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"Because You Loved Me"—Co-dependency Or Good Parenting?

"Because You Loved Me"—Co-dependency Or Good Parenting?

A few years ago I was waiting in a doctor's office and, having forgotten to bring the parenting book I was studying, was at the mercy of Muzak. One of the songs that came on was a Céline Dion hit written by Diane Warren, "Because You Loved Me." I listened to the words—yes, I was bored!—and was put off by what I heard as sappy co-dependency between lovers:

Therapy: Long Or Short?

Therapy: Long Or Short?

The buzz in therapy circles in April 2012 concerned a New York Times article written by a NYC psychotherapist, Jonathan Alpert, who inflates his credentials and bashes long-term treatment and the therapists who provide it. He implies that long-term therapy is only for severe psychological disorders—and he doesn't consider depression and anxiety to be severe issues.

Therapy Vs. The Geographical Fix

Therapy Vs. The Geographical Fix

In Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), members talk about going for a geographical fix. What is a geographical fix, you ask? It's the idea that if you're miserable in NYC, you can fix your life by moving to San Francisco or some other place. Or if you're unhappy in your relationship with John or Johanna, you need only dump them and go for Bob or Roberta and you'll be happy. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't look at your surroundings or consider your choice of partner, but experience shows that you will bring yourself to that new city or relationship.

The Fear Of Being Direct

The Fear Of Being Direct

Writer Aaron Sorkin and HBO have given us "The Newsroom," a terrific new show with plenty of material to write about, in this case, the fear of being direct. In the first season of "The Newsroom," anchor Will McAvoy and executive producer MacKenzie McHale work their way from a very contentious professional relationship, due to their past romantic involvement, to a highly successful professional relationship in making a well-respected, hard-hitting newscast.

seth rogen and barbra streisand at "the guilt trip" premiere
Seth Rogen stars opposite Barbra Streisand in this poignant comedy.

3 Love Lessons From 'The Guilt Trip'

I winced a couple of times while watching The Guilt Trip when I heard Joyce Brewster, the endearing yet nagging mom, say word for word some of the things I have said to my own, grown sons.

Caring What Others Think: Dependency And "The Newsroom"

Caring What Others Think: Dependency And "The Newsroom"

"Of course I care what others think," you may say to yourself. "Doesn’t everybody?"  Considering others' feelings is important, but this is something different; an inordinate concern about what others think of you is a sign of dependency. Remember, dependency is needing someone else to do something (thinking well of you, in this case), so that you can feel good about yourself.

30 Day Resolve Your Past Resolution Challenge

30 Day Resolve Your Past Resolution Challenge

2013 is quickly approaching. In just a few days, it will be a new year and a new opportunity to start fresh again. Part of moving forward is letting go of the past that binds and confines you. As you begin to make resolutions and set goals, commit to removing blocks and obstacles that may have kept you from finding your plus one. For the next 30 days, follow these three tips to resolve your past and welcome your future.

How To Get People To Do What You Want

How To Get People To Do What You Want

Do I have your attention now?! The quest to get someone to do what they want brings many people into therapy, whether they want the partner, child, friend, client, or parents to stop smoking, be nice, have sex more often, have sex less often, eat more vegetables and fruit, exercise, do homework, respect them, clean the bathroom, or pay more for services.

Seeking Attention Vs. Paying Attention

Seeking Attention Vs. Paying Attention

Attention is just attention, right? No! There’s a huge difference between seeking attention and paying attention. Think about the kid in school who will do anything for attention—singing during the lesson, interrupting the teacher or other students, grabbing another student’s ponytail, calling someone a “poopyhead.” Now think about the kid who is a little sponge in school, paying attention to the teacher, listening to other students’ responses, picking up on what’s going on with his or her fellow students.

Surprising and Strange Advice to Attract a Great Relationship

Surprising and Strange Advice to Attract a Great Relationship

Are you ready to make 2013 YOUR year to (finally) find love that lasts? If so, we've got an important message for you. It's not the perfect pick-up line, flattering make-up tricks or even amazing sex positions. Our advice to help you attract the great love relationship you've been longing for and craving may be a little surprising and strange. But try it anyway... Look back to the past to find love.