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The Key to Effective Communication

The Key to Effective Communication

Do you have the courage to speak your “true,” as Voltaire called it, and to listen? This is not easy for many of us. In fact, not long ago I was at a meeting where we as a group needed to make a decision. I had thought about the topic, did some research, spoke to some colleagues and was very clear about what we needed to do. I was convinced. Hooked on Being right and Righteous.

The Myth of Explaining and Defending

The Myth of Explaining and Defending

"How could you do that?" "Explain yourself, young lady/young man." "Why are you dressed like that?" "Why are you late again?" "What did you do to your hair!" How often did you hear some variation of this when you were growing up? I heard it all the time.

3 Ways Your Online Addiction Can Kill Your Sex Life

3 Ways Your Online Addiction Can Kill Your Sex Life

It’s almost impossible to live in this modern metropolitan world without some form of online attachment and it can really get in the way of our romantic relationships if we don’t watch out. I was rather late to the internet-party but now I’d say I’m certifiably addicted. Leave the smart phone home for the afternoon…? Not a chance! I’d hate to be ‘out of touch’. This kind of constant interaction online can interfere with our in-person relationships.  Especially sexually.

Managing Your Student's College Acceptance or Rejection

Managing Your Student's College Acceptance or Rejection

The last of our kids graduated from high school 4 years ago, but as the end of spring approaches I still get a pit in my stomach and wake up frightened.  You know that proverbial reoccurring nightmare that you slept through a final?  For me it’s reliving the anxiety, worry and concern while waiting for all those college acceptance notices!  Not worried so much about which would be a yes or no but how those letters would affect my kids.

Prepare or Panic?

Prepare or Panic?

In my home town, my family is usually fairly safe from natural disasters like Earthquakes, Tornadoes and Hurricanes, so I have had little reason to “train” my kiddos the strategies of preparing for such events. However, in the summer of 2011 we went through some pretty scary stuff from natural disasters to potential threats...and I had 2 young boys to get through it.  During that time, I was amazed at the number of people I witnessed over a period of 48 hours acting as though Armageddon was approaching…and they were sucking their children into their fear indu

Do You Stick To Your Relationship Dealbreakers?
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Do You Stick To Your Relationship Dealbreakers?

You may think you know your drop-dead dealbreakers — until you fall in love. Then you find yourself settling for someone who simply isn't the best match for you. It's not just you — people do it all the time. Wonder why? YourTango Expert Julie Orlov has the answers (and the solutions).

No Child Should "Survive" their Childhood...

No Child Should "Survive" their Childhood...

I had a tremendous childhood.  Yes, I had moments when I hated my parents…those sobbing in your room mumbling barely audible statements like “I wiiiish shhhee would get hiiiiit by a buuuus and Diiiiiiiie!”   Because I was asked to do the unthinkable and clean my room or do my math home work before I could go out with my friends. But all in all, I had it pretty good.