A friend asked me recently about his attraction to a woman he knows is in a committed relationship. He thought it wouldn't hurt him to fantasize about her since he doesn't have any other prospects. He also admits he doesn't feel so good about himself since he is (like the rest of us) getting older and feeling like he might not be attractive to women. And he thinks that the women he finds attractive wouldn't be interested in him.
So I wrote him a few thoughts which I thought I'd share here for others:
When I learned he cheated, I thought I was doomed to a lifelong sentence of victimhood. To my surprise, less than two years later, I no longer feel like a victim, I feel like a survivor. Now, I want to show you how you can be a survivor, too!
When was the last time you felt confident? Today? Yesterday? Can you even remember? There is a confidence crisis among women these days, especially in the workplace. And, of course, we all know that what happens at work affects the rest of our lives. Still, women are lacking the confidence to speak up, put forward their two cents, or be acknowledged for a job well done. Does this sound familiar to you? At first the idea seemed foreign to me. Then, I started reflecting on the women in my life and realized that yes, in fact, nearly all of my conversations among friends and associates carry within them the undercurrent of lacking the self-assurance to boldly live their lives. Who knew?!
How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - how much of your thinking time is spent on what to say to your partner to get him or her to be the way you want him or her to be?
Many of us spend a lot of time thinking about how to get what we want from our partner - how to get our partner to open up, be more caring, see us, love us, pay attention to us, spend time with us, have sex with us, and so on.
Are you tired of riding the rollercoaster of love? Is your love life a constant dance of two steps forward two steps back?
Well, when it comes to men, dating and relationships, you are not alone. In fact, there are over 50 million single women looking for love and like you many of them are frequent riders on this crazy ride.
Unfortunately most of these women are tired of the constant up and downs and would love to get off the rollercoaster once and for all.
By Johanna Lyman, Love Coach for GalTime
There are lots of good reasons to get married, but I heard what has to be the all time worst reason the other day. A couple had been living together for seven years and she wanted the relationship to “move forward.” She didn’t think it was enough to live together; she wanted to get married. He didn’t want to get married, but he caved.
By Kelly Rouba for GalTime.com
Recently, I went to my friend Laurie’s house to watch the season finale of Bachelor Pad. (Yes, for some reason, we enjoy these types of cheesy reality shows.) And while we were watching the heartbreak that ensued on screen between several couples, I asked her how she knew her husband was the one she wanted to marry.
Alcoholics say, “I’m Mick and I’m and alcoholic.” Sex addicts admit, “I’m Justin and I’m a sex addict.” Overeaters confess, “I’m Tanya and I’m an overeater.” So what do all these people know that’s keeping
There are few exceptions to this rule and at the moment I can't even think of any! If you're faking it in any area of your relationship it's only a matter of time before it comes back at you and bites you in the ass.
Once you've faked it, you've painted yourself into a corner with only two options: staying in the corner or walking out and messing up the paint.
Here's a really good example of making things hard for yourself by faking it.
By Rabbi Arnie Singer for GalTime.com
There’s nothing worse than contacting someone on an online dating site and going out with them only to discover that they lied about their age. You feel cheated, let down, violated. Regardless of the rationalization and motive behind it, lying about your age or about anything else for that matter is just plain out wrong, period. It’s certainly no way to start a relationship.
