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 Listening For The “Right” Voice to Motivate You

Listening For The “Right” Voice to Motivate You

One of my favorite jokes is about the guy who is stranded in his house and the floodwaters are rising threatening his life. He prays to his Maker and asks on the first floor, begs on the second floor and eventually screams from the rooftop to just save him – “send a helicopter, send a speedboat, just save me!” Of course, he does not get what he asks for and succumbs to the inevitable. When he gets to the “Pearly Gates” he is upset and wants to speak to the person in charge.

 Listening For The “Right” Voice to Motivate You

Listening For The “Right” Voice to Motivate You

One of my favorite jokes is about the guy who is stranded in his house and the floodwaters are rising threatening his life. He prays to his Maker and asks on the first floor, begs on the second floor and eventually screams from the rooftop to just save him – “send a helicopter, send a speedboat, just save me!” Of course, he does not get what he asks for and succumbs to the inevitable. When he gets to the “Pearly Gates” he is upset and wants to speak to the person in charge.

How I Will Survive Valentine's Day Without My First Love

How I Will Survive Valentine's Day Without My First Love

  My sweet and spunky mom died in January and I’m about to experience my first Valentine’s Day without her. I’ve had moments where I can’t help but wonder why it hurts so much.  After all, it’s normal for a parent to go first.  It’s the natural order of things. It happens all of the time.  So, why is it so painful?

Why Normal Could Ruin Your Sex Life

Why Normal Could Ruin Your Sex Life

There's a new book out about love, sex, and relationships called The Normal Bar. It's likely to be a best seller because most of us tend to be curious about how we are doing in the bedroom. We wonder if we are normal. Do other people feel like they don't have time for sex?  Do other women get easily distracted during sex?  Do other people feel like they have to beg their partner for sex?"

What's The Difference Between Approval & Appreciation?

What's The Difference Between Approval & Appreciation?

At one of my three-day advanced mini-intensive in Santa Barbara we had a wonderful discussion about the difference between approval and appreciation. I had never thought about the difference until someone asked about it. As so often happens when someone asks a question, the answer came through me and others and delighted all of us.

Ten Things People Don’t Know about Therapy

Ten Things People Don’t Know about Therapy

I recently had a first session with a client who said, about halfway into the hour “Wow. I like you. I’m surprised.” I laughed, but I knew what the client meant. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I encounter a lot of people who waited far too long to come in for counseling because they didn’t understand what it was or how it could help them. When they do finally come in, I hear all the reasons why they haven’t come in sooner. There’s a lot of bad information out there.

The 7 Step Cookie Jar Method To Lure In The Men

The 7 Step Cookie Jar Method To Lure In The Men

The 7 Step Cookie Jar Method To Have An Epic Dating Life & Great Communication I’m always talking about dating, sex, love and relationships with all kinds of people that I meet from all walks of life, and I pay attention to what they say. A man I know, who I kind-of met online, and kind-of met in a coffee shop, have become great friends and you can guess what our favorite topics is… relationships.

What if you HATE Valentine's Day?

What if you HATE Valentine's Day?

When you're in love, the Valentine's season is just perfect. All those red hearts, the roses and the sickeningly sweet commercial messages seem to be written just for you. And when you're not in love, and you so wish you were -- all that red and pink just feels like a heavy, thick, syrupy wet blanket.  Yes? Here's how to embrace Valentine's Day when your love life is just not happening at the moment....