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Who Are You and What Are You Doing Here?

Who Are You and What Are You Doing Here?

The 6th of my 7 Essential Truths is "Your life purpose is your North Star on your journey," and it feels right to share this with you as we move forward into the summer, possibly resting for a while and looking at our lives in perspective. This truth is about, “What are you doing on the planet? Why are you here?” and the practice is: Keep your eye on the ball. As you start to understand and realize who you really are, the next obvious question that you’ll probably continue to ask yourself along your journey is “What am I doing here?

Are you Oral?

Are you Oral?

Do you know your partner's communication style? Many say yes, but most couples argue because they are not listening to how their partner is expressing him or herself because all they hear is the content and not the process of what they are feeling.   Interpersonal communication is just as much about body language as well as verbal language. As you and your partner exchange in conversation, what do you notice? Many relationships have fallen apart because one of you misinterprets the communication from the other.

Do you know how to co-parent?

Do you know how to co-parent?

When parents get divorced or separated, there is a tremendous amount of strain put on their new relationship and many times this becomes extremely difficult to handle.  In turn, the focus on the children’s mental and emotional health is greatly diminished.  That’s why it is extremely important for the parents to transform their relationship, which I call restructuring.   It is imperative that parents learn how to co-parent in their new relationship, but imagine how difficult this is for a couple deciding to end their relationship together.

Breakup Survival Guide

Breakup Survival Guide

A word of caution: this guide is not meant to be put into practice all at once! However, if you will work through these steps as they feel good to you, you will recover much faster, be much stronger and your will know what you want your next relationship to look like.

Psychiatric Diagnosis: Too Little Science, Conflicts of Interest

Psychiatric Diagnosis: Too Little Science, Conflicts of Interest

The Concerns There is a lot of pain and suffering in the world, and it is tempting to believe that the mental health community knows how to help. It is widely believed, both by mental health professionals and the general population, that if only a person gets the right psychiatric diagnosis, the therapist will know what kind of measures will be the most helpful.

I am NOT mentally ill!!

I am NOT mentally ill!!

I AM NOT "MENTALLY ILL"!! I am a complex person, a beautiful and sometimes fragile being of light. My problem is not that I have emotional and psychological pain, but that I live in a society of separation, judgment, and fear. Modern psychology has labeled me sick, dumbed me down with pharmaceuticals, marginalized me, and led me down a path that all but destroyed my soul. I have given away my power to counselors and doctors in the past, to my sad childhood. to partners, family, institutions, to religion, and a multitude of "others".

Six steps to claim your sensual confidence

Six steps to claim your sensual confidence

One of my younger female friends reminds me a lot of myself before I came into my sexual confidence. Despite having the slim and fit build and striking looks envied by many women and admired by many men, her insecurity about having smaller breasts not only feeds her jealousy of her loving boyfriend’s perceived attraction to other, curvier women, but also interferes with her ability to fully accept his open adoration (and wild lust) for her physical self. A conversation we had one day inspired these six steps to claim your sensual confidence.

When you reach a crossroad in a relationship

When you reach a crossroad in a relationship

Sometimes the future sneaks up on you sooner than you predicted. You really have two choices when a serendipitous opportunity is right at your fingertips. You can hide your head in the sand like an ostrich, too overwhelmed with anxiety over the unknown to look it in the face —or in reality, sprint away from the situation with fear. Or you can raise your head, unfurl your wings, and trust where the wind will take you after removing the safety net of the well-trodden ground beneath you. When you reach a crossroad in a relationship, are you an ostrich or eagle?

Fathers Need To Talk About Sex
"It's all about the birds and the bees..."

Fathers Need To Talk About Sex

Parents help raise their children together, so there's no reason as to why the sex talk can't come from both parents too. Fathers need to step in when teaching their kids about sex.

Turning Poison Into Medicine

The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing work which I love, and I’m thankful (yes, really) for being diagnosed with diabetes this year. Why am I thankful?