Want a friends with benefits relationship that doesn't blow up in your face? We understand—we do too! Learn how to use effective communication to keep casual sex from ruining your friendship with this advice from expert Dionne Bates.
In today's modern hook-up culture, men and women are having sex before even committing to a relationship with each other. While casual sex can be fun ... courtship is so much better. YourTango Expert Janet Ong Zimmerman offers love and dating advice for women women who want to be wooed (and for gentlemen who are the fabulous, wooing type).
I’ve learned a great parenting trick. It’s just as good as the great party trick of how to not get a hangover (lots of water and Vitamin C). When my son is in the middle of one of his hellacious tantrums and I want to hop on the next bus out of town, I change my inner dialogue. You know that little voice? The one that says, “Parenting sucks, I want out NOW.” I change the running dialogue to, “I love you. I love you. I love you.” I think the words as I say nothing, grit my teeth and smile softly.
Why is it that we run away from what we need the most? Even though I crave silence and need it sometimes more than sleep, I don’t always know how to achieve it, let alone know what to do with it when I get it. So then I fill up the silent moment with busyness, random senseless movement. Sound familiar? I know for a fact, I need part of my day to include solitude, aloneness, a period of stillness. Quiet. That's where the miracles happen.
Just like there are four states of presence there are four ways to refill your cup. Let’s look at those ways now. Physical - How you move your body, what you feed it and how you care for it. Mental - The thoughts that fill your mind. The activities that inspire and motivate. Your ability to relax. Emotional - Your feelings lead you to where you need to be. The relationships in your life.
Dear FearLess Love, I met a woman the other day who referred to me as a "red flag" – that is someone she shouldn’t date. And why? Because I’m in my late forties and have never married. She said I would be a “better risk” if I was “at least “divorced? Ouch! What do you think? I’ve spent a lot of time working, traveling, and building my company. I’m currently single but have had girlfriends here and there. I just haven’t met the right woman.
People often believe that women do not benefit from one-night stands, but this is not true. Women enjoy sex just as much as men do, except there is no stigma placed on men for casual sex.
There’s a lot of conflicting “rules” out there for how to meet your mate. Should you wait three days before you call someone back? Should women never make the first move, or do guys think it’s hot when they do? Maybe men need to have “the chase” and therefore women should hold off on sex if they know they really like someone. The Millionaire Matchmaker famously has a rule of “no sex before monogamy” . However, is that the only way we can all find a partner? Do you need to follow all the “rules”?
…Is it possible? Well, Kendra Wilkinson of Girls Next Door fame just forgave her husband, Hank Baskett, after he supposedly cheated on her with a transsexual model while she was eight months pregnant. Kendra says that she is “willing to spend the rest of [her] life to figure this out rather than spending one night single without Hank in my life” . Let’s hope, for the sake of Kendra, her kids, and her family that it is possible.
The use of technology in today's youth has led to an increase in sexting. Parents can help their teens curb their innate need to sext by building their self-esteem.