By Sheila Robinson-Kiss, MSW, LCSW Five years ago I was utterly devastated when a relationship went up in a ball of flames. Nothing made sense. I gave that relationship my all and none of that mattered after the rug was pulled from underneath my feet. I had landed on the concrete. My spirit was broken and my ego was cracked. I had fallen into a foggy slump, spending my days binging on the Lifetime Television Network and playing video games. Just when I thought the bar couldn’t dip any lower, the door bell rang one night.
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"Why am I still single?" This question plagues just about every woman who comes to Dating With Dignity for coaching. Invariably, before coming to me for help, she has asked this same question of her girlfriends, her mother, her best male friend, and even her therapist. More often than not, when a woman comes to me for coaching, she has enjoyed success in so many other areas of her life, but has been unsuccessful at ﬁnding and/or keeping a loving relationship; and she is, to put it simply, mystiﬁed.
By Julie Fishman In the great wide world of dating, the options are numerous. But amid the hodgepodge of hunks, be sure not to overlook the often ignored nerds. While they may not be smooth or strapping, nerds make fantastic boyfriends. Here are just some of the reasons why:
Regardless of if you got dumped or cut your man loose, getting over an ex is a bitch. The flood of emotions–sad, angry, frustrated, confused–can seriously derail your daily life. While all may seem lost, we promise it’s not: check out our steps below and you’ll be back on the prowl, or at least back to normal, in no time.
By Natasha Burton It's 7 a.m. and you’re mind is dull with the first realization of hangover. Mascara chunks clog your vision. The guy lying next to—who you were really excited to dance with, make-out with, and go home with last night—breathes deeply, eyes closed. Okay, what now? Girl, it’s time to get your butt back to your dorm room.
You've been playing that conversation with him over and over in your mind — defending yourself, trying to figure out what to do next. You are losing sleep, it makes your heart pound, it's hard to focus on work during the day. So, you finally see him, you are furious, and now you are dying to tell him what you really think of what he said or did. Well, stop! This is the wrong time to communicate.
A recent client, JoAnne, has given me permission to share some of her journal notes. She is a sweetheart to open up to the whole world. She writes so that others will know they are not alone if they are feeling pain after an abortion. Journalling her pain was a way JoAnne began a journey to peace.
Will I be a bad mother now that I’ve had an abortion? Women who have voluntarily terminated a pregnancy struggle with becoming a mother for the first time, if it was the first pregnancy that was aborted. Because it is not culturally accepted to talk about or grieve a pregnancy loss due to abortion, there can be a lot of guilt, sadness and mixed emotions for women with an abortion history.
Should I tell My Children I’ve had an Abortion? Many women who have voluntarily terminated a pregnancy wonder if they should share their abortion history with their children. There are a few things to consider before you make this decision. Here are a few suggestions to think about. 1).Is there a reason to share this information with your children?
Should I tell my boyfriend or fiance that I've had an abortion? Women who have voluntarily terminated a pregnancy often wonder how widely they should share their secret. As they get on with their life and if the person they had the abortion with is no longer in the picture, they wonder if they should share their abortion history with subsequent significant relationships.