I got an email from a colleague about a friend who wanted to enter the dating world after her recent divorce. She wanted to know the best places she could meet single men. I told her that it's not a one-size-fits-all formula.
We all have inherent belief systems, as a result of our early programming, that greatly affect us throughout our lives into adulthood. For a variety of reasons, one of the most prevalent is that we don’t deserve to be loved, and it's this particular one that has the most negative effect on the quality of the relationships that we have.
This guest article from PsychCentral was written by Rick Nauert, PhD, News Editor A new University of Illinois study revisits five relationship management strategies that couples can use to preserve or improve the quality of an intimate relationship. “Relationships are like cars in that you have do certain things to keep them running, especially when your goal is to strengthen and preserve your bond with your partner,” said Brian Ogolsky, Ph.D., a professor of human and community development.
Are you faced with a man that doesn't really see the importance of Valentines Day? Maybe he sees it as an over-commercialized Hallmark holiday that's just placed into the calendar to squeeze money out of men and create high expectations for women. This makes it difficult for you to really ask for what it is you want on V-day for fear of being judged. So, what do you do if you are a woman that wants the flowers, chocolates, romantic dinner and the amazing V-day story to tell all your friends the next day?
Parenting is hard. Co-parenting is harder. Here's advice to make it work.
I am sitting at the desk in my office writing my book when my clinical sexology hot line rings. Hello I answer, who I am speaking with? He states his name, age and then proceeds to tell me about a situation where has been stealing his girlfriend’s underwear, and is not able to stop.
Love hurts. Let's admit it. Even in the very best of relationships, things are said and done that hurt feelings, bruise egos or leave you feeling a little injured. Wearing your heart on your sleeve comes with the risk of exposure - to both joy and sorrow. There are various stages of a broken heart. There's a mild broken heart, which tends to fix itself on its own, and goes away in a short amount of time. It usually doesn't require too much attention because the wound will quickly heal.
If you ask me, nothing is harder on the heart or the ego than the disappearing act. One minute you are smitten over Mr. Constant Contact and the next … nothing. No explanation and no closure. He stopped texting, stopped calling and you are left to fill in the blanks.
I remember in high school the very distinct feeling that I would never understand men. The boys I had dated long-term in both high school and college sent me such conflicting messages that I truly believed men simply didn't have emotions. Not like women did, anyway. After all, how can you tell someone you love them one day, and then blow them off to party with your friends the next?
For thousands of years, guys have been blaming their Neanderthal, hedonistic behavior on their genetics. They say the way they think and act is not their fault, and it's all predetermined because of the seeds of their forefathers.