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Why Non-Monogamy May Be Hard

Why Non-Monogamy May Be Hard

Lately, it seems like more and more couples are opening themselves up to new versions of the old relationships. Still wanting to stay committed and bound to their primary partner, but open to exploring more avenues of truth and honesty by letting their partners know that 1) “Hey, guess what sometimes, I am attracted to other people,” (this in and of itself is such a great thing for couples to be able to share, even if they are and decide to stay monogamous) and, 2) “Hey maybe we can

What Do Men And Sandwiches Have In Common?

What Do Men And Sandwiches Have In Common?

During conversations, does he respond too quickly with suggestions/solutions and you're sick of it? I hear this complaint often from my coaching clients who are women. And it all comes down to how differently men and women view communication. Over time, my clients and I have found using a particular image helps brings about positive changes. The metaphor involves (believe it or not!) building a sandwich.

The Non-Doers Guide to Love

The Non-Doers Guide to Love

Love is assigning value: Tending, doing, and giving-actions bring forth more love.  Eager-to- bond females must remember this, and give men they are interested in the space to come forward. Hold this space, and don’t jump in so fast to do for the man. Let him use his effort, let him plan for dates, pick you up and pay.

Delineating on the Date

Delineating on the Date

First I had a girl dog:: she’d roll over submissively, as if guilty of something (when she wasn’t) and she needed to be reassured.  Then I got a male dog: he’d look me right in the eye and lift his leg around different corners, as if testing my reaction. I chalk it up to hormones. A man can be a tester of boundaries, and he is watching your reaction to see what you’ll let him get away with….

Are you looking for  a Date or a Playdate

Are you looking for a Date or a Playdate

I watch it happen all the time, dating gone bad; dating gone awry. Single again and looking for love in all the right, and wrong, places. Or, is “love”  what you are really looking for? One of the greatest challenges we all face when moving forward after a breakup, or divorce, is not really knowing what we really want when we jump full on into the dating scene again; and it is the one thing that holds us back from getting what we want in love, and in life.

Is It Smart To Use Sex As A Reward?

Is It Smart To Use Sex As A Reward?

You’ve asked politely. You hinted. You argued. You begged. When it comes to doing dishes, cleaning and laundry, you want your partner to share the load and your he either habitually forgets or refuses. Nothing seems to work to get your partner to take responsibility for a portion of the housework and so you do something you never thought you’d do...you reward him with sex.

How Narcissism Harms Your Relationship

How Narcissism Harms Your Relationship

[Note: In this article, I speak as a masculine man in relationship to feminine women. Please adjust the gender terms to suit your relationship life.] In previous articles, I described narcissism as an extreme form of selfishness. But narcissism goes beyond mere self-interest. It’s more akin to egotism — an excessive or exaggerated sense of self-importance. In the extreme, a narcissist exists alone at the center of his (or her) known universe.