1. How do you both handle a disagreement? A. One or both of us are loud and volatile. We talk over each other, without listening properly. B. We discuss our differences, acknowledge if they have a point and try to calmly work it out. C. One or both of us bottles it up and we become slightly passive aggressive as a result. 2. Are you both happy with the amount of sex you have?
About 12 years ago, a very nice, 55 year old exhausted woman came to me with a very special request. She was a nurse and she worked 12 hour night shifts in the Emergency departments of two hospitals. She told me a story of her life so far. She had married as a virgin 30 years prior. At 17, her husband appeared to be attentive, attractive and good husband material. As their relationship progressed, her husband’s attentiveness evolved into very controlling, emotionally unavailable, demanding, jealous behavior. Because she was of the generation before the baby-boomer
We all know the song little Dick and Jane teased us with in Elementary School: "Katie and Johnny sitting in the tree k-i-s-s-i-n-g. First comes love; then comes marriage; then comes the baby in the baby carriage." There's just one problem with this song today. Maybe it should be rewritten to say: "First comes love, then comes the baby in the baby carriage, then comes marriage." At least that's how it seemed to happen for Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt.
Sherri was shaken. She was living with her fiancé and planning their wedding and had just learned that her best friend had filed for divorce. Sherri said, "I was in her wedding party just a year ago. Everything was wonderful when they lived together. They were together for 5 years before they decided to get married. Things started going downhill right after the wedding. We've been living together for 3 years. Now I'm scared that we won't make it either!"
I am a control freak! Okay, there, I said it. To be honest with you, I stopped trying to be a perfectionist a long time ago, but I still have not been able to shake the need to control my environment. I am getting better. Really, I am. But the reality of it is that I still have a hard time letting things unfold naturally. I try to push things forward before they are ready to blossom all by themselves. Yes, this is one of my biggest flaws. And yet, one of my biggest assets.
A disability or chronic condition, whether it results in muscle weakness, pain, paralysis, or loss of sensation doesn’t necessarily have to cripple your sex life. Some impairments will directly affect your sexual functioning in a negative way, but fortunately there are treatments available. Others will indirectly affect your sexual life by throwing a monkey wrench into your usual sexual routine or messing with your head. Many will do both.
Everyone wants to see that we're ready to tackle the most important relationship of our lives despite our muffin top waists, glasses, frizzy hair and comfort-wear shoes for our aching feet. After all, that is exactly how our grooms wanted us when the "should we get married" conversation ended in a "yes."
So let's say you are in a long-term relationship with the guy or girl of your dreams. Or, let's say you are trying to rekindle an old relationship or you're in a situation with someone whom you have a lot of history with, but you keep sensing some things just aren't the same. In many ways it may seem that a lot of stuff from the past no longer exists in your relationship and you wonder if you can ever go back.
Before you tried online dating, you were always pretty much the monogamous type. Now that you're swimming in a sea of potential suitors, you're considering dating more than one fish at a time. Not so fast, Casanova! Before you start breaking hearts, consider these pros and cons of dating around.
It’s too complicated. What if I’m not happy? What if I make the wrong choice- again? What if he dies? There’s no such thing as a soulmate, anyway. What if he cheats on me? I’m too picky. I’ll have to settle- everyone else I know has. I don’t know how to have a healthy relationship. I’m just damaged somehow. Something must be wrong with me.