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Taking the Long Road

Taking the Long Road

Challenges. We all have them. Whether they are work, personal, spiritual, emotional, or physically related. There is not one person alive that can say that they have not faced something in their life that they were not sure that they would defeat. But they do- sometimes not how you imagined it, but you fight your way through it. You learn about your grit. Your worth. Your character. YOU.

Hey Gay Girl, You've Got To Love Your Lesbian Self

Hey Gay Girl, You've Got To Love Your Lesbian Self

If you haven't heard this yet, hear it now. You've got to learn to love yourself! Are you still single? Yeah, still single? Damn. Right. Yeah. I know you are missing love and wanting love and hoping for love. But let me interrupt... first you have got to love yourself. It’s time to make a shift gay girl. You’ve got to love yourself and stop waiting for love to show up in someone else. You are already full of it; love that is but you’re not using it.

Don't Let Hurricane Sandy Ruin Your Relationship [EXPERT]
Are you hunkered down for Sandy?

Don't Let Hurricane Sandy Ruin Your Relationship

There is a point of choice. Yes, it's easy to feel frustrated, cold, crabby, temporarily doomed and miserable. These feelings are normal in the wake of a disaster of this proportion. Tension, anxiety, overwhelm, helplessness and depressed feelings are all part of it. You can choose to fight these feelings or sink in them. Sinking is normal but don't stay there too long.

Playtime in your marriage is sacred

Playtime in your marriage is sacred

In most families mom and dad are both working. Financial stressors, and keeping up with busy kids; there isn’t time enough for anything including each other. The first thing to get deleted off our calendars is usually playtime together as a couple. Playtime is thought of as wasteful, and we have our hands full making sure our kids get a little time outdoors. If you ask yourself when the last time was that you played with your partner, you may smile and remember back to pre-marriage days.

Three Ways To Deal With Clutter, Even When You Are Resisting It

Three Ways To Deal With Clutter, Even When You Are Resisting It

I got it! I'm as stuck regarding my reluctant release of papers and unsorted boxes as my friend—I'll call him Pat—is about his depression. I was feeling pretty good about my coaching of Pat who let himself get back into depression. I'd just heard a tape by Tony Robbins who suggested changing one's inner state was as simple as understanding how you created the state of despair, and then seeing that process as your recipe for depression. If you didn't like the outcome of the recipe, go to another recipe and follow the steps toward contentment.

Kick Procrastination In The Butt!

Kick Procrastination In The Butt!

By Leslie Rouder, LCSW,CHt It has long been known that circus elephants have historically been trained to stay tethered to a post by attaching heavy chains to their legs when they are very young so that when they yank or pull at these chains, they are unable to break free.  Within a short amount of time, they give up trying, having learned that it is useless.   From that moment on, they no longer need a heavy chain to hold them because anytime they feel any resistance, no matter how heavy or light the chain, they give up trying, having incorporated the

Do Individuals With ADD Lack Willpower?

Do Individuals With ADD Lack Willpower?

By Leslie Rouder, LCSW,CHt Very often I will hear a parent tell me that his child could not possibly have ADD because he is able to play video games for long hours without being distracted in the least.  Or that one’s spouse can watch a football game without ever being distracted.