Ahhh ... November. Are you eating pumpkin pie and feeling like a turkey because you're single? Well, there are a hundred ways to cook, stuff, bake, slow roast, dry rub, fry, and barbecue a turkey — and your dating life — over the holidays. Don't over stuff yourself with two helpings of buttery sweet potatoes, green beans cooked with bacon, chocolate cake, cookies, seven layer salad, and mashed potatoes just because you're single.
As Christopher Columbus said, you can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. It's hard to let go of that shore post-divorce or after any relationship tanks. No matter how bad the relationship was or how much you wanted out, it's still what you've known, possibly for a very, very long time.
Ok we have all heard the news Hostess brand snack foods the company that makes Twinkies, HoHos, Ding dongs and Snowballs is going belly up. So did you stock up on your favorite guilty pleasure? Maybe even hide them away from your partner? So how do you indulge without feeling like you are having an affair the size of the general Petraeus scandal. The main thing is to remain calm; even though the store shelves may now be empty of your favorite treats there is a warehouse full of them ready to be delivered to a store near you next week.
If I read one more email about gratitude I just might…be more grateful. LOL. I know, know…Thanksgiving doesn’t always make us feel instantly grateful. For some of us this Epic Holiday is like a gigantic beacon reminding us of what’s not quite right. Could be that someone’s missing, or maybe you feel displaced, out of touch, lonely, or not as connected to your family in the way you have been or would like to be right now.
With Thanksgiving weekend around the corner, it can seem as though there won’t be enough time to get everything ready. Shopping lists, invitations, travel plans, details, searching for last year’s décor - it’s enough to forget what the holiday was designed for, which is thankfulness and gratitude for all we have! It might be a stretch to be thankful for the pre-holiday panic, but putting the to-do list to the side for a moment will do wonders to take the stress out of your week, not only this week but all through the holiday season.
It may, at first glance, appear that a love addiction is not really a bad thing. After all why should it be a problem to be deeply, madly and fully committed to the object of your affection and love? Why should it be critical to be able to separate yourself from your partner, after all aren't people in love to be "one"?
About six weeks ago, I met an amazing guy. He’s amazing because he makes me laugh, and I love how he takes care of me, and he is so easy to get along with, and he’s charming, he’s a great kisser, he knows his sports, he’s very intelligent and can talk about anything, and most importantly, he’s very passionate about life and what he does. There are so many great things about him, and it’s only been six weeks. There’s so much more I get to learn about him and he about me. Awesome, right?
Every woman dreams about it – finally meeting the love of your life who sweeps you off of your feet, and living with him happily ever after. He is your Prince Charming, and your life will never be the same as it was before he came along. But for many of us, it’s not quite as easy as it is in the storybook romance. We fall in love, and everything seems to be going as it should, but there’s still those nagging little doubts – is he the one? Is this the romance that will never be bettered? Is this my Price Charming?
Thanksgiving doesn’t need to be just time for family gatherings. I’ve been single for many years, alternating with 3 months here, 6 months there as part of a couple. Unless the man I meet today after my writing class grabs those chemistry vibes I hope for, I may be on my own on November 22. Hey, great! I may be at my son’s or my daughter’s for the big turkey meal. But whether I am or not, I can think of 6 things that would make that Thursday stand out.
I’ve gotten a lot of questions about dating protocol regarding whether we should go ahead and call him, or wait it out and see if he comes around. It got me thinking about this topic and what’s really going on with this whole "should I call him?", "how long should I wait before it’s ok to call him?", etc. Why do we put so much of our energy into trying to figure out this simple decision? Because it has such implications. Or does it? Does it really matter if we call him or not?