Does it seem next to impossible to see eye to eye with your partner these days? No matter how hard you try to reconnect with them, you just can't seem to get the love you want. Have you ever set up arrangements for a family member or a close friend to watch your kids while you plan a romantic weekend with your husband? Have you ever gotten him season tickets to his favorite sports team or went out of his way to make his day? Or perhaps you've spent a lot of money on clothes and makeup to help you feel and look sexy?
We like to think that the holiday season is a blissful time for all, but for many couples, it can create extra stress to an already rocky marriag
"How could you have done this to me, to us? Who are you and who did I marry?" With tears in his eyes, my ex-husband shouted and screamed these questions at me on the day he found out that I'd had an affair.
Imagine that you woke up this morning, and everything you owned was gone. Your clothing was gone, all of it, except for what you were wearing. All your food was spoiled and rotting. All of your furniture was destroyed, unusable, and unsalvageable. All of those little things you cherished through the years, photos, paintings, memorabilia, all gone. All of your children’s toys, schoolbooks, games, all gone. There was no heat, power, or water in your home, if you had a home left that is.
When we hear someone upset or complain, or when someone comes to us with a problem, it's easy, and actually pretty common for us to want to fix the problem for that person. We don’t want to see that person suffering. But in reality, more often than not we actually end up doing the person a disservice by coming from this focus of wanting to fix their problems for them.
Being single during the month of December can pose challenges that you don't have to think about at other times of the year. People who are newly single may struggle as they try to figure out what to do when there isn't a built-in place to go for the holidays.
Studies show that when a woman is feeling good about herself then that sexy energy will radiate out to others around her. Feeling sexy comes from within. Being happy with whom you are and knowing that you are the sexy wife that your husband has dreamt of is the best gift of all. This holiday give yourself a sexy make-over then wrap yourself in a bow and present yourself as the gift. This is sure to not only delight him for the holiday but all year long. Each woman is different in what makes her feel sexy and how to get her mind into it.
Several of my dating coaching clients have contacted me this week feeling crummy about online dating. They are tired of the emailing and the men disappearing. They are bored with guys who don’t follow through or ask for a second date. As a dating coach for women in midlife, I totally understand how disheartening it can be. I myself went through this at 40 to find the man who became my adorable husband of 12 years now.
Let’s admit it. For as exciting and fun as first dates can be, when it comes down to it, it’s hard not to feel nervous and a bit self-conscience before one. With so many unknowns lying ahead (what will we talk about? will he/she be into me? will I be into him/her?), your levels of self-confidence can easily take a nose dive if you’re not careful. This is a problem because, without a doubt, the single most attractive thing in a potential partner is some well-placed confidence.
Dear Coach Steph, I was dating this guy for 6 months, and everything was going great. But, we never said that we were exclusive, so, I started seeing someone else. Anyway, now I am confused. I still like the first guy more, but he found out that I was seeing someone and we had a big fight. I told him that I didn’t care what he thought about me seeing the other guy…but I lied. I really wanted him to say that he wanted to be with me, but I was too scared to say that,