As a psychologist, I have learned many things about human behavior that I find very interesting and amazing. One such aspect deals with how generational patterns of relating repeat themselves, sometimes with pinpoint accuracy. I am sure many of you may be aware of this phenomenon when considering alcoholism and those that have been sexually abused. These generational patterns seem pervasive in our day and age. One only need pick up a newspaper and read about yet another case where perpetrator was a victim of the same kind of abuse that he or she is caught in the a
If you are a stepparent or entering a relationship where blending with the kids is important, there are important things to remember, especially during the holiday season. These suggestions may help you build a bridge of peace with the kids.
How do You Know You’re Keeping Your Love Alive? In her thought provoking article in the December 1 New York Times, Sonja Lyubomirsky, a University of California Professor of Psychology, makes the wise and researched observation that the thrill of new love fades after about two years.
Do you find yourself very often inexplicably drawn to a project guy – a guy with some serious personal problems, emotional, financial, or physical, that you think you can help? Maybe it's the guy that just can't seem to hold a job, or the guy who drinks too much or has drug dependencies. The end result is that you typically find yourself in a relationship where you are caretaking for a partner, and feeling responsible for his wellbeing in one or more areas of his life. You may even be enabling his dependencies without even realizing it.
Abuse comes in many shapes and sizes; the emotional, physical or the spiritual kind. Whatever it comes wrapped in will be just as impacting. When coaching women to let go of their ex relationships I see all sorts of behavior that their ex exhibits and in some cases it is “abusive”. However, the most abuse I see is actually the self-abuse that my ladies inflict on themselves, when they live in this sort of relationship.
Based on emails I have received from women, It seems like a lot of women already know a guy they want to date, but they don’t know how to get things moving. OR they are waiting for the guy to get things moving. These dating tips for women are designed to help get the ball rolling.
Out with the Old, and In with the New! If you’re ending a relationship, it is best to stop looking backward over your shoulder (like Lots wife, you may turn to salt!); and instead face forward. Get off the ruminative obsessive maze of churning the same regretful thoughts over in your mind. Face new challenges and experiences. A future orientation makes neurochemical sense: Ending a romantic relationship, brain studies show, is like ending a cocaine addiction! We get depressed from dopamine depletion in an un-tickled withdrawing brain reward system.
Loneliness has become an increasing problem in our relationships today. In fact, if you are living in a marriage without receiving love or being able to express heartfelt thoughts and feelings, you struggle to have a meaningful relationship. Heartache and loneliness results from disappointment of not having your dreams fulfilled by the most important people in your life. Everyone yearns and desires in a relationship: to be loved, accepted, respected, and appreciated by another person.
This Christmas gift idea is guaranteed to win you warm (and maybe even wild) hugs and kisses on Christmas morning! Cut different sizes of hearts out of pretty pink paper. On each heart, write one reason why you love him/her. Go wild and do as many hearts as you can. Be as daring and/or as loving as you wish. Spritz each heart with your favourite Sexual Perfume or Cologne. Wrap it in a gold box with a big bow. Watch him/her melt as he/she opens your gift Christmas morning.
Giving to others can be one of the most fulfilling experiences in life, or it can be one of the most draining. What makes the difference? The difference has to do with WHY you are giving to others. Giving From A Full Heart When we give from a full heart, we are giving because we are so filled up with love that it is overflowing, and we receive great joy in giving to others.