Probably most of us have questioned why we have done a few things in the past. Maybe it was breaking up or gaining weight or quitting a job or acting grumpy. 1) What if all you needed to do to find a partner or a job or anything that mattered was a clear awareness of who you are and who you want to be? No promises from anybody, but the concept makes a lot of sense to me.
Breakups can cause all sorts of emotions to rise up and flow to the surface. Sometimes, we are devastated, unable to function by the loss of our love. Other times, we are relieved, happy that we’ve dodged the bullet that is our ex-boyfriend and his super crazy mother. And then there are times we are vindictive, hell bent on making our ex regret their decision.
“Make new friends, keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.”—adage Research conducted by Dr. Dean Ornish and others shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family. But, in our mobile society, keeping friends is not always possible. Long-term friendships are wonderful and valuable, but if you don’t make new connections as you get older, your group of friends may diminish due to death and relocation.
Earth Day is on April 22. Are you ready for it? Can you be eco-friendly and sexual at the same time? When you get fruits, get GE-free food which means free from being genetically modified. There really hasn't been enough studies to know for sure if this food may have any kind of effect on your health.
When I first started as a therapist about 12 years ago, I remember sitting in front of my first few clients thinking that I had the best job in the world because I felt my main role was to help people open up to love. A love coach, how cool was that! My greatest wish was to help people remove whatever blocks there were to loving themselves or loving others. After working with hundreds of clients I realised that this love business was not as simple as it looked. Sometimes it felt, it was just the opposite, and that people seemed hell bent on not living, on rejectin
In my coaching practice, I often come across women who are really confused and stuck as to whether they should stay or go in a relationship. Instead of making a decision, they waiver from wanting to leave, succumbing to their fear of what would happen if they were to, to wanting to avoid the guilt of making the first move. I have been there myself; knowing that I wanted to leave but too fearful of taking the first step – worrying about how guilty I would feel if I were too and how fearful I would feel if I were on my own.
People who are members of Twelve Step anonymous groups often talk about how their Stinkin’ Thinkin' leads them to relapse. Stinkin’ Thinkin’ is what psychotherapists recognize as cognitive distortions. That means that your thinking is twisted. In other words, you believe your thoughts are the truth. When you feel the way you think and your thinking is negative, you might put yourself into a depressed state. Here are some real life examples. Perhaps you will recognize yourself or someone you know.
Having your heart broken is gut-wrenching; it’s like the emotional version of jumping off a ten story building and getting your eyelid caught by a nail on the way down. It’s so powerful, in fact, that it can make us physically ill, destroy us mentally, and cause us to max out our credit cards on cartons of Cherry Garcia and Boone’s Farm.
Our brains have two emotional systems that work simultaneously, males seem to use one system more and females seem to use the other system more. In men as they reach puberty and after their emotional empathy is not the same as a woman's and that boundary is there to prevent men from being influenced by others. Whereas women take into account what others think of them, much more so than men do, which makes men seem less empathetic.
If you find yourself feeling stuck in a situation triggered by someone else's actions or living in circumstances you wouldn't have chosen, take back your power to choose by remembering that the only person keeping you there is YOU!