In addition to everything else that comes with a cancer diagnosis, the dirty little secret that no one talks about is how it affects intimacy and sexuality.
Everyone wants to be happy, right? We work, love, travel, pine, long for, dream and plan in hopes of bringing ourselves some pleasure. The quest for feeling good, actually, drives just about everything we do. I’ll bet right this minute you can think of things that would make you very, very happy indeed. And yet, despite a lot of effort you may not be as happy as you’d like. What’s standing in your way?
For an intimate connection to grow, it needs attention and nurturing. While this is true for every couple, it is mission critical for couples rekindling intimacy after sex or porn addiction has wreaked havoc on their lives. My wife and I call this condition "sex affliction." Sex affliction occurs when a relationship suffers a profound attack against its safety, vulnerability, intimacy, and sex, caused by one partner's sexual betrayal with porn and/or people.
I HATE my thighs. My butt is so big. I am so fat. I am so ugly. I would be attractive if I could just change my nose. How often do these thoughts run through your mind? Why do we do this to ourselves? I cannot tell you how much time I have spent criticizing my body. Analyzing it from every angle, squeezing chunks of flesh and berating myself because I wasn’t perfect. Well, I’m done. I think in some misguided way, those actions were meant to motivate me in some way. It motivated me alright! It motivated me to eat my dissatisfaction.
It’s true that guys normally consider first impressions solely upon the looks of the female. However, women are equally guilty. Can you honestly say that you would want to be approached by the least attractive guy in the room? This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a guy. At the end of the day, guys like to be appreciated for who they are and not what they look like; just as you do.
By Barbara Greenberg, PhD for GalTime.com If you are lucky enough to have a mother who you have a relatively good relationship with for most of your life (no matter how old you are), then you are one lucky person. Here are just a few reasons why we our mothers, in spite of and sometimes for their quirks, deserve to be honored (and not just on Mother's Day). 1. She is invested in the details
New Year festivities is over, all of sudden the year is getting too busy. Deadlines at work, early Flu season, upcoming Valentine's Day all are adding up. I won't blame you if you are feeling a little overwhelmed. Do you wonder why it happens? Understanding a bit of how our brain works might give you some idea.
By Bonnie Brennan, MA, LPC for GalTime.com Flipping the calendar provides many of us with the motivation to reinvent ourselves, which often manifests in the form of a New Year’s resolution. While motivations may be well-intentioned, attempts to change weight or body size could lead to a negative body image and the adoption of unhealthy weight loss regimens.