen to. She reads her own audio books and she speaks as beautiful as her writing sounds. In her book she mentioned that her and her partner were having a dispute, and they were both at that point to where (and I think we can all relate to this) they were right on the verge of saying some words out of frustration and anger and her partner stopped her- and said “Let’s be careful”- meaning let&rsqu
I was rifling through the daily news this week and I came across this article - http://www.examiner.com/wellness-in-hartford/are-romance-novels-bad-for-... Which I quickly assessed as shenanigans on many, many counts. I say let the dreamers dream. Women that read erotica have a 30% higher libido than women who don’t and are more prone to try new things in bed.
It’s a fine balance to know when/what/how much to say, but I think we’ve seen too many movies where if the girl or the guy would have just said what they were thinking…everything would have been okay?! I think this line of thinking is unhealthy and one of desperation! If you find yourself in this hole, start hollering for some rope. DO NOT JUST CHILL here and see how much further down you can go. This is dating suicide.
“Lights off please!!” Have you heard that recently? I hear it ALL the time from clients and from my very own friends! This happens for a couple of reasons- none that are shocking. 1.) Body Image Issues- it’s no secret, America is more overweight than ever before and most people who are overweight are very uncomfortable by it, reasonably so. Even for women who have wonderful bodies have body image issues because you know what- we are all competing with PHOTOSHOP! Give it up girls!
So, it’s that time of week again…FRIDAY!!! Which means for many of you who schedule sex on your calendars, (yes, people do that!) tonight is probably one of your scheduled nights and before the evening gets hot and heavy, I thought I’d share some information about ORGASMS to help your night be extra hot!
Within the last week, for those that follow politics, Andrew Breitbart died of “natural causes” at the age of 43. Now, I know he wasn’t the kindest man around, but I have loads of respect for him because he went from being anonymous to very public about very sensitive issues. At times, and I know I’m guilty of this, I think we all go a bit “chameleon” to get along with the rest of the crowd with the risk of losing touch with who we really are.
We’ve all been there. We’re just happily going about our day when suddenly, with no encouragement from us, we get a flirty text. Ah, but we just started dating someone or maybe you’re recently married and haven’t caught up with this person. You’re by yourself, no one watching over your shoulder…do you flirt back? How do you handle it?
I had a conversation with a friend the other day about relationships and marriage. This friend has been married for over twenty years. When I shared a situation that had occurred in my own relationship, he jokingly replied that he’s found that the best strategy to keeping a happy marriage was learning how to say “Yes, honey, you’re right. I’m sorry.” I laughed and told him that when it came to having an intimate and healthy relationship with me, saying sorry was not enough, at least some of the time.