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Learning To Love Others & Yourself More Deeply

Learning To Love Others & Yourself More Deeply

He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.  ~Lord Herbert Before we can begin to examine the necessity for an act of forgiveness, it is important to understand the condition that makes its’ need necessary.  In other words, what must happen to us that would require the need for forgiveness?  One way to think of this is that if one were to assume that forgiveness is a healing agent than one must assume that an emotional injury is present.  It is possible that at times these injuries or wounds are se

Creating Success In The Face Of Diabetes

Creating Success In The Face Of Diabetes

Many people have a partner with a chronic illness and feel uncomfortable because they do now know what to say to comfort them, or how to support them.  People with Diabetes face unique challenges as their partners are not sure what they should be eating and when they ask if certain foods are OK, they are perceived as being the Diabetes Police.  When the feel their partner is eating or doing something inappropriate and they say nothing, they are perceived as uncaring.  I invite you to

6 Steps For Overcoming Obstacles With Teens

6 Steps For Overcoming Obstacles With Teens

“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.  It’s a phrase worth considering at every brick wall we encounter, and at every disappointment.  It’s a reminder that failure is not just acceptable, it’s often essential.”  Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

The Dos & Don'ts Of Traveling With A Singles Group

The Dos & Don'ts Of Traveling With A Singles Group

Winter is here and you may have fantasies around being in a warm, tropic island, sipping pina coladas and relaxing that may be calling out to you. Or, how about an active ski vacation where you are skiing at a top ski resort with great apre ski activities? Or maybe you yearn for a more exotic vacation where you cruise along the Pacific Ocean to Thailand, Singapore and Vietnam? As a single person, I recommend you consider traveling with a singles’ group so you can meet great people while having the vacation of your dreams.

Men and Talking Dirty

Men and Talking Dirty

As I have pointed out many times before, men are visual creatures.  We see something, and if we find it to be at all sexually appealing, we are apt to become aroused.  Consequently I think most would agree that sight is a primary sexual stimulator for the male of the species.  What may surprise many people is that the sense that stands second-in-line for the title of “most likely to create a ruckus in our lower regions” is…sound.  Sure touch is important to us - but that requires active participation

Break-up Grief Myth 1 - "I know how you feel."

It felt like my heart was broken, shattered like a figurine suddenly knocked off the shelf. I should have, but I didn’t see it coming. I felt lost and alone. Hopeless and grieving. I felt sad and guilty that my children were hurting so badly and nothing I could do could make it better. I couldn't figure out what to do next. I didn’t know who I was anymore.  Sometimes I'd wake up in a panic in the night, afraid of ... I don't even know what I was afraid of. So when my neighbor said "I know how you feel Terri ..." I almost came apart. HOW on earth could she possibly know how I felt? I didn't even know! And if she did know, how did she survive? I heard the same thing, over and over and over again.... for years!

Don't Ever Let Your Heart Get Hardened

Don't Ever Let Your Heart Get Hardened

Have you ever had a song, one that you haven’t heard in years, just start playing in your head?  It happened to me the other day, and I realized I was actually singing it softly to myself. It was a song that used to be one of my favorites back in my single days, and it had been my mantra many times after a devastating break up.  I’d long since forgotten it, but at the time, I would belt out the lyrics at the top of my lungs (often with tears rolling down my face) whenever I was dr

Guys and Dolls

Guys and Dolls

     Early doll-playing encourages the psychological skill of projection of potential and personality into an inert doll. Young girls learn to bring things to life via our own imaginations. These capacities can brighten and enrich the feminine inner psyche. Yet, dating men to assess them as potential husbands, we have to 'receive' the data and signals from them: Receiving is the psychological opposite of projection! Woe to women with wishful thinking who can only see the potential or positive qualities they want to see.