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Love Lessons From 'Oz The Great & Powerful'

I recently went to see the new Disney movie "Oz the Great and Powerful." You see, as a psychologist and author of the book Follow the Yellow Brick Road: How to Change for the Better When Life Gives You Its Worst, I took a special interest in this film. In my book, I devote an entire chapter to the concept of the wizard, and it is through this lens that I warn my clients to watch out; the wizard will wreck your relationship.

Serenity; A model for understanding

Serenity; A model for understanding

Congratulations to all people in recovery. Recovery can be the most rewarding time of your life. It is exciting to learn new ways of coping with the daily messes of life. Learning to gain a sense of control over your emotional life is a wonderfully gratifying experience. Alas, some of you may still being pushed around by life’s messes and chaos. Fear not, by learning to deal with your emotional response you can have a sense of peace amidst the chaos.

Is Your Bad Behavior Ruining Your Marriage?

Is Your Bad Behavior Ruining Your Marriage?

A great deal of pain is the result of someone acting out an emotion. Very often, that acting-out is mistakenly identified as "expression." You hear, "I have to get my anger out!" as an excuse for yelling, or worse. "I have to express my feelings!" doesn't mean kicking the cat. One of the benefits of psychotherapy is learning the difference between expression and acting-out.

History Lesson: The Germani vs Britons

History Lesson: The Germani vs Britons

I usually catch up on my leisure reading when I travel. Lately I’ve indulged in books about the history of sex, but it’s even more rewarding to find sexy history in non-sexy books.   The History of White People by Nell Irvin Painter is fascinating. Not that I’m a history buff At. All., but it would appear that she’s a super thorough researcher. For example, this tidbit struck me….

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10 Relationship Red Flags

"Is it normal that my husand ... ?" Have you ever asked yourself this question and wondered whether or not that thing your partner just said or did was okay? Many of us second-guess ourselves. We worry that we're making a big deal out of nothing. We don't want to start a fight or make things tense, but certain behaviors feel hurtful or seem like huge red flags.

4 Tips for Communicating with your Partner About Sex

4 Tips for Communicating with your Partner About Sex

Communication is by far the most important ‘sexual enhancement’, because when you’re engaged in each other mentally it’s easier to connect sexually. There’s also the fact that your partner can’t read your mind, so helping them out by communicating your sexual needs will just make it that much more likely to get exactly what satisfies you!

Dear Instagram "Models - Why are you selling your vagina?

Dear Instagram "Models - Why are you selling your vagina?

Dear THOSE Young Women: ​ ​I gotta tell you straight. You might be beautiful. You might be built. You might love your body... and that's great. Seriously... I'm happy for you (no sarcasm). In today's fast-food, overindulged, carbohydrate-addicted world, maintaining a hot figure is challenging. However... let's not kid ourselves. You can look in the mirror and feel proud of your body. You can walk down the street and receive looks and compliments on your beauty. That's not the reason you're on Instagram...

6 Reasons Why Having Kids Is GOOD For Your Marriage

6 Reasons Why Having Kids Is GOOD For Your Marriage

Without a doubt, having kids can be stressful, expensive, exhausting and it can put a strain on your relationship. You’re suddenly responsible for the care and upbringing of this precious little person (or little people) and that can feel like a heavy weight that only gets heavier as the years go on. A recent study of 1,630 married couples found that those with children reported lower “marital satisfaction” than those who did not have children.

What women want

What women want

Austrian neurologist and psychologist Sigmund Freud’s famous statement: “The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What does a woman want?’” If you ask a woman what she wants, her answer will be entirely dependent on highly individualized circumstances: current wants, needs, mental state, age, family situation, hormonal status, and life experience up to the time the question is asked.  

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Can You Get Addicted To Your Vibrator?

"Will I become addicted to my vibrator?" "Once I start using a vibrator, will I be able to climax without it?" "Will using a vibrator make me less sensitive?" These are just a few of the questions that have come up again and again over my ten years as the owner of a successful sex toy business.