You can follow this series at drmattmorris.com Meet the mythical couple - Will and Rene have been married for 8 years. In the meantime, they've had two beautiful children. Their lives are full of work, taking care of the kids, running the home, and staying connected with friends and family. But at the end of the day, when the crawl into bed, there is little energy or desire left over for sex. They both know it. They fight about it. But they really don't know what to do about it and it doesn't seem to be getting better. Other parts of their life and marriage are satisfactory, but not their sex life.
Whether you called it quits or he did, you never expected to be in this place. The joint future you envisioned is kaput.
If you want to lose weight and keep it off, the most effective combination is an inspired inner drive to do well and a personalized program that you co-create with your health coach. The first part is, well, very much up to the individual. The second part is a matter of strategy and applied learning, a bit of trial and error on the rocky road to success. Your personalized program may involve any number of creative solutions until your routine feels just right, and that is a normal part of the process!
In a recent post by The Atlantic Monthly, the University of Virginia's National Marriage Project reports college educated women make more money when they delay marriage.
Mothers-in-law get a bad rap in our culture. TV shows, movies, books and jokes all liken the critical shrew of a mother-in-law to the Wicked Witch of the West. In reality there are as many fab mother-in-laws as there are self-centered ones. In addition, a father-in-law could just as easily be the source of conflict. When you choose a life partner you also enter a new family. Nonetheless, it's important to remember that the new family you create together receives priority. This shift in energy is bound to create problems.
Remember your sex ed class? Do you remember it fondly, or with dread? My own high school sex ed program --- more than 25 years ago --- took a whopping 10 minutes. The priest led my classmates and me in the Lord's Prayer, and then reassured us that we would eventually grow out of the urge to masturbate. That was it. Lesson over. Incomplete though it was, I also have to give Father Frank credit.
YourTango conducted a survey of over 100 mental health professionals to learn what it takes for a man to be considered "husband material." According to the results, the top three traits marriage-oriented people look for in a man are: his ability to communicate, honesty and reliability. So, besides these three fairly obvious characteristics, what else matters in a potential life partner? We queried the experts to find out.
Let me warn you! My ideas about school and education are anything but conventional... How are your kids doing in school? Do they excel in their studies? Are they given attention for what they need to improve? Do they fit in? Are they HAPPY in school? Do they even like it?
Here's a question I ask each of my personal matchmaking clients: What if your next first date would be the last one of your entilre life? What if that person were to be The One you've been hoping to find and then your dating days would be over forever. Would you feel like you missed out on a bunch of great dating experiences or would it be a blessing if your next first date were to be your last?
In my recent survey, an amazing 79% people said that Managing-up/Self-promotion is the most challenging aspect of their work. I didn’t expect it at all! I then started thinking about it more and realized it is the tip of the iceberg. Based on my experience the real issue underneath is our reactive mode. A more effective approach is to be purposeful of our engagement and align it with our bigger vision and core values. Deviations are fine as long as they are exceptions rather than the rule- as it doesn’t sustain for very long.