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For some single women, the holiday season is the absolute worst time of year. Answering awkward questions from nosey relatives. Going to parties and functions alone. Not having someone to kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve. Another year has passed and you didn't find love. I was still single at 40. I vividly remember the sadness, loneliness and disappointment. Yet, this is supposed to be the season of hope and a time when people renew their belief in miracles. A time when:
When news of a tragedy like the one in Newtown, CT this week hits us, most of us experience sadness, followed sooner or later by anger. This is a normal part of Grief, a complicated emotional process that is associated with a loss. Though most of us have not lost a loved one, we have all experienced a loss in one sense. We have all lost a little of the sense of safety and security we need to carry around with us in order to be able to function and focus on our daily business.
There are no words to describe what happened on Friday at a Newtown Connecticut Elementary School. Even being an expert in my field, it was difficult to find the words to talk about this on television. As a mother of two children ages 5 and 7, I was in a sheer panic when I heard the news. As a parent I thought, "We should be able to send our children off to school not fearing for their safety." Unfortunately this is no longer the case.
I watched as my children left in their dad’s car this past time, my daughter not wanting to go, tears running down her face as her father told her to get in. The police were standing there because I had called them just after a CPS report was filed on how their father was being abusive towards them. My soon to be ex-husband pulled the court order papers out of his pocket and handed it over to the police officer after he had just spoken to my 9 year old little daughter and my 11 year old son. They both told the office that they did not want to be at their father’s house.
I’ve often found the title “co-parenting” somewhat of a humorous irony, a conundrum. Think about it. Here you have two people that just went through an emotionally hurtful process of divorce and in many instances despise each other. Then it is suggesting that they be calm enough to have a mature conversation about parenting. It’s like the democrats and republicans suddenly compromising to prevent the fiscal cliff after four years of resentment.
Our nation as a whole tends to stigmatize and minimize the reality and the extent of the impact of mental health issues on our country. Mental health is always on the top of the list when budgets are slashed on local, state, and national levels. Insurance companies are making excessive profits at the expense of families ability to afford services. The latest trend with insurance companies is to increase deductibles and co-pays and charge exorbitant premiums making mental health services inaccessible to many.
The aftermath of a national tragic event like the devastation at Sandy Hook Elementary brings to life a world of painful wounds. Based on previous experiences and knowledge people react in three ways. They either get pissed enough to take action toward change using the event to move them toward more life and love, avoid pain becoming indifferent and apathetic, or stay stuck in pain and frustration captive in their own thoughts and behaviors.
One of the most common ways that we give up our power and contribute to the escalation of conflict in our relationships is when we blame. Anytime we remain focused on our partner’s behavior, we abandon our possibility for control and change since we are the only one we are capable of changing. If you are tired of feeling powerless in your relationship and are ready to take accountability for real change, here are five tips for staying empowered during conflict.
Those of us not directly impacted by the tragic events of this past Friday in Connecticut [although as a human race we are all touched by this loss] cannot begin to know or understand the pain and suffering these devastated people are experiencing. Please do not let this stop you from reaching out as a compassionate, caring and loving friend. Even if you are in doubt then follow Midge’s lead from a wonderfully, comforting book ‘Tear Soup’…"Midge wouldn’t try to talk anyone out of anything anyone was feeling...I don’t know what to say,