Articles by our experts in love, dating, sex and marriage
The missing ingredient you need to create your best relationship

The missing ingredient you need to create your best relationship

Happy spring, everyone!  It still feels chilly, but the sun has been out longer and robins are flying through New York.  Yesterday was technically the first day of spring, so the warmer weather should be here soon. With spring comes rebirth, and the perfect opportunity to spring into greater love and happiness in your relationship. Toward that end, we will be discussing what may be a critical missing element in your relationship

How to Improve Communication Without Saying a Word

How to Improve Communication Without Saying a Word

We have all heard that most of what we say to others is non-verbal.  One UCLA study found that up to 93% of communication is through non-verbal cues.  In fact, our body language gives away how we’re feeling at times when maybe we don’t even cognitively realize it. Your partner is an expert on picking up non-verbal signals from you

Am I Un-Datable?

Am I Un-Datable?

Finally we can feel spring in the air here in NYC – the days are getting longer and the sun is shining brighter.  March is a fantastic month.  Spring also means that love is on the brain for many of us. When love is on the brain, with spring around the corner as a single person, having survived yet another Valentine’s Day alone, you may start to wonder if there is something wrong with you that you are still single.  You may ask whether you are inherently un-datable or not capable of being in a solid romantic relationship with someone.  And you m

Emotional Infidelity: Is It Worse Than A Sexual Affair?
Does your partner text more frequently with his "office wife" than with you?

Emotional Infidelity: Is It Worse Than A Sexual Affair?

Emotional infidelity is more common than you might think. And because it doesn't have to involve sex, some people don't even know they're having an affair — until the damage is done. Don't let that happen to your marriage.

What you need to do in the face of heartache or tragedy

What you need to do in the face of heartache or tragedy

I know, *real uplifting topic* (kidding of course), but important no less.  When life throws you lemons, go ahead and make your lemonade. But…it’s important not to fool yourself.  If you are really struggling or suffering in the face of heartache or tragedy, be honest with yourself.  That means being honest with your partner too.

3 Must-Do Steps to Avoid Fighting with Your Partner on Holidays

3 Must-Do Steps to Avoid Fighting with Your Partner on Holidays

Valentine’s Day has come and gone – hopefully it was enjoyable for you. But I’m writing today in case it wasn’t, with a few steps you need to take in order to make the most of those special, high pressure days on the calendar, when you and your partner are supposed to blissfully get along, whether they are holidays or vacation days. A common complaint of many couples who come into my office is that they constantly fight on vacation or holidays.   Is this a problem for you too?

The Best Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

The Best Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! Today I’m going to be talking about the best V-Day gift that you can give – whether it’s to yourself if you’re single, or to your partner if you have one. heart for v-day That present isn’t chocolates, roses or even diamonds, but it’s the gift of awareness and presence. Let me explain.

Which relationship pattern is yours?

Which relationship pattern is yours?

Couples in trouble often question if maybe they made the wrong decision in committing to their partner.  They wonder if they were never really compatible or whether they will ever be able to have the same style of communication. More likely than not, these couples find themselves at the mercy of destructive patterns in their relationships that spin out of control and pull them apart.  In reality, the problem isn’t the other, but this terrible cycle that has taken over their relationship.

5 Easy Rituals to Keep Your Connection With Your Partner

5 Easy Rituals to Keep Your Connection With Your Partner

So many busy couples wind up in distress and disconnected from each other because everything else is a priority but their relationship. As an NYC psychologist, I often wind up seeing couples who have lost each other in the chaos of the rest of life.  Work, kids, school, even friends – people are weighed down by so many outside factors and “obligations,” and get into trouble when they neglect the importance of their relationships.  This is especially true for professionals during “crunch” times when work and life becomes especi

Should therapists play cupid?

Should therapists play cupid?

A really interesting article was published in the New York Times this week, “Should therapists play cupid?”  Check it out here. Basically, the author, a psychiatrist, discusses his own temptations to set up his patients with each other, or even with other people in his life.  He acknowledges that doing this sort of thing would be the equivalent of entering an ethical minefield, but even so, discusses his fantasies of playing matchmaker.