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How Does Saying Yes Benefit Me In Dating?

How Does Saying Yes Benefit Me In Dating?

Yes.   It is one of the first words we ever say and it only seems to get more difficult to say as time passes. In fact, as a child, we say "Yes" to pretty much anything. Yes to checking out the pool before we know how to swim, yes to sharing an ice cream cone with the dog, yes to chasing the Nerf ball (do they still make those?) into I-85. We are open to any possibility, and naturally possess what I like to call the “yes stance.”

A 10-Step Guide To Sexy Legs For Spring
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A 10-Step Guide To Sexy Legs For Spring

Turns out there are a variety of ways you can improve the look and feel of your gams, regardless of your time and budget constraints. You'll be so glad you took these tips you'll actually feel bad for the women who depend on software to have the kind of legs significant others can't keep their hands and eyes off of.

Are You In An Addictive Relationship?

Are You In An Addictive Relationship?

Do you wonder if you might be in an addictive relationship? Most of us go through at least one addictive relationship in our romantic life. But even more of us will suffer the withdrawal from several of these relationships before we learn to stop our destructive patterns of behavior. Like any addiction, denial can keep us from waking up to the truth of what we're doing.

When you Love Your Partner But He Drives You Crazy!

When you Love Your Partner But He Drives You Crazy!

It really hurts when the person you love is focused more on “being right” rather than really understanding you! Does your relationship create a deep pain or numbness in your heart? When we start to believe that our legitimate needs for connection will not be adequately met by our partner, it is easy to focus on our personal needs at the expense of our partner. A normal human response to this is: nagging, petty repetitive fights, silent-treatments, numbing out, outbursts, being condescending and focusing on being right rather than really listening. We can get caught up in terrible cycles of withdrawing from or demonizing each other. The battle lines are often around libido, child rearing, money, jealousy, etc.  

Oscars 2013: 8 Films Where Marriage Matters

Oscars 2013: 8 Films Where Marriage Matters

Boy-meets-girl has always been a winning movie theme.   How come this year simple romance has given way to a focus on long-term marriages as a significant theme in so many of the Oscar Best Film nominations?   While I have no idea of the answer to that questions, as a marriage specialist I'm thrilled to see this return to focusing in the media on the role of marriage in building a solid base for life. Here's a run-down of which movies had to say what about matrimony.

Why Are We Hooked on Rejection?

Why Are We Hooked on Rejection?

You don’t need to be a psychologist to note the very harsh effects of a breakup on a person’s mental health. When a relationship ends, humiliation, rage, loneliness, anguish and grief all seem to simultaneously show up at the door, marching in arm-in-arm to parade noisily around our psyche. Evicting these emotions is a matter of healing, reconciling, finding peace within ourselves and somehow moving on.

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Top 10 Self-Help Books About Love

When I became an author, and submersed myself in the world of self-improvement, it became clear which books had useful, innovative advice for women. With that in mind, here are the top ten books I repeatedly recommend to those trying to find healthy relationships and those trying to improve the ones they already have.

Boundaries: From Fear or Love?

Boundaries: From Fear or Love?

We know that one very important aspect of taking loving care of ourselves is to set loving boundaries for ourselves. Whether or not a boundary is loving depends upon which aspect of you is setting the boundary — your ego wounded self or your loving Adult.