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What It Takes To Be Monogamous

Personally, I'm shocked that the TV show The Bachelor and its sister show The Bachelorette are still going strong! The shows' longevity speaks to how focused we are, as a society, on the dating portion of romance. As a culture, we have turned the search for love into a competition, a game, entertainment ... when what we really need are stories and examples of what happens after two people find each other.

Choosing Happiness In Our Lives, Revisited

Choosing Happiness In Our Lives, Revisited

Ten years ago, I wrote how we often make the choice of something else less important over our own and our loved ones’ happiness. This article has generated a lot of positive comments over the years apparently because it resonates with people. With another decade under my belt, I’d like to expand a little on the premise I put forward in that original article.

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How 5 Sandwiches Nearly Ruined A Relationship

It would be funny if it weren't so tragic. A recent CU grad and his girlfriend had been dating for almost three years and things were going very well. You could say they were "serious." Neither one had ever dated anyone else for this long. They enjoyed silly games, working out and healthy debates about editorials in the paper. They knew a lot of the same people, and were committed to finding "the one" and starting a family ... and then five roast beef sandwiches ruined everything.

What To Expect When Dating Foreign Men

What To Expect When Dating Foreign Men

In this chaotic world, dating someone from a country other than your own can be a real adventure. The fascination begins with his sexy accent or the way he mangles your native language. Perhaps he is more passionate than the local men, and he really treats you like a princess. But there are cultural differences to be aware of.

How To Spice Up Your Sex Life With Tantra

How To Spice Up Your Sex Life With Tantra

Hoping to get your pulse racing, your kundalini rising, and your chakras spinning like tops? Explore which path of Tantra will get your aura started. I imagine that 50 shades is actually a modest estimation. This is increasingly true in this modern age, especially now that Tantra is becoming so popular here in the West. Tantra has been around for thousands of years and continues to evolve as Eastern philosophy meets Western psychology.

Choice Decisions: No Crying Allowed

Choice Decisions: No Crying Allowed

All Alone There was absolutely no safe place for me to share about the grief I was feeling.  I knew I couldn’t go to my church and receive anything but condemnation.  The nightmares continued as did the episodes of waking up at night crying.  I made an appointment with a professional counselor in a city 180 miles from my home to seek help. 

4 Things You Might Not Know About Your Abortion

4 Things You Might Not Know About Your Abortion

January 22 was the 40th year landmark of legalized abortion in our nation.  While voluntary pregnancy termination or “vpt” (as I like to refer to it) is not anything women set out to do as a goal “per se, it is a road that millions of women have found themselves on the last four decades.   If you have an abortion secret in your past there are four things you need to know about your choice decision.  

Can You Be A Spender & A Saver?

Can You Be A Spender & A Saver?

We received an email from a woman — we'll call Kelly, who was on a collision course. She had a habit that was driving her crazy! A successful, ambitious woman, Kelly was making herself nuts by shopping and buying what she wanted on the weekend and then returning virtually everything she bought that next week.

Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't Live Like This Anymore

Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't Live Like This Anymore

Dear Dr. Romance:   I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent family, with good strong ethics -my wife calls us the 'Beaver Cleaver Family' .