“Why does dating have to be so hard?” That is the question that most of my clients always seem to ask during our initial consultation process. Nobody really teaches us how to date. Most of us learn by years of trial and error, some of us learn by observing and others are still in the process of trying to figure out what works for them. They say hind sight is 20/20 but even then, sometimes we find ourselves getting caught up in some of these infamous dating traps that keep us on our search for finding “The One.”
As a parent of two teenage girls, I have to say this is not something I am looking forward to so much, so I delayed the whole experience by sending them to a girl’s school, which so far has worked. However I am not sure how long this will last. As a youth and parent coach I regularly support young girls and their parents in getting through their first heartbreak and here is what I have learnt.
It seems that in your early dating relationships, unlike our justice system, you consider someone guilty until proven innocent. I have seen many examples of this with my clients in situations where my client would jump to a negative conclusion in their dating relationships and almost missed out on a wonderful relationship.
OK lets be brutal here guys a woman will tell untruths the entire day long if necessary to keep life on an even keel and for the most part society accepts this as a ‘norm’ as friendships can be based on overlooking aspects of truth..ie does my butt look big in this? Lie, Lie, Lie and then do what women do, refocus on another aspect that is true, redirect attention to an area that you can be honest and genuine and supportive in.
Satisfying a woman emotionally equals satisfying your needs as a man. You think you’ve met the Woman of Your Dreams? Wonderful! But what’s going to keep her interested and committed to you? What makes a woman stay with a man is a simple yet often overlooked principle–meeting her emotional needs.
Living with a mate who doesn’t express emotions can be one of the most difficult challenges of your life. No matter how much you try to speak to your mate, it’s like you’re speaking to a wall. As one mate said, “Living with my unemotional husband is like living in two different worlds.” Another said, “It’s worse than living in a prison or taking care of another child.” If you wonder why you live with someone who does not fulfill your emotional needs or you work so hard to make the relationship work with little to show for it, he
I have worked with families all over the country. The one question I am often asked is, "How can I increase my child's self esteem?" My answer is always the same, "It begins with you empowering yourself with self acceptance!" When you have self acceptance and self confidence, your children mirror these attributes. After all, as parents we are our children's "Best Role Models."
I’ve been in two imaginary relationships. Both times I was head-over-heels in love, and both times I ended up dumped for another woman. See, in both relationships, things started out casual. There were no strings attached and we were just having fun. At first, I was happy about the arrangement, because I didn’t feel smothered or pressured into making big decisions about commitment or accountability.
About 10 years ago a friend invited me to a yoga class. Just divorced, I was feeling open to new things. Yoga was really not something I'd considered before, but I didn't evaluate it, overthink it or analyze it to death. I just went. It was my first lesson. Here's what I learned about divorce from yoga.
Have you ever encountered those people who will never admit that they did or are doing something wrong? They always have an excuse as to why it's ok or how it is someone else's fault? Always on the defensive. Don't waste your breath on telling them why they are wrong, majority will never admit to it. Their ego gets in the way of that. But the real question is, why do you NEED them to admit to their fault(s)?