Today (May 6) is International No Diet Day. Frankly, I think every day should be a 'no-diet' day. The media's obsession with body image has resulted in women hating their bodies. That's why we turned to one of the most beautiful starlets in history, Marilyn Monroe, who embraced her status as a sex symbol. Maybe if she were still alive, women might perceive themselves (and each other) differently today.
Last year, a corporate professional, let me call him Tom, came to me. He looked very tired and unhappy. “Sharmin, I am working long days, late nights, still my manager wants me to do more, have more impact, show more leadership…where is the time…why can’t he see my contribution already! With changes going around all the time it is so hard to get anything done on time. I even wanted to change this job, but in this economy it is so hard to get an interview even!” – Tom gave me a quite a vivid picture of his life. I felt compassionate for him.
The progression of technology, computers and phones make communication a new species in modern relationships. What used to require actual phone calls and advanced notice now happens in the blink of an eye. And this fast pace may hurt your relationships.
May 6th is a very important day and if you didn’t get the memo, it’s International No Diet Day. This is a HUGE DAY in the world for BODY IMAGE. Body image is the way you think about and see your body and yourself. This will have a huge impact on how you act in your personal life, your social life, your work life and your family life.
Since I began pulling out my hair over 20 years ago I do not remember one day that I did not pull at least one hair on my body out. Yes there have been times in which I had no bald spots, had all of my eyelashes, etc...but I still pulled. It was not for lack of trying. There was a time that I saw therapists, tried medication, and would even try to will myself to stop. Yet I kept right on pulling. I have a disorder called trichotillomania.
Knowing how to set appropriate boundaries can make the difference in whether or not your relationship succeeds. The topic frequently comes up in my counseling office, and most people think boundaries are set by telling other people what the limits are. But boundaries are really something you must create within yourself. Having the confidence to say “no” to another is one important aspect of creating boundaries; but it begins by knowing what you do and don’t want. The Tennis Match -- Setting Boundaries and Taking Space
In the immortal words of famed rapper Jay-Z, No matter where you go, you are who you are player! Whether the scandal is going on in your community or within; what happens in the dark will come to light. Mama’s all over the world, including my own, are fond of warning their children to be conscious and aware that anything that they do in private, it could possibly get out to the public. Remember, each thought and action is planting a seed and what you plant now will determine what you will reap later. Stop telling yourself that the drama you create
Sometimes a little 'love pat' is all you need to rev each other up. Who knows? It may inspire some sexy role-playing à la 'Fifty Shades.'
This is a question that women ask all the time: “Why do men commit?” And I always give this analogy in response: A woman’s perfect night is to come home, unwind, talk all about her day, and have her man shake his head, listen, and say, “Yes, honey, I understand totally,” without doing his man thing and try to fix it. Maybe he’ll rub her head a little bit, maybe hold her a little bit, and that’s it. A man’s favorite night is this:
One expert explains that sexy does not have an age limit, and that it is okay to feel sexy and confident, no matter how old you are.