Anyone who has had their heart broken (perhaps, more than once??) knows that what is damaged even more than your pride, what is lost even more than your dreams for the future, what is even harder to get over than the ache of loss, is your ability to trust someone again. If you’re anything like me, learning to trust again is scarier and more difficult than climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro (not that I’ve ever tried that, mind you).
Out there in the big world of dating, every single wants supreme confidence – confidence in themselves, confidence in who they want to attract, confidence in how to act on the first few nerve wracking dates, confidence that they will have fun no matter what, confidence enough to be happy without being in a relationship. How do we get to this point of supreme dating confidence? Well, I’ve put together three essential tips to help you:
I apologize in advance if I offend anyone, but sometimes the truth hurts and I am going to be completely honest here. I, Michelle Smith IAT, CPD have not only been a babysitter and nanny for over 14 years myself, but as the owner of Embracing Babies Staffing Agency I refer babysitters and nannies out to parent clients for my business.
Or how to listen so he'll talk and how to talk so she'll listen. Listening intently to another person may just be the most amazing gift you can offer. I used to work on the 24/7 suicide crisis line in France and we were trained in Carl Rogers non-directive empathetic listening skills. When a call would come in, I would greet the caller with, "Hello, SOS Amitié." And wait for the person to speak up. Sometimes it would take a rather long moment, moments in which hesitations and silences give a lot of information to the intuitive listener.
Everyone is a mixed bag, the kindest person will become irate at times, and the meanest person can be found every now and then throwing some change at a homeless person. Dating, that effervescent mix of loneliness, want, desire and impatience, leads to blurry vision. How do you know when the person who is sharply ordering that second dessert to the slow waitress is mean or just having a bad day?
Dear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional attachment and chemistry. Choose commitments both with the "parent" or judgmental, evaluating, critical thinking method; and the "child" or romantic, turned on, chemistry method.
For many of you, the climate has changed dramatically. You have so many more resources at your fingertips with the online dating, the texting and the sexting. All the things that are acceptable now, were just unheard of when you were dating! Don't get overwhelmed with all that. Start with the basics.
More and more couples are moving in together. Some couples use it as a dress rehearsal for marriage, while others move in together strictly for financial reasons. So how do you know if it's the right decision for you? Our expert weighs in.
On the way home from power yoga, there was a man with a sign, asking for monetary help. Whenever I see someone asking for money, I always give. The giving is not out of sympathy or feeling sorry for the person. I see everyone equally powerful and entitled to their own individual expression. If I come across someone seeking help, that means that that experience is in my consciousness; therefore, it is my creation. Anyway, I always give $1 to $5.
Can you really love an alcoholic? If you read most advice columns it would suggest that love and the alcoholic are two words seldom used in the same sentence. The usual advice is get away from the alcoholic as quickly as possible, run now because it will only cause you pain.