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What do porn and meth have in common?

What do porn and meth have in common?

I commented recently on a forum thread about “Pornography Addiction.” There were many replies but what I read as an underlying theme is that pathological use of porn- the type that becomes a compulsion and creates consequences in the person’s life- is primarily the aftermath of childhood trauma.  Oh. And that it doesn’t neccesarily have anything to do with being “addicted.”

Why Women Should Wear Red in Their Profile Picture

Why Women Should Wear Red in Their Profile Picture

Author and motivational lecturer Dr. Tae Yun Kim wrote of the color red in her book “The First Element: Secrets to Maximizing Your Energy.” “Red stimulates and excites your nerves, pulse rate and blood circulation and lends energy to your entire system," she said. "When you are fatigued, lethargic or sluggish for any reason, red has an energizing influence.”

Why He's Looking At You And Thinking 'Threesome'
What he's thinking may shock you.

Why He's Looking At You And Thinking 'Threesome'

It will come as no surprise to any woman, that as a rule, men think about sex frequently … even constantly. And in order to keep things always fresh and interesting, men fuel their sexual mental meanderings with images so profoundly decadent, they would make a porn star blush.

Safety: Controlling Others or Loving Yourself?

Safety: Controlling Others or Loving Yourself?

I was having a phone session with Randy. "When I am around most people, I am generally fairly relaxed. But the moment I'm around my mother or Gineen (his wife of 12 years), I get anxious and often angry. I can't figure this out. I love both of them, so why do I feel anxious and angry around them?"

Is Indulging in Cybersex Always a Bad Thing?

Is Indulging in Cybersex Always a Bad Thing?

First, let’s be clear about what we are talking about.  Cybersex in this context is the exchange of flirtatious sexy text with random strangers you meet in a chat room online, usually (although not always!) done via private message between two people.  If you get messaged privately by someone asking “a/s/l?” (“age, sex, location?”), that is usually the first indication that someone wants to get off by chatting with you. 

When Trust Dies

When Trust Dies

How many times have you heard the words, "If you love me you will trust me" or "Why don't you just trust me?" I don't know how those words feel in your gut but they always fill me with even more distrust than I was originally feeling. Of course any admonitions that you "should" feel trust are designed to circumvent your internal warning system. Whether that is accomplished with assurances or threats or attempts to shame you doesn't really matter. The end result is the same.

ARE YOU READY FOR A MIDLIFE REINVENTION?

ARE YOU READY FOR A MIDLIFE REINVENTION?

For the last couple of months I’ve been hard at work planning, preparing and finalizing the upcoming teleseries: The Feminine Quest: Compelling Conversations for Women in Midlife about Healing, Transforming and Birthing Authentic, Passionate and Purposeful Lives. Yea, I know that name’s a mouthful but I really wanted to get all of the elements in there I’m so excited to bring this event to you all starting on 4/4!

How To Manage The Stresses Of Meeting New People

How To Manage The Stresses Of Meeting New People

Some people get very anxious when they try to make new friends. Meeting new people for the first time and trying to develop new friendships can be very stressful if you are shy or not outgoing. Here are some suggestions on how you can make new friends without getting anxious and fearful.