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3 Love Lessons From Silver Linings Playbook

3 Love Lessons From Silver Linings Playbook

Jennifer Lawrence won a Golden Globe last night for her work in Silver Linings Playbook, and the movie is up for 8 Academy Awards this year, including Best Picture.   As I watched the film, I couldn’t help but think, “Wow. There’s a whole lot of crazy in this movie.” I was startled by the loud family interactions, the physical violence, and the evident emotional pain felt by these characters.

The Top 5 Things Men Need To Know About Sex

The Top 5 Things Men Need To Know About Sex

1. Men and women both believe in a fantasy model of sexuality.  According to Zibergeld [The New Male Sexuality], both parties have tended to agree that ‘sex’ equals intercourse and that there must be an erection followed by two orgasms – preferably simultaneously.  Unfortunately, many couples who try to strictly adhere to this model and fall short, end up feeling less than adequate.  Sex should not be based on performance but on pleasure, fun and intimacy.  For too many men and as many women there is tremendous significance given to the almi

Secret Lives: The "Shameful" Truth

Secret Lives: The "Shameful" Truth

"Bizarre, salacious and inexplicably careless" - these are just a few of the judgment-laden phrases that presently swirl around Suzy Favor Hamilton, a woman some have called the greatest athlete in University of Wisconsin history. What has changed public perception of this Olympic runner and winner of nine NCAA championships for the UW-Madison?  What has suddenly changed her from an admired icon to a target of ridicule and vilification?

Don't Get Burned By Your Post-Divorce Anger

Don't Get Burned By Your Post-Divorce Anger

Although every divorce is unique, most result in an abundance of post-divorce anger. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and it's quite normal. It's unresolved anger that is corrosive and toxic. Like being in a burning house, it sucks the life out of you. Acknowledging persistent anger, and committing to do something about it, is step one. Step two is managing your anger. Here are some things to try:

Should You Keep Your Clothes On Or Off?

Should You Keep Your Clothes On Or Off?

When I turned 40, I was no longer willing to settle for just anyone.  I had tried this many times before and knew it didn’t work.  I wanted to find the love of my life, the last man I would ever date, the one who would be with me for the rest of my days. For this to happen, I had to make some changes.  First and foremost, no jumping into bed with anyone I was dating—and this meant ANYONE.  In the past, I had my share of casual sex.  I don’t regret that I was sometimes naughty.  It was a lot of fun, but it never got me wh

The Relationship Where's Waldo Game

The Relationship Where's Waldo Game

THE WORLD OF WALDO AND RELATIONSHIPS   There’s not a lot of  benefit in getting older.  In many ways, it sucks.  There are, however, some benefits, especially when it comes to dating.  With age comes perspective.  As you  look back over your dating life you can begin to seem some unsettling patterns..

How To Get Him Back

How To Get Him Back

Celebrities, like Rihanna and Chris Brown, have managed the now-on, now-off relationships just brilliantly.  Instead of investing time and effort in their healing, they bounce in and out of storms without any regard for their own well-being or that of the other person.  The only difference between them and the rest of us is the papparazzi.

ZERO DATE THIRTY

ZERO DATE THIRTY

In the Oscar nominated blockbuster film Zero Dark Thirty, Jessica Chastain portrays Maya, a Central Intelligence Officer, dedicates her early career years to uncovering intel about al-Qaeda and Osama Bin Laden. Her tenacity and due diligence bring to mind a popular card seen on someecards.com with a picture of a matter-of-fact woman with the verbage "Don't Underestimate My Ability to Find Sh** Out."

First Date Etiquette In Your 30s Versus Your 20s

First Date Etiquette In Your 30s Versus Your 20s

First dates always elicit a bit anxiety, excitement and anticipation but I have noticed that my approach to the scenario is different at 30 than it was in my early 20’s.  Back then, I was ultimately looking for a boyfriend, someone to bring to the upcoming social function or to fill up my weekends with. Still looking for a relationship, I now recognize that my next boyfriend could be my weekend partner for life. The stakes are higher and so my attitude and behavior towards the first date has also changed.