If you are a couple in distress and not sure if you will ever figure out how to connect again, fear not. There is a way out of despair and back to each other. That golden roadmap to connecting with your partner again is called – in more official lingo – Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I know, “therapy” doesn’t sound as interesting, but before I lose you, please read on…because EFT works, and if you feel desperate to connect with your partner once again, it may be for you.
Most people may never meet their heroes. I am bless to say that I have raised one of mine. I am emotional and giddy that this weekend, I will get to see my hero cross a major milestone. I will be able to hug him and maybe even get a picture of the two of us. He has inspired me to be a better person. His vision, strength and determination are my beacons for living my best life. He is as big to me as any famous person.
In the eight months since my husband's sudden death, I made it through the first Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's Day and Easter. For each one, I had friends and family in place to spend time with. The last thing on my mind was the need to be prepared for grieving around the "first" tax preparation.
Ready for what? Ready to come? Ready to commit? Ready to go out? Okay, so my mind goes first to sex, but really, with a question like this, it doesn’t matter the scenario. The issue is in how the question is phrased. “She’s not ready.” That is not a complete sentence and lacks any context. Without context, there is no understanding. Communication is the issue. Let’s start backwards: Not ready to go out? By this, I mean you’ve said you’d be ready at 7:30 p.m.
When my last relationship broke up, I had a chance to talk to my ex post-mortem and ask him how he was feeling. Now, I’ll be honest, I was hoping for something along the lines of “I’m heartbroken and I want you back!” Instead, what I got was an expression of relief: he told me he felt glad to be “free” of my “expectations” for him. That he couldn’t make me happy, so he was glad not to have to try anymore. Great. Thanks, Ex-BF.
“You’re not good enough!” This thought plagues all women (and men), regardless of size. We know we would be successful in life if only we had more money, were taller, were thinner, had more hair, had straigh hair, were younger, were older, etc.
Anyone who has had their heart broken (perhaps, more than once??) knows that what is damaged even more than your pride, what is lost even more than your dreams for the future, what is even harder to get over than the ache of loss, is your ability to trust someone again. If you’re anything like me, learning to trust again is scarier and more difficult than climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro (not that I’ve ever tried that, mind you).
Out there in the big world of dating, every single wants supreme confidence – confidence in themselves, confidence in who they want to attract, confidence in how to act on the first few nerve wracking dates, confidence that they will have fun no matter what, confidence enough to be happy without being in a relationship. How do we get to this point of supreme dating confidence? Well, I’ve put together three essential tips to help you:
I apologize in advance if I offend anyone, but sometimes the truth hurts and I am going to be completely honest here. I, Michelle Smith IAT, CPD have not only been a babysitter and nanny for over 14 years myself, but as the owner of Embracing Babies Staffing Agency I refer babysitters and nannies out to parent clients for my business.