While a lot of articles on finding love focus on what to do, there is a lot to be learned from what NOT to do. After 7 years of working with women to attract their soulmate, here are our insights on how spiritual, single, successful women undermine themselves and jeopardize their love life.
We Goddesses love shoes right? Well I do NOW … for a few years I was on ‘simplify my shoes’ kick and had only one pair of sensible black shoes during those dark days … but I digress. Many shoes that show off our delightful feet are open and strappy. But what happens when you take your feet out of woolly socks for the first time in months and see just what they’ve been doing in the dark?
You’re probably aware that there are a host of articles, blogs and books on hot, sexy ways to turn on your lover with words and voice tone, including my own recent YourTango articles; “The Power of Pillow Talk” and "4 Quick Tips for a Sexier Voice". However, the other side of this equation is rarely addressed: the role of the listener.
As an Intimacy Coach, I find that when I’m one-to- one with my clients they are very vocal about what’s missing and what’s not but when their partner joins – eyes drop to the floor quick! I’m not talking about people who have been together just a few short months either. This happens to couples who have been put in some serious time (over ten years!).
Anyone who has ever owned a dog knows that training something that does not speak your language is all about voice tone and behavioral rewards. If the dog gets a treat when he does the trick you want, what does your son get when he does his trick?
When a love relationship or marriage ends you might experience a broken heart. Even if the breakup was your idea and it seemed to be for the “best,” you could still be left feeling empty or grieving. At a time like this, you cope as best you can with your intense emotions and-- hopefully-- allow yourself to heal and move on with your life. But what an unpleasant surprise when you think that you're “over” the breakup only to be triggered and then realize that you're actually not!
To be wrongly accused is a horrible feeling-- especially when the one accusing you is your love. It's uncomfortable when you've made a mistake, haven't fessed up yet and are walking around dreading that fateful moment when you'll have to come clean about what you did. On the other hand, it's almost unbearable to be blind-sided by allegations from your partner that have completely no grounding in the facts that are clear to you.
Weehawken, N.J., June 27, 2011 – Psychotherapist and relationship coach David S. Wilde has released a CD, "Peeling the Onion and Mending Your Marriage", a "how-to" guide for couples, providing practical tools, techniques and guided meditations to help spouses escape endless bickering. David is a former NY trial lawyer who switched to the more amicable career of helping couples.
To live your best life with your true love, it’s all about YOU… YOUR peace of mind, your mindset, your vibrational level, your joy. YOU. I recently read a true story about a woman who was single and sick of it. She had been doing all the “inner work” to magnetize her soulmate. She had read all the books, set up her vision board, and her love altar, she even had her list complete, but nothing was happening in the love arena.
Have you ever found yourself drawn to the same type of person over and over again, simply because they are your "type"? Do you routinely email the same kind of men on your online dating site? Or perhaps you find yourself in the same kind of relationships, one after the next. It's as if your dating life is on some sort of loop, and you can't change the song.