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Death & Taxes: Filing Alone After My Husband's Death

In the eight months since my husband's sudden death, I made it through the first Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's Day and Easter. For each one, I had friends and family in place to spend time with. The last thing on my mind was the need to be prepared for grieving around the "first" tax preparation.

“She Is Not Ready, But You Are. What To Do?”

“She Is Not Ready, But You Are. What To Do?”

Ready for what? Ready to come? Ready to commit? Ready to go out? Okay, so my mind goes first to sex, but really, with a question like this, it doesn’t matter the scenario. The issue is in how the question is phrased. “She’s not ready.” That is not a complete sentence and lacks any context. Without context, there is no understanding. Communication is the issue. Let’s start backwards: Not ready to go out? By this, I mean you’ve said you’d be ready at 7:30 p.m.

CAN A WOMAN BE HAPPY IN HER RELATIONSHIP?

CAN A WOMAN BE HAPPY IN HER RELATIONSHIP?

When my last relationship broke up, I had a chance to talk to my ex post-mortem and ask him how he was feeling. Now, I’ll be honest, I was hoping for something along the lines of “I’m heartbroken and I want you back!” Instead, what I got was an expression of relief: he told me he felt glad to be “free” of my “expectations” for him. That he couldn’t make me happy, so he was glad not to have to try anymore. Great. Thanks, Ex-BF.

Mending A Broken Heart

Mending A Broken Heart

Anyone who has had their heart broken (perhaps, more than once??) knows that what is damaged even more than your pride, what is lost even more than your dreams for the future, what is even harder to get over than the ache of loss, is your ability to trust someone again. If you’re anything like me, learning to trust again is scarier and more difficult than climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro (not that I’ve ever tried that, mind you).

3 Tips for Dating Confidence

3 Tips for Dating Confidence

Out there in the big world of dating, every single wants supreme confidence – confidence in themselves, confidence in who they want to attract, confidence in how to act on the first few nerve wracking dates, confidence that they will have fun no matter what, confidence enough to be happy without being in a relationship. How do we get to this point of supreme dating confidence? Well, I’ve put together three essential tips to help you:

Warning: May Cause Real Communication!

Warning: May Cause Real Communication!

Or how to listen so he'll talk and how to talk so she'll listen. Listening intently to another person may just be the most amazing gift you can offer. I used to work on the 24/7 suicide crisis line in France and we were trained in Carl Rogers non-directive empathetic listening skills. When a call would come in, I would greet the caller with, "Hello, SOS Amitié." And wait for the person to speak up. Sometimes it would take a rather long moment, moments in which hesitations and silences give a lot of information to the intuitive listener.

5 Ways To Know You Are Dating a Mean Person

5 Ways To Know You Are Dating a Mean Person

Everyone is a mixed bag, the kindest person will become irate at times, and the meanest person can be found every now and then throwing some change at a homeless person.  Dating, that effervescent mix of loneliness, want, desire and impatience, leads to blurry vision.  How do you know when the person who is sharply ordering that second dessert to the slow waitress is mean or just having a bad day?