Nancy was already feeling in the dumps and it was only the middle of January. Fancy Valentine boxes of chocolates appearing in the local drug store made her feel worse. Valentine cards, ideas for gifts and romantic evenings seemed to be everywhere. Nancy, 28 and single, felt assaulted by the media and even the other gals in the office who were comfortably in relationships and busily planning for February 14th. And to make matters even worse, her boyfriend of the last 3 years had just married. She could only imagine how much fun he would be having in a few weeks.
The Oscar-nominated film 'Silver Linings Playbook' introduces us to messy relationships and messy lives. The relationships and characters are incredibly sensitive and humane. It is a romantic comedy that highlights the best and worst behaviors of people in relationships.
“I’m just not attracted to you...We’re not compatible...Our goals are different...” all valid justifications for calling it quits in a relationship. Yet, even those with perfect hearing don’t tune into the true undertones of the subliminal messaging, until the megaphone is held up to their ear, and blaringly your spouse says...”I’m gay and I’m coming out!” Not necessarily in my "Top 10 Ways On How To 'Come Out!" Regardless of how you do it, dead silence, shock, and utter disbelief usually hang in the air.
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A little perspective on the issue reveals that online dating is merely a method to help people meet people; it is not to blame for lower levels of monogamy, if they even exist.
How often have you become irritated or angry, given yourself up, started to argue or debate, teach or explain, or withdrew when someone was treating you badly — ordering you around, judging you, blaming you, or dumping their complaints or negativity on you? How often have you behaved in any of these protective, controlling ways when someone is unknowingly interrupting you when you are trying to focus on something or get something done? How do you end up feeling when you behave in any of these ways?
Okay, in Part One and Part Two of the “New Year, New You, New Life, New Love” series we talked about how to become the awesome person you want to be and how to think differently to get the results you want. Now it’s time for me to reveal the final step: My secret formula for an incredible New Year, one in which you have the power to create the abundant, joy and love-filled life you deserve. And now, my magic formula for an incredible year is… INTENTION + ATTENTION = ACTION
How often have you heard a woman (you?) state, with a sigh, that all the good men are taken? It’s been my observation that the women who believe that are the only ones who are experiencing that…so what’s going on here? If you're attracting less than great men into your life, it's very likely that it’s got more to do with you than them. Here are four reasons why that may be true for you. 1. You Get What You Expect
Finding someone, either online or otherwise, that you click with is a trying task. So when you do, most of us fight to see it through to the end. Admittedly, I have been fooled by instant chemistry into believing that Mr. Dead Ends were going to be my relationship status changers. Inevitably, they either slowly faded away or even worse, just disappeared from my dating life. Looking back, there were always waving red flags that I ignored or was simply too smitten to realize at the time. Here are three warning signs that can save you time and wasted expectations:
We all have unpacked emotional baggage from our past relationships, and it's difficult, if not impossible, to completely get rid of it; that's just being human. But if you find yourself still pining for, very angry with, or otherwise consumed with emotion over your ex, you need to get past it before you'll be able to be in a new healthy relationship.