All relationships have to start somewhere and that somewhere, most of the time, is on a first date. So, how do we know after that first date if the guy is deserving of our company for date number two?
As couples plan a wedding, they all too often let the wedding details take precedent over the relationship. Once upon a time, there were dinner dates, texts to say “I love you,” and hand holding. But, now, dinner means menu tastings, texts are sent to the wedding planner and hand holding is out of the question. Instead, a bride’s hands are full of clipboards, wedding notebooks and smart phones.
The Centers for Disease Control just released a study today that examines data from first marriages for men and women ages 15 to 44. The data was collected from 2006 to 2010 by the National Survey of Family Growth with 22,682 respondents. The Associated Press promptly released a story with the headline, "Move-In Before Marriage No Longer Predicts Divorce". But, that's not exactly what the study shows.
Why can't you burn that ugly, stubborn body fat? Good question. Watch television or surf the internet for one hour and you will find quick solutions for burning your fat. There's only one problem with this.....there are no quick solutions for burning body fat and losing weight! Start your fat burn adventure by burning total body fat. Never do "spot fat reduction," such as targeting abdominal fat. Spot reduction won't work.
Sometimes we don’t even know what it looks like, what it feels like, or who they are. We are waiting for this and that or him or her and we don’t know what it would be like. Other times we don’t know what we are waiting for, yet we know that it is missing in our life. The part of I don’t know or the space where we sit patiently waiting is just as important as winning the lottery. Suddenly the shift happens, new life enters and it is a new beginning. Here I celebrate you.
I want to share my expanded vision for the WISE Women Network: that together we are all WORTHY, INSPIRED, SUPPORTED and ENGAGED. I want to get into the WORTH piece today, at least a little bit (because it's a BIG issue for us). I believe the need to feel worthy is the most difficult requirement in today's society for women. It is also the desire that is least often addressed or satisfied. It's almost gotten trite, this notion of self-worth. But cynicism around the idea does not change the need for it.
In times of trouble we need a reliable source for honest opinions, not our usual sounding board of family and friends. Why not family and friends? This seems like the most likely place to receive advice. While family and friends want what is best for you, they may not always see the real you. That’s where a third party, an expert, a relationship coach such as myself comes in. This is someone who has no agenda but the one you set for yourself. I want what you want and I will help you get there.
Until 1994, if you wanted to view pornography, you had to get dressed, get in your car, drive to a seedy shop in a bad part of town and fork over hard-earned cash for an overpriced magazine ... all the while hoping not to be seen by the neighbor's teenage kid, your boss, the police or your spouse. Today, thanks to streaming video over the Internet and smart-phones, finding porn doesn't even require getting out of bed.
In my counseling practice, individuals often come to me for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What are their chances of saving their relationship?