Do you know the difference between being nice and being loving? Our society has long trained children to be "nice." Being nice might mean: • Telling white lies so as not to hurt other's feelings, such as agreeing with them when you really disagree. • Listening politely when someone is going on and on, even when you are so bored you can hardly stand it.
Just last week, the Fourth U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in Virginia overturned that state's anti-sodomy laws. The decision was based on the ten-year-old US Supreme Court decision stating that it is unconstitutional to criminalize private, consensual sexual activity between adults, basically voiding all anti-sodomy laws in the US. However, several states kept their anti-sodomy laws in the books, and some even attempt to prosecute citizens for them, as in Virginia.
Recent coverage of the Steubenville, OH rape case noted that people knew what was going on, but chose to look the other way, passively colluding with the abuse. Sticks and Stones by Emily Bazelon is a new book on the culture of bullying, how pervasive it is and what we can try to do to fight it.
You've seen the pictures of men and women of the military rushing off planes and buses to greet their spouses and children. The smiles, the tears, the hugs and the fanfare warm the heart and cause tears to flood the eyes. But what happens after the cameras are put away? What happens after the homecoming festivities are over? Do things go back to pre-deployment state or are they forever changed?
Sometimes we get so used to being in a relationship with someone –even a bad relationship– we forget what it felt like when things were good. There are lots of problems, but we avoid them. And when we do see them, we sometimes don’t do anything.
This guest article from PsychCentral was written by Gerti Schoen, MA, LP We’ve all been there. It’s Sunday morning. The husband wants to see his parents. The wife would rather go take a hike in the woods. Or the other way around. One insists on what they want, the other resists or doesn’t really engage and you’re off arguing what to do with this Sunday afternoon.
You may feel as if you are on an emotional roller-coaster, during and after your divorce. You are grieving over the death of your marriage as well as your hopes and dreams for the future. It is a very traumatic time, yet it is vital that you make life-changing decisions as you go through the process in order to secure your future.
Here’s a little brain teaser for you. Why are all the following equations correct? 1 = 1 24 = 1 1,440 = 1 86,400 = 1 Did you get it right away? Need a clue? OK, here’s a hint…take it one day at a time. Got it now? No? Well, as much as I would enjoy making you rack your brain to try to figure this one out, my space here is limited, so I’ll just tell you. They’re all elements of one day.
Can you imagine that this handsome man would want you to put him in a male chastity device and control his orgasm? This may sound barbaric or even unrealistic that any man would want this, but to some couples it can be a way to add excitement to their sex life.
Are you bored with sex? Do you find yourself often failing to reach climax? Have you become largely uninterested in initiating sex? Fear not – these things are common, especially when you’ve been with a partner for a long time. After several years together, it may feel like you’ve explored every nook and cranny of your partner that there is to discover. Sex feels comfortable, familiar, and almost like a duty. But back when you were first together, it was passionate, fiery, and (multi)orgasmic.