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Do Women Want To Be Ravished?

Do Women Want To Be Ravished?

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Dr. Adam Sheck describes the psychology behind submissive fantasies as a way to reignite passion.

Dr. Adam Sheck describes the psychology behind submissive fantasies as a way to reignite passion. Do Women Want To Be Ravished? As a psychologist and couples counselor, I’ve been asked this question by men, women and couples for the last twenty years. My specialty is helping couples bring back the passion in their relationship and using fantasy is one way of doing this. And the fantasy of being ravished, being lovingly, yet forcefully taken by her man is consistently in the top five female fantasies, often the number one fantasy. This is different than the “rape fantasy” which has often been misrepresented.

WEINERS INTERNET INFIDELITY – IS IT STILL MONOGAMY IF YOU ONLY CH

WEINERS INTERNET INFIDELITY – IS IT STILL MONOGAMY IF YOU ONLY CH

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Is it cheating if its online and in photos, texts and emails?

Is it cheating if its online and in photos, texts and emails? By Tammy Nelson, PhD If your husband was sending texts of his penis to other women would you feel like he was cheating?  Probably.  Most women feel betrayed when their partner has any kind of sexual contact with other women.  The internet is no different. By Tammy Nelson, PhD

3 Quick Tips For Positive Communication For Busy Families

3 Quick Tips For Positive Communication For Busy Families

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Do you have a child who shuts down, melts down, or acts out & you need some strategies that work NOW

Do you have a child who shuts down, melts down, or acts out & you need some strategies that work NOW Is your family swamped by too many things on the to do list, leaving little time for deep connections with those in your family? Maybe you've seen your child become upset and overwhelmed, but you're so depleted and rushed there is little time to understand what your child is really feeling? If children do not feel heard and validated they will express their feelings in other unhealthy ways, leading to possible behavior and emotional problems. That means your child may have tantrums, act out, shutdown, or meltdown as an attempt to express their needs.

Self Improvement can Improve Your Love Relationship

Self Improvement can Improve Your Love Relationship

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How Focusing on your Own Emotional Business can Improve Conflict Resolution and Enhance Intimacy

How Focusing on your Own Emotional Business can Improve Conflict Resolution and Enhance Intimacy The factors that create and sustain a successful relationship can sometimes seem elusive.  Particularly in the environment in which we find ourselves today… We are inundated with news of divorce, infidelity, cyber cheating, emotional affairs and so on.

Is He (or She) a Keeper?

Is He (or She) a Keeper?

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This catalog of virtues can help you decide

This catalog of virtues can help you decide We’ve all fallen for someone, but that doesn’t mean the object of our affections is right for the long haul. How do we know if he or she is great for a fling, or Mr. (or Ms.) Right? Here are seven qualities to look for in a “keeper.”

Differentiated Love

Differentiated Love

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In fact our personal relationships are the most gentle and profound mechanisms of growth

In fact our personal relationships are the most gentle and profound mechanisms of growth “Good sex isn’t about just elevating your heart rate — it’s about elevating your heart.” -David Schnarch The crossroads between our genitals and our neurology turns out to be a super highway. One of the most powerful transformers in the new science of brain re-wiring occurs during deep intimate connection. As some of the mystery of sexual intimacy is revealed through the emerging science of neurobiology, we begin to understand how we are shaped and re-shaped by the people we love and who love us back.

Start Foreplay with the Dishes

Start Foreplay with the Dishes

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“I like hugs and I like kisses, but what I really love is help with the dishes!” ~Author Unknown For years the most significant and unresolved conflict that lived between my husband and I had to do with the division of labor in our home. In fact, this is one of the top mechanisms of dissatisfaction and ultimate destruction of many long-term partnerships.

The Conversational Kiss

The Conversational Kiss

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The dynamics of a great kiss are multi-layered and complex

The dynamics of a great kiss are multi-layered and complex “A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That’s basic spelling that every woman ought to know.” -Jeanne Bourgeois   If ever there was a communication mechanism that predicted the destiny and longevity of a romantic interlude, it is the kiss. What we say with our kisses, as well as how they are received and understood is the basis for all the sexual conversations that they initiate.

Do unconscious fears of infection influence your social life?

Do unconscious fears of infection influence your social life?

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Unconscious fears of disease influence who you like, who you dislike, and even how you view yourself

Unconscious fears of disease influence who you like, who you dislike, and even how you view yourself How do unconscious fears of disease affect your everyday social life, influencing who you find attractive, who you are prejudiced against, and even how you view yourself? Mark Schaller is a professor at the University of British Columbia who has done a series of fascinating studies on the links between fear of disease and social psychology.

Without Action, Dreams Are Just Want Tos 'n Wish I Dids

Without Action, Dreams Are Just Want Tos 'n Wish I Dids

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It takes action to move dreams into reality ~ you can imagine your life or you can live it!

What's on your bucket list (in no particular order)?... a fulfilling, intimate relationship a career doing what you love and earning what you deserve travel time to have nurturing, connected friendships and family relationships self-expression through creative and artistic endeavors home schooling your children owning a bed and breakfast getting fit buying your first home Fill in your own dreams 'n desires ____________