PART TWO Tell me how you were loved, and I’ll tell you how you make love. Our emotional history shapes our erotic blueprint and is expressed in the physicality of sex. Accordingly, there is a strong connection between our attachment map (defined as our expectations, conflicts, hopes and disillusionment with intimate connections) and our sexual feelings and behaviors: Tell me how you were loved, and I’ll tell you how you make love.
One of the commonest questions anyone working in the addiction field is asked is "How can I stop my wife/husband/partner from drinking so much?" Unfortunately the short answer to that is - you can't. They will stop when it suits them, whether that is because they hurt so much or because circumstances change. That is painful to hear, but nevertheless it is true.
The Cycle of Being Single, Dating, in Relationships, Breaking Up, etc. Every relationship status (e.g. single, in a relationship, separated, engaged, married, divorced) presents opportunities for us to enjoy and embrace. At different times in my life, I wasn’t able to fully enjoy all of my relationship statuses. When I was single, I wanted to be in a relationship. When I was in a not-so-good relationship, I wanted to be single. When I experienced a painful breakup, I wanted to be in a good place as a single person.
My friend Dr. David Buss and his colleague Dr. Cindy Meston wrote a wonderful book called "Why Women Have Sex." In it, they discuss penis size and sexual satisfaction. Their results may surprise you.
You can get it back with sexual intimacy counseling and so much more. Be proactive in your marriage this year with intimacy counseling. Dawn Michael MFT clinical sexologist and relationship counselor, will give you the tools to make your sex life more passionate, sexy, fun, intimate and sensual.
When you are in the stages of getting to know someone, it’s important to make sure that you are giving yourself rave reviews. This does not mean fabricating stories or exaggerating your successes. Instead, it means that you should work to present yourself in a good light.
As a psychologist, I have learned many things about human behavior that I find very interesting and amazing. One such aspect deals with how generational patterns of relating repeat themselves, sometimes with pinpoint accuracy. I am sure many of you may be aware of this phenomenon when considering alcoholism and those that have been sexually abused. These generational patterns seem pervasive in our day and age. One only need pick up a newspaper and read about yet another case where perpetrator was a victim of the same kind of abuse that he or she is caught in the a
If you are a stepparent or entering a relationship where blending with the kids is important, there are important things to remember, especially during the holiday season. These suggestions may help you build a bridge of peace with the kids.
How do You Know You’re Keeping Your Love Alive? In her thought provoking article in the December 1 New York Times, Sonja Lyubomirsky, a University of California Professor of Psychology, makes the wise and researched observation that the thrill of new love fades after about two years.
Do you find yourself very often inexplicably drawn to a project guy – a guy with some serious personal problems, emotional, financial, or physical, that you think you can help? Maybe it's the guy that just can't seem to hold a job, or the guy who drinks too much or has drug dependencies. The end result is that you typically find yourself in a relationship where you are caretaking for a partner, and feeling responsible for his wellbeing in one or more areas of his life. You may even be enabling his dependencies without even realizing it.