Mark sought my help because he was thinking of leaving his wife, Linda. He had not been feeling in love with Linda for a long time, but they had two children and he really didn't want to break up the family. "Mark," I asked, "Were you ever in love with Linda?"
The music pulsed, throbbing itself into the core of my veins and brains. The light was minimal, erratic. The crowd fought its way through one another, only to find more of itself. The smell of sweaty dance floor and alcohol filled the air, with the occasional tinge of marijuana or vomit.
Picked up a cat-’o-9-tails, tied yourself to a whipping post, and just started whipping yourself silly lately? Ya know, the scourge of I-can’t-do-itness. Or the club of I’m-a-failure. Or the rod of nobody-likes-me. The whip of not-good-enoughness is one of my personal favorites. (more...)
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Holly Brown, LMFT In Ben Affleck’s Best Picture acceptance speech, he didn’t sprinkle his wife Jennifer Garner with accolades. Instead, he thanked her for working with him all these years. ”Marriage is work,” he said, “and there’s no one I’d rather work with.”
The winter has given a majority of the country quite a beating. Snowstorms, rain floods and ice have battered cities from Los Angeles to New York, even causing the postal service to throw out the rule of "Rain or shine, snow or sleet, we delivery your mail!" If you are suffering from cabin fever, now is a great time to round up a few of your single girlfriends and plan a little vacay. Can't find anyone to go? Don't let that be an excuse not to get away. There's options for singles who are traveling alone, too.
My daughter is in her first year of high school and navigating the world of girl drama, boyfriends and school dances. As painful as it can be to watch her suffer through some of this, I want her to know a few things that I wish I'd known at her age.
Kissing is a prelude of what is to come. Vary your style, pressure and energy. You have built your arousal state and revved up both of your engines with 10 minutes or more of kissing. Kissing increases oxytocin in both males and females. This is what couples in long-term relationships forget to do. Don't skip the kissing if you really want to connect on a soul level. Nuzzling with your nose
Let's face it: Online dating is quickly becoming the most mainstream method for finding a significant other. However, even while online dating is gaining popularity, not everyone has jumped on the bandwagon, in part due to the myths associated with it.
We live in two worlds: the external and internal. Our external world is a reflection of our internal world. Many of us choose to ignore this until we’re given a wake-up call that we’re not happy or satisfied with the cards dealt: our marriages fall apart, we are faced with illness, we lose our job, we cannot find a long term relationship, or we get passed over again at work. Understanding that our internal world drives what happens to us in the “real” world is the first step to overcoming and rising above the lessons we need to learn in this lifetime.
So I’ve always thought that the best thing to do when I meet someone is to try to make a big splash, ya know, impress them. So I start pretty quickly in the introduction on my 'resume,' whether or not I’m given the fairly standard opportunity “So what do you do?” I try to get the phrases... (more)